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What IS Happiness?

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In my last Sunday’s article in this column, I wrote about the ‘Happiest Man’ – Tibetan monk Matheiu Ricard. In the early 2000s, researchers at the University of Wisconsin found that Ricard’s brain produced gamma waves — which have been linked to learning, attention and memory — at such pronounced levels that the media named him ‘The world’s happiest man’. He paired happiness with compassion and gave his ideas of what happiness is.

My mind continued on the subject and the concept of happiness, and so I decided to ask people for their definitions, what was the happiest moment for them and other questions. It was not curiosity but a genuine interest in this all important behavioral state of being, however short lived or long. Everyone wants to be happy, even animals and perhaps plants too who will be unhappy in most of Sri Lanka at this time of drought.

Definition

Last Sunday I declined to define the term, concept or emotion – happiness. I shy away from giving a definition but say happiness is equivalent to contentment. If you are satisfied with the moment and you feel contentment, then that is happiness.

The happiest moment of my long life was when my first child was born. In those days we had no training for childbirth, no breathing exercises et al. I had a difficult time and while heaving in pain around 6.00 in the evening when a change of all nursing staff takes place, I was left with two scared young trainee nurses in the nursing home very close to the Dalada Maligawa in Kandy.

An event at the Maligawa meant all roads were temporarily closed. I wondered whether Dr Mendis would arrive at all. He did and a competent nursing sister was at hand. Pain and worry disappeared with the first cry of the baby. I was overwhelmed with joy, satisfaction and gratitude to the doctor and all others, my family included, who had seen me through the day, now no longer an ordeal. I hardly slept that night, so happy was I seeing and hearing the little mite in a cot close by, starved for twelve hours, but making soft baby sounds.

Mrs B, the first elected prime minister of the world was at the Maligawa to pay homage to the Sacred Relic and so roads were closed and all that. I wondered whether Dr Mendis would arrive at all. I was wheel chaired to the delivery room, the two scared nurses pleading with me not to push, and then appeared the doctor – a god to me. A competent nursing sister too was present and my child was safely delivered.

Pain and worry disappeared with his first cry as I saw Dr Mendis hold him upside down. Doctor patted me and said he’d noted the time of birth. When the baby was bathed and dressed in a shirt I had lovingly stitched, and placed close by my side, I was overwhelmed with joy, satisfaction and gratitude to the doctor and all others, my family included, who had seen me through the day, now no longer an ordeal. I hardly slept that night, so happy was I seeing and hearing the little mite in a cot close by, starved for twelve hours, but making soft baby sounds.

This baby, now a grown man having children of his own, dares to give me a dig and defines happiness as the satisfaction one gets when others are made to write one’s Sunday Island column!!

Other aspects of happiness

What makes for happiness in one’s life? With age and experience I have decided one can never rely on others to create happiness for oneself. They may be contributory in either making you happy or unhappy, but it is you yourself who finally is the arbiter and maker of your happiness or unhappiness. This fact is so clearly stated in the Buddha Dhamma: “Be a refuge unto yourself” – rely on yourself for your own deliverance from Samsara but also for your happiness and well being.

Have I succeeded in making myself happy? No, not most of the time because my nature is such that I fear happenings, still carry regrets that no longer corrode me but are present, and frankly am rather quirky.

When am I happy? I was very happy being by myself, but no longer. I want people around. I am very happy and buoyant when with family and friends. I know people who are happiest when meditating, since they easily settle down to being completely within themselves and one pointed in meditation. I have experienced such too.

Giving, sharing, being good to people makes for happiness. I suppose this is why Monk Ricard always pairs happiness with compassion. If one is completely with metta (loving kindness to all); karuna (compassion, empathy); muditha (joy in others’ wellbeing); and upekka (equanimity), one is assured of happiness. If you have the last quality in your behavior or persona and inbuilt in your nature, you are through – you will always be happy since satisfaction and being unshaken by circumstances and inner uncertainties s assured.

