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Opposite to Happiness: depression, despair, frustration
She phones me – this young girl, my ‘talkmate’ who I speak to on the telephone to improve her spoken English – to tell me it is her birthday. I chirp birthday greetings and make it plain I am happy to chat on her celebratory day. With no attempt to camouflage her low spirits she says: “I am thirty and I have no hope at all of getting married; of having no problems, of getting a teaching post, of my family being even fairly well off. No future to look forward to.”
All this so true. She entered Peradeniya University after her first attempt at the AL exam and followed an arts course. No employment for a couple of years until she got a low ranking government job. Her monthly salary cannot be much, but with that she bears most of the family expenses of an accident injured father, rubber tapper mother and four younger siblings.
She lives with her grandparents, both disabled. She has a friend who wants to marry her, but she cannot forsake her family even to the extent of moving to live with him. Is it any wonder she was distressed and felt hopeless turning 30?
Replication of her story and her life’s path is widespread in this country of ours, common to both genders. Young men however have more avenues open to them to dissipate their desperation and in many families are cosseted by female members: mothers working on estates and sisters slaving in garment factories, for example. Thus the burden of economic instability and unproductive, poverty encouraging policies of governments have fallen squarely on the underprivileged women of the land.
Bad over here
I have no statistics at hand but surmise from conversations had with many mothers, a father and young girls in their late teens or young adults who seem to cope. But maybe they suffer desperation and a losing of faith and hope for the future, keeping it hidden to spare their families the extra burden of having a daughter teetering between wellness and desperation.
The father I spoke with – a driver – has three children: one with a degree and working in a very prestigious firm; the son in his final year – statistics and electronics; and the youngest just past her OLs who started work recently in a restaurant; her target being the hospitality trade. They had their secondary and senior secondary education in the English medium, though Sinhala, because the two girls were in a convent and the boy in an international school. They are well adjusted but have friends who show positive signs of depression and severe frustration.
Well-to-do young ones and those proficient in English are employed or proceeding with higher studies and able to cope with the pressures that are the lot of most Sri Lankans. The less privileged particularly, are adversely affected by high costs and economic travails. Over-anxious, even nagging mothers and excessive competition are other negatives that assail teens and young adults. Worst of all is that the education system has let down Sri Lankan students by not preparing them for alternatives to university entrance – very narrow and restrictive. Late marriages are the order of the day by personal choice or forced on them. The elites choose being single, enjoying greater independence.
Suicides occur among the young but much less than in former years. Young ones contain their frustration to manageable levels mostly because of the strong family system that prevails in our country. The support of the extended family is strong.
I chose this topic which is diametrically opposite to my two previous articles in this column which were on happiness, since depression and the unhappiness of frustration come inevitably to mind when happiness is mentioned. Black and white, good and bad and such like pairs float around together. An added reason for writing about depression is an article from the NYT by a much admired writer/columnist – Maureen Dowd, 1999 Pulitzer Prize winner.
Western countries
Maureen Dowd starts her article thus: “It was ‘the summer of girl power’, a tour de force by a glittering troika; pink dream houses, songs and sequins, Barbie, Taylor Swift and Beyonce buoyed the economy and sent women’s confidence soaring. So I felt sad talking to friends dropping daughters at college, to hear of rampant anxiety, campuses awash in SSRIs – serotin boosters found in drugs like Prozac and Lexapro – and long waits for therapy.” Mercifully, except for the very rich and sophisticated, therapy for teenagers is unheard of over here. Drugs are peddled in and around schools and many parents are not only wary but scared stiff with doubts about their children succumbing. However, I am sure the roaring drug trade has not ensnared too many youngsters. The govt has failed to clamp down effectively on drug devils.
Dowd continues: “Many young college women are ping-ponging between anxiety, without pills, and numbness and body insecurity. These young women seem to have everything, yet they are unable to fully enjoy a stretch of their life that should be sizzling with adventure and promise.” All the women I spoke to about happiness for my previous article, said their happiest days were school days and when in their teens. I agree. Does this hold for the present junior generation of teens and young adults?
