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by Zanita Careem

I recall meeting Imran Khan, the former cricketer after his victory of the World Cup during his visit to Sri Lanka, a few years ago. I met him whilst he was here on an invitation extended by the Chairman of Sifani Jevellers Shaabdeen The young cricketer at that time appeared so much more reserved. circumspect and formal. Handsome indeed, Imran Khan was the cynosure of all eyes among the women at that function.

Last week he was in Sri Lanka as the Prime Minister of Pakistan on an official visit on the invitation extended by the PM Mahinda Rajapakse and President of Sri Lanka Gothabaya Rajapakse..

During the interview, at that time he spoke with disarming candour about the many twists and turns of his life journey as a cricketer . Even at that time, he was adored by millions of fans,His charismatic personality was admired by many in the cricketing field where he was famous for his blistering bowling. He also spoke about his greatest success as a fund-raiser, establishing the Shaukat Khanum Memorial Cancer Hospital and research centre in 1996 and a college in 2008 with funds raised.

He was recognised as a great ,cricketer, a compassionate philanthropist, his charismatic personality is recognised, well beyond the borders of Pakistan. Meeting the former Captain of the Pakistan cricket team who defeated England in 1992 at the World Cup final is still etched in my memory.

Imran’s was raised in an upper middle class family with an engineer father and home maker mother. He did not pursue politics as a career until his late 40s. Before politics his passion was international cricket. An iconic cricketer. Khan dominated the cricketing World in the 1980s and 1990s. Oxford educated. he spent most of his time overseas. He was well liked figure in Pakistan, due to his boyish charm and sportsmanship. To millions of Pakistanis, Khan was their leader who led the nation to victory.

Today Imran’s journey to the corridors of Parliament was very interesting. He is articule