What makes for happiness? I take here the personal aspect. Not riches, a luxurious life, status et al. Not one bit. To me happiness is derived mostly from the fact my children and their family members are good people in every sense of the word. Their happiness in life gives me lasting happiness.

Others’ ideas

I feel compelled and obliged to give verbatim the answers of a beautiful woman of 60.

Q : What is your idea/definition of the concept – happiness?

A: Trying to define Happiness is like trying to describe the shape of a cloud. Happiness is believed to have something to do with the mental filters that we look at life through. Psychologists point out to the workings of our brain, where our disposition to being happy is governed by which side of the brain we are predisposed to favour. The Buddha says, “Our life is a creation of our mind”. Consequently, for some, happiness could be found in the pursuit of fame, money or beauty, while for others it’s found in more spiritual pursuits of sharing and caring.

Q: What do you think goes to make happiness and to sustain it?

A:Happiness is a short lived state of being. A piece of music, a nature walk, time spent with a toddler, winning the lottery, finding something that went missing could all contribute to being happy. To sustain being happy would require a moving to a higher state such as joy and bliss. And this requires working on one’s mind.

Q: What was your happiest moment?

A : Selecting one moment is not easy to do. We all have a myriad “happiest” moments. Holding my newborn was a supremely happy moment. Looking back on my childhood, feels like it was one of the happiest times in my life. But, that is also because the mind edits out the not so savory bits of growing up, but aggregates the majority of it as being idyllic.

Q: What was the happiest period in your life?

A : I hope with wisdom of age and experiences of life, the happiest period is what lies ahead.

Q: What do you do or intend to do to be happy and live happily?

A: Live each day knowing I tried to be the best version of myself. Be kind and forgiving to myself, be understanding of others, be loving and compassionate to those who differ from me. In short, the Golden Rule or the Eightfold Path are ancient wisdoms that serve well to finding happiness.

A very steadfast man in his sixties defined happiness thus: “If equanimity is the desired baseline of living, I consider ‘happiness’ to be any emotion/feeling that rises above that baseline. Conversely ‘unhappiness’ is any feeling/emotion that is below the baseline of the desired equanimity. I consider ‘equanimity’ to be a neutral state of detachment, so in terms of life, I strive for contentment which is, in my view, more positive and joyful than pure equanimity, despite all the potential suffering that it may entail.”

About sustaining happiness, he very sensibly said that by its very nature it cannot be sustained because it is an elevation from the norm. “So, to try to sustain happiness is foolish. Contentment is more sustainable, but that too is ephemeral, but less fluctuation-prone.”

He replied the question on his happiest moment by saying “Unanswerable because happiness is so fleeting it really doesn’t register in perpetuity; because if it did, the rest of your life by definition should be less happy, and that is not something I want to focus on.” The happiest period of his life is his future – “the minutes, hours, days and years yet to come,” he optimistically said. His intention to be happy and live happily is to be content.

A younger man was cryptic in his answers supplying two sentences to my many questions. “I think you are better off asking the monks you converse with for their thoughts on happiness. Will be more informative than getting lay people’s opinions. (I disagree here. People like to know what other like persons think and feel). His second observation was: “Somewhat facetiously I can say my concept of happiness is being not answerable to anyone, being able to do exactly as I please without being tied down.” Happily unmarried he is!



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Cricket and the National Interest

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The appointment of former minister Eran Wickremaratne to chair the Sri Lanka Cricket Transformation Committee is significant for more than the future of cricket. It signals a possible shift in the culture of governance even as it offers Sri Lankan cricket a fighting possibility to get out of the doldrums of failure. There have been glorious patches for the national cricket team since the epochal 1996 World Cup triumph. But these patches of brightness have been few and far between and virtually non-existent over the past decade. At the centre of this disaster has been the failures of governance within Sri Lanka Cricket which are not unlike the larger failures of governance within the country itself. The appointment of a new reform oriented committee therefore carries significance beyond cricket. It reflects the wider challenge facing the country which is to restore trust in public institutions for better management.