Adolescent despair has been copiously analyzed in recent years, Dowd says, and identified as contributory and harming are social media; ‘microtargetting algorithms’ that inflame envy and conflict and divisive politics; unending school shootings; Covid sequestration; a planet devoured by flames and floods; never enough achievement and consumer culture; anxious parents and doting grandparents creating tension; “a digitally connected yet emotionally disjointed and spiritually unmoored society.”
These conditions are prevalent in this country too and parental over anxiety and competitiveness are very present and very injurious to school goers and even university graduands. Our children don’t usually rebel, unlike in the west where often parents are scared of their own kids. It is a moot point and advantageous that in our country most people profess a religion and children in the majority are at ease with being religious.
Buddhist clergy stress meditation and, following the initiative of Most Ven Uda Eriyagama Dhammajeeva Maha Thera, sathi practice (mindfulness meditation) is included in school curriculums or are extra-curricula. Religion is a firm mooring to the elderly. Many young ones too observe sil or give service at temples and meditation centres to cater to those in sil on poya days.
Covid and segregation impacted on all of us and the resultant anxiety had a lasting detrimental effect. Then stormed in effects of climate change. Continuous news telecasts and paper headlines bother us. Political news is also very disturbing. I for one have given up watching TV news in the late evening. I catch up when MTV repeats its night news the next morning at 6.30. Why? Because my sleep was horribly disturbed by parliamentary debates, politician’s pontification and protest marches. Nightmares intruded.
The Wall Street journal ran a front–page story on “The Booming Business of American Anxiety”. To quote: “A search for anxiety relief on Google pulls up links for supplements in the form of pills, patches, gummies and mouth sprays. There are vibrating devices that hang around your neck and tone your vagus nerve, bead filled stress balls that claim to bring calm.”
Mercifully we as a nation are so much more social. We speak with friends and share our fears. We are not loath to bare our fears, even neuroses. We have solid, comforting solace givers and spaces. Hence not much pill swallowing or therapy sessions. Additionally, being citizens of a poor, developing country, we have to contend with more national stresses and pressure, thus decimating the time available for wallowing in self-pity.
Women, proven from experience, get hit harder because they are more closely connected to emotions, but less affected because of relationships, nurturing natures and fraternities.
Post script
I feel I must give here what two of my friends said in reply to my questions about happiness. I list their answers under numbers 1 & 2.
Definition
: 1. Happiness is a choice: you choose to be happy or sink into negativity. Contentment is happiness. It is a sense of joy and relaxation of mind and body arising from the absence of negative emotions like jealousy, hatred, ill will.
2. There are degrees of happiness: ecstasy to contentment.
What makes for happiness?
1.True Love! To Love and to be Loved is the greatest… Love sustains Happiness.
To hold the hand of a loved one while watching a glowing sunset at December in the South, in my Motherland.
2. Happiness is a state arising from the combination of love, compassion and empathy. Happiness is a subjective emotion. What makes me happy may not make another happy.
What was your happiest moment?
1. When I was able to sell my property and have sufficient finances to share with, and care for many people in need. Some of the left over dribbles, I still love to be able to give away and lift up another … and see the smiles on some wilted faces. (She got built forty houses for the poor).
2. Motherhood – giving birth to my children brought me the greatest joy. My whole being was infused with a deep love that seemed to transcend everything else I have experienced before.
What would you like to do/happen to sustain happiness?
1. I would love to give away everything if I can….and be a silent cornerstone or support system, to unobtrusively help to lift our Nation, our magical Motherland, out of the doldrums of corruption and disunity, and help build a New Society of Peace, Contentment, Equality, and Joy. Impossible dream, some would say, but surely, I can have dreams, magical thoughts of Happiness for All, that will create Happiness for me.
2. I am happiest when I make others happy. If I can bring a smile to a person who is troubled, lonely or insecure, I am truly happy. So it is giving.
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Cricket and the National Interest
The appointment of former minister Eran Wickremaratne to chair the Sri Lanka Cricket Transformation Committee is significant for more than the future of cricket. It signals a possible shift in the culture of governance even as it offers Sri Lankan cricket a fighting possibility to get out of the doldrums of failure. There have been glorious patches for the national cricket team since the epochal 1996 World Cup triumph. But these patches of brightness have been few and far between and virtually non-existent over the past decade. At the centre of this disaster has been the failures of governance within Sri Lanka Cricket which are not unlike the larger failures of governance within the country itself. The appointment of a new reform oriented committee therefore carries significance beyond cricket. It reflects the wider challenge facing the country which is to restore trust in public institutions for better management.
The appointment of Eran Wickremaratne brings a professional administrator with a proven track record into the cricket arena. He has several strengths that many of his immediate predecessors lacked. Before the ascent of the present government leadership to positions of power, Eran Wickremaratne was among the handful of government ministers who did not have allegations of corruption attached to their names. His reputation for financial professionalism and integrity has remained intact over many years in public life. With him in the Cricket Transformation Committee are also respected former cricketers Kumar Sangakkara, Roshan Mahanama and Sidath Wettimuny together with professionals from legal and business backgrounds. They have been tasked with introducing structural reforms and improving transparency and accountability within cricket administration.
A second reason for this appointment to be significant is that this is possibly the first occasion on which the NPP government has reached out to someone associated with the opposition to obtain assistance in an area of national importance. The commitment to bipartisanship has been a constant demand from politically non-partisan civic groups and political analysts. They have voiced the opinion that the government needs to be more inclusive in its choice of appointments to decision making authorities. The NPP government’s practice so far has largely been to limit appointments to those within the ruling party or those considered loyalists even at the cost of proven expertise. The government’s decision in this case therefore marks a potentially important departure.
National Interest
There are areas of public life where national interest should transcend party divisions and cricket, beloved of the people, is one of them. Sri Lanka cannot afford to continue treating every institution as an arena for political competition when institutions themselves are in crisis and public confidence has become fragile. It is therefore unfortunate that when the government has moved positively in the direction of drawing on expertise from outside its own ranks there should be a negative response from sections of the opposition. This is indicative of the absence of a culture of bipartisanship even on issues that concern the national interest. The SJB, of which the newly appointed cricket committee chairman was a member objected on the grounds that politicians should not hold positions in sports administration and asked him to resign from the party. There is a need to recognise the distinction between partisan political control and the temporary use of experienced administrators to carry out reform and institutional restructuring. In other countries those in politics often join academia and civil society on a temporary basis and vice versa.
More disturbing has been the insidious campaign carried out against the new cricket committee and its chairman on the grounds of religious affiliation. This is an unacceptable denial of the reality that Sri Lanka is a plural, multi ethnic and multi religious society. The interim committee reflects this diversity to a reasonable extent. The country’s long history of ethnic conflict should have taught all political actors the dangers of mobilising communal prejudice for short term political gain. Sri Lanka paid a very heavy price for decades of mistrust and division. It would be tragic if even cricket administration became another arena for communal suspicion and hostility. The present government represents an important departure from the sectarian rhetoric that was employed by previous governments. They have repeatedly pledged to protect the equal rights of all citizens and not permit discrimination or extremism in any form.
The recent international peace march in Sri Lanka led by the Venerable Bhikkhu Thich Paññākāra from Vietnam with its message of loving kindness and mindfulness to all resonated strongly with the masses of people as seen by the crowds who thronged the roadsides to obtain blessings and show respect. This message stands in contrast to the sectarian resentment manifested by those who seek to use the cricket appointments as a weapon to attack the government at the present time. The challenges before the Sri Lanka Cricket Transformation Committee parallel the larger challenges before the government in developing the national economy and respecting ethnic and religious diversity. Plugging the leaks and restoring systems will take time and effort. It cannot be done overnight and it cannot succeed without public patience and support.
New Recognition
There is also a need for realism. The appointment of Eran Wickremaratne and the new committee does not guarantee success. Reforming deeply flawed institutions is always difficult. Besides, Sri Lanka is a small country with a relatively small population compared to many other cricket playing nations. It is also a country still recovering from the economic breakdown of 2022 which pushed the majority of people into hardship and severely weakened public institutions. The country continues to face unprecedented challenges including the damage caused by Cyclone Ditwah and the wider global economic uncertainties linked to conflict in the Middle East. Under these difficult circumstances Sri Lanka has fewer resources than many larger countries to devote to both cricket and economic development.