The appointment of Eran Wickremaratne brings a professional administrator with a proven track record into the cricket arena. He has several strengths that many of his immediate predecessors lacked. Before the ascent of the present government leadership to positions of power, Eran Wickremaratne was among the handful of government ministers who did not have allegations of corruption attached to their names. His reputation for financial professionalism and integrity has remained intact over many years in public life. With him in the Cricket Transformation Committee are also respected former cricketers Kumar Sangakkara, Roshan Mahanama and Sidath Wettimuny together with professionals from legal and business backgrounds. They have been tasked with introducing structural reforms and improving transparency and accountability within cricket administration.

A second reason for this appointment to be significant is that this is possibly the first occasion on which the NPP government has reached out to someone associated with the opposition to obtain assistance in an area of national importance. The commitment to bipartisanship has been a constant demand from politically non-partisan civic groups and political analysts. They have voiced the opinion that the government needs to be more inclusive in its choice of appointments to decision making authorities. The NPP government’s practice so far has largely been to limit appointments to those within the ruling party or those considered loyalists even at the cost of proven expertise. The government’s decision in this case therefore marks a potentially important departure.

National Interest

There are areas of public life where national interest should transcend party divisions and cricket, beloved of the people, is one of them. Sri Lanka cannot afford to continue treating every institution as an arena for political competition when institutions themselves are in crisis and public confidence has become fragile. It is therefore unfortunate that when the government has moved positively in the direction of drawing on expertise from outside its own ranks there should be a negative response from sections of the opposition. This is indicative of the absence of a culture of bipartisanship even on issues that concern the national interest. The SJB, of which the newly appointed cricket committee chairman was a member objected on the grounds that politicians should not hold positions in sports administration and asked him to resign from the party. There is a need to recognise the distinction between partisan political control and the temporary use of experienced administrators to carry out reform and institutional restructuring. In other countries those in politics often join academia and civil society on a temporary basis and vice versa.

More disturbing has been the insidious campaign carried out against the new cricket committee and its chairman on the grounds of religious affiliation. This is an unacceptable denial of the reality that Sri Lanka is a plural, multi ethnic and multi religious society. The interim committee reflects this diversity to a reasonable extent. The country’s long history of ethnic conflict should have taught all political actors the dangers of mobilising communal prejudice for short term political gain. Sri Lanka paid a very heavy price for decades of mistrust and division. It would be tragic if even cricket administration became another arena for communal suspicion and hostility. The present government represents an important departure from the sectarian rhetoric that was employed by previous governments. They have repeatedly pledged to protect the equal rights of all citizens and not permit discrimination or extremism in any form.

The recent international peace march in Sri Lanka led by the Venerable Bhikkhu Thich Paññākāra from Vietnam with its message of loving kindness and mindfulness to all resonated strongly with the masses of people as seen by the crowds who thronged the roadsides to obtain blessings and show respect. This message stands in contrast to the sectarian resentment manifested by those who seek to use the cricket appointments as a weapon to attack the government at the present time. The challenges before the Sri Lanka Cricket Transformation Committee parallel the larger challenges before the government in developing the national economy and respecting ethnic and religious diversity. Plugging the leaks and restoring systems will take time and effort. It cannot be done overnight and it cannot succeed without public patience and support.

New Recognition

There is also a need for realism. The appointment of Eran Wickremaratne and the new committee does not guarantee success. Reforming deeply flawed institutions is always difficult. Besides, Sri Lanka is a small country with a relatively small population compared to many other cricket playing nations. It is also a country still recovering from the economic breakdown of 2022 which pushed the majority of people into hardship and severely weakened public institutions. The country continues to face unprecedented challenges including the damage caused by Cyclone Ditwah and the wider global economic uncertainties linked to conflict in the Middle East. Under these difficult circumstances Sri Lanka has fewer resources than many larger countries to devote to both cricket and economic development.