When resources are scarce they cannot be wasted through corruption or incompetence. Drawing upon the strengths of all those who are competent for the tasks at hand regardless of party affiliation or ethnic or religious identity is necessary if improvement is to come sooner rather than later. The burden of rebuilding the country cannot rest only on the government. The crisis facing the country is too deep for any single party or government to solve alone. National recovery requires capable individuals from across society and from different sectors such as business and civil society to work together in areas where the national interest transcends party politics. There is also a responsibility on opposition political parties to support initiatives that are politically neutral and genuinely in the national interest. Not every issue needs to become a partisan battle.
Sri Lanka cricket occupies a special place in the national consciousness. At its best it once united the country and gave Sri Lankans a sense of pride and international recognition. Restoring integrity and professionalism to cricket administration can therefore become part of the larger task of national renewal. The appointment of Eran Wickremaratne and the new committee, while it does not guarantee success, is a sign that the political leadership and people of the country may be beginning to mature in their approach to governance. In recognising the need for competence, integrity and bipartisan cooperation and extending it beyond cricket into other areas of national life, Sri Lanka may find the way towards more stable and successful governance..
by Jehan Perera
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From Dhaka to Sri Lanka, three wheels that drive our economies
Court vacation this year came with an unexpected lesson, not from a courtroom but from the streets of Dhaka — a city that moves, quite literally, on three wheels.
Above the traffic, a modern metro line glides past concrete pillars and crowded rooftops. It is efficient, clean and frequently cited as a symbol of progress in Bangladesh. For a visitor from Sri Lanka, it inevitably brings to mind our own abandoned light rail plans — a project debated, politicised and ultimately set aside.
But Dhaka’s real story is not in the air. It is on the ground.
Beneath the elevated tracks, the streets belong to three-wheelers. Known locally as CNGs, they cluster at junctions, line the edges of markets and pour into narrow roads that larger vehicles avoid. Even with a functioning rail system, these three-wheelers remain the city’s most dependable form of everyday transport.
Within hours of arriving, their importance becomes obvious. The train may take you across the city, but the journey does not end there. The last mile — often the most complicated part — belongs entirely to the three-wheeler. It is the vehicle that gets you home, to a meeting or simply through streets that no bus route properly serves.
There is a rhythm to using them. A destination is mentioned, a price is suggested and a brief negotiation follows. Then the ride begins, edging into traffic that feels permanently compressed. Drivers move with instinct, adjusting routes and squeezing through gaps with a confidence built over years.
It is not polished. But it works.
And that is where the comparison with Sri Lanka becomes less about what we lack and more about what we already have.
Back home, the three-wheeler has long been part of daily life — so familiar that it is often discussed only in terms of its problems. There are frequent complaints about fares, refusals or the absence of meters. More recently, the industry itself has become entangled in politics — from fuel subsidies to regulatory debates, from election-time promises to periodic crackdowns.
In that process, the conversation has shifted. The three-wheeler is often treated as a problem to be managed, rather than a service to be strengthened.
Yet, seen through the experience of Dhaka, Sri Lanka’s system begins to look far more settled — and, in many ways, ahead.
There is a growing structure in place. Meters, while not perfect, are widely recognised. Ride-hailing apps have added transparency and reduced uncertainty for passengers. There are clearer expectations on both sides — driver and commuter alike. Even small details, such as designated parking areas in parts of Colombo or the increasing standard of vehicles, point to an industry slowly moving towards professionalism.
Just as importantly, there is a human element that remains intact.
In Sri Lanka, a three-wheeler ride is rarely just a transaction. Drivers talk. They offer directions, comment on the day’s news, or share local knowledge. The ride becomes part of the social fabric, not just a means of getting from one point to another.
In Dhaka, the scale of the city leaves less room for that. The interaction is quicker, more direct, shaped by urgency. The service is essential, but it is under constant pressure.