When resources are scarce they cannot be wasted through corruption or incompetence. Drawing upon the strengths of all those who are competent for the tasks at hand regardless of party affiliation or ethnic or religious identity is necessary if improvement is to come sooner rather than later. The burden of rebuilding the country cannot rest only on the government. The crisis facing the country is too deep for any single party or government to solve alone. National recovery requires capable individuals from across society and from different sectors such as business and civil society to work together in areas where the national interest transcends party politics. There is also a responsibility on opposition political parties to support initiatives that are politically neutral and genuinely in the national interest. Not every issue needs to become a partisan battle.

Sri Lanka cricket occupies a special place in the national consciousness. At its best it once united the country and gave Sri Lankans a sense of pride and international recognition. Restoring integrity and professionalism to cricket administration can therefore become part of the larger task of national renewal. The appointment of Eran Wickremaratne and the new committee, while it does not guarantee success, is a sign that the political leadership and people of the country may be beginning to mature in their approach to governance. In recognising the need for competence, integrity and bipartisan cooperation and extending it beyond cricket into other areas of national life, Sri Lanka may find the way towards more stable and successful governance..

by Jehan Perera

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From Dhaka to Sri Lanka, three wheels that drive our economies

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Court vacation this year came with an unexpected lesson, not from a courtroom but from the streets of Dhaka — a city that moves, quite literally, on three wheels.

Above the traffic, a modern metro line glides past concrete pillars and crowded rooftops. It is efficient, clean and frequently cited as a symbol of progress in Bangladesh. For a visitor from Sri Lanka, it inevitably brings to mind our own abandoned light rail plans — a project debated, politicised and ultimately set aside.

But Dhaka’s real story is not in the air. It is on the ground.

Beneath the elevated tracks, the streets belong to three-wheelers. Known locally as CNGs, they cluster at junctions, line the edges of markets and pour into narrow roads that larger vehicles avoid. Even with a functioning rail system, these three-wheelers remain the city’s most dependable form of everyday transport.

Within hours of arriving, their importance becomes obvious. The train may take you across the city, but the journey does not end there. The last mile — often the most complicated part — belongs entirely to the three-wheeler. It is the vehicle that gets you home, to a meeting or simply through streets that no bus route properly serves.

There is a rhythm to using them. A destination is mentioned, a price is suggested and a brief negotiation follows. Then the ride begins, edging into traffic that feels permanently compressed. Drivers move with instinct, adjusting routes and squeezing through gaps with a confidence built over years.

It is not polished. But it works.

And that is where the comparison with Sri Lanka becomes less about what we lack and more about what we already have.

Back home, the three-wheeler has long been part of daily life — so familiar that it is often discussed only in terms of its problems. There are frequent complaints about fares, refusals or the absence of meters. More recently, the industry itself has become entangled in politics — from fuel subsidies to regulatory debates, from election-time promises to periodic crackdowns.

In that process, the conversation has shifted. The three-wheeler is often treated as a problem to be managed, rather than a service to be strengthened.

Yet, seen through the experience of Dhaka, Sri Lanka’s system begins to look far more settled — and, in many ways, ahead.

There is a growing structure in place. Meters, while not perfect, are widely recognised. Ride-hailing apps have added transparency and reduced uncertainty for passengers. There are clearer expectations on both sides — driver and commuter alike. Even small details, such as designated parking areas in parts of Colombo or the increasing standard of vehicles, point to an industry slowly moving towards professionalism.

Just as importantly, there is a human element that remains intact.

In Sri Lanka, a three-wheeler ride is rarely just a transaction. Drivers talk. They offer directions, comment on the day’s news, or share local knowledge. The ride becomes part of the social fabric, not just a means of getting from one point to another.

In Dhaka, the scale of the city leaves less room for that. The interaction is quicker, more direct, shaped by urgency. The service is essential, but it is under constant pressure.

What stands out, across both countries, is that the three-wheeler is not a temporary or outdated mode of transport. It is a necessity in dense, fast-growing Asian cities — one that fills gaps no rail or bus system can fully address.

Large infrastructure projects, like light rail, are important. They bring efficiency and long-term capacity. But they cannot replace the flexibility of a three-wheeler. They cannot reach into narrow streets, respond instantly to demand or provide that crucial last-mile connection.

That is why, even in a city that has invested heavily in modern rail, Dhaka still runs on three wheels.

For Sri Lanka, the lesson is not simply about what could have been built, but about what should be better managed and valued.

The three-wheeler industry does not need to be politicised at every turn. It needs steady regulation — clear fare systems, proper licensing, safety standards — alongside encouragement and recognition. It needs to be seen as part of the solution to urban transport, not as a side issue.

Because for thousands of drivers, it is a livelihood. And for millions of passengers, it is the most immediate and reliable form of mobility.

The tuk-tuk may not feature in grand policy speeches or infrastructure blueprints. It does not run on elevated tracks or attract international attention. But on the ground, where daily life unfolds, it continues to do what larger systems often struggle to do — show up, adapt and keep moving.

And after watching Dhaka’s streets — crowded, relentless, yet functioning — that small, three-wheeled vehicle feels less like something to argue over and more like something to get right.

(The writer is an Attorney-at-Law with over a decade of experience specialising in civil law, a former Board Member of the Office of Missing Persons and a former Legal Director of the Central Cultural Fund. He holds an LLM in International Business Law)

 

by Sampath Perera recently in Dhaka, Bangladesh 

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Dubai scene … opening up

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Seven Notes: Operating in Dubai

According to reports coming my way, the entertainment scene, in Dubai, is very much opening up, and buzzing again!

After a quieter few months, May is packed with entertainment and the whole scene, they say, is shifting back into full swing.

The Seven Notes band, made up of Sri Lankans, based in Dubai, are back in the spotlight, after a short hiatus, due to the ongoing Middle East problems.

On 18th April they did Legends Night at Mercure Hotel Dubai Barsha Heights; on Thursday, 9th May, they will be at the Sports Bar of the Mercure Hotel for 70s/80s Retro Night; on 6th June, they will be at Al Jadaf Dubai to provide the music for Sandun Perera live in concert … and with more dates to follow.

These events are expected to showcase the band’s evolving sound, tighter stage coordination, and stronger audience engagement.

With each performance, the band aims to refine its identity and build a loyal following within Dubai’s vibrant nightlife and event scene.

Pasindu Umayanga: The group’s new vocalist

What makes Seven Notes standout is their versatility which has made the band a dynamic and promising act.

With a growing performance calendar, new talent integration, and international ambitions, the band is definitely entering a defining phase of its journey.

Dubai’s music industry, I’m told, thrives on diversity, energy, and audience connection, with live bands playing a crucial role in elevating events—from corporate shows to private concerts. Against this backdrop, Seven Notes is positioning itself not just as another band, but as a performance-driven musical unit focused on consistency and growth.

Adding fresh momentum to the group is Pasindu Umayanga who joins Seven Notes as their new vocalist. This move signals a strategic upgrade—not just filling a role, but strengthening the band’s front-line presence.

Looking beyond local stages, Seven Notes is preparing for an international tour, to Korea, in July.

Bassist Niluk Uswaththa: Spokesperson for Seven Notes

According to bassist Niluk Uswaththa, taking a band abroad means: Your sound must hold up against unfamiliar audiences, your performance must translate beyond language, and your discipline must be at a professional level.

“If executed well, this tour could redefine Seven Notes from a local band into an emerging international act,” added Niluk.

He went on to say that Dubai is not an easy market. It’s saturated with highly experienced, multi-genre bands that can adapt instantly to any crowd.

“To stand out consistently you need to have tight rehearsal discipline, unique sound identity (not just covers), strong stage chemistry, audience retention – not just applause.”

No doubt, Seven Notes is entering a critical growth phase—new member, multiple shows, and an international tour on the horizon. The opportunity is real, but so is the pressure.

However, there is talk that Seven Notes will soon be a recognised name in the regional music scene.

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