What stands out, across both countries, is that the three-wheeler is not a temporary or outdated mode of transport. It is a necessity in dense, fast-growing Asian cities — one that fills gaps no rail or bus system can fully address.
Large infrastructure projects, like light rail, are important. They bring efficiency and long-term capacity. But they cannot replace the flexibility of a three-wheeler. They cannot reach into narrow streets, respond instantly to demand or provide that crucial last-mile connection.
That is why, even in a city that has invested heavily in modern rail, Dhaka still runs on three wheels.
For Sri Lanka, the lesson is not simply about what could have been built, but about what should be better managed and valued.
The three-wheeler industry does not need to be politicised at every turn. It needs steady regulation — clear fare systems, proper licensing, safety standards — alongside encouragement and recognition. It needs to be seen as part of the solution to urban transport, not as a side issue.
Because for thousands of drivers, it is a livelihood. And for millions of passengers, it is the most immediate and reliable form of mobility.
The tuk-tuk may not feature in grand policy speeches or infrastructure blueprints. It does not run on elevated tracks or attract international attention. But on the ground, where daily life unfolds, it continues to do what larger systems often struggle to do — show up, adapt and keep moving.
And after watching Dhaka’s streets — crowded, relentless, yet functioning — that small, three-wheeled vehicle feels less like something to argue over and more like something to get right.
(The writer is an Attorney-at-Law with over a decade of experience specialising in civil law, a former Board Member of the Office of Missing Persons and a former Legal Director of the Central Cultural Fund. He holds an LLM in International Business Law)
by Sampath Perera recently in Dhaka, Bangladesh
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Dubai scene … opening up
According to reports coming my way, the entertainment scene, in Dubai, is very much opening up, and buzzing again!
After a quieter few months, May is packed with entertainment and the whole scene, they say, is shifting back into full swing.
The Seven Notes band, made up of Sri Lankans, based in Dubai, are back in the spotlight, after a short hiatus, due to the ongoing Middle East problems.
On 18th April they did Legends Night at Mercure Hotel Dubai Barsha Heights; on Thursday, 9th May, they will be at the Sports Bar of the Mercure Hotel for 70s/80s Retro Night; on 6th June, they will be at Al Jadaf Dubai to provide the music for Sandun Perera live in concert … and with more dates to follow.
These events are expected to showcase the band’s evolving sound, tighter stage coordination, and stronger audience engagement.
With each performance, the band aims to refine its identity and build a loyal following within Dubai’s vibrant nightlife and event scene.

Pasindu Umayanga: The group’s new vocalist
What makes Seven Notes standout is their versatility which has made the band a dynamic and promising act.
With a growing performance calendar, new talent integration, and international ambitions, the band is definitely entering a defining phase of its journey.
Dubai’s music industry, I’m told, thrives on diversity, energy, and audience connection, with live bands playing a crucial role in elevating events—from corporate shows to private concerts. Against this backdrop, Seven Notes is positioning itself not just as another band, but as a performance-driven musical unit focused on consistency and growth.
Adding fresh momentum to the group is Pasindu Umayanga who joins Seven Notes as their new vocalist. This move signals a strategic upgrade—not just filling a role, but strengthening the band’s front-line presence.
Looking beyond local stages, Seven Notes is preparing for an international tour, to Korea, in July.

Bassist Niluk Uswaththa: Spokesperson for Seven Notes
According to bassist Niluk Uswaththa, taking a band abroad means: Your sound must hold up against unfamiliar audiences, your performance must translate beyond language, and your discipline must be at a professional level.
“If executed well, this tour could redefine Seven Notes from a local band into an emerging international act,” added Niluk.
He went on to say that Dubai is not an easy market. It’s saturated with highly experienced, multi-genre bands that can adapt instantly to any crowd.
“To stand out consistently you need to have tight rehearsal discipline, unique sound identity (not just covers), strong stage chemistry, audience retention – not just applause.”
No doubt, Seven Notes is entering a critical growth phase—new member, multiple shows, and an international tour on the horizon. The opportunity is real, but so is the pressure.
However, there is talk that Seven Notes will soon be a recognised name in the regional music scene.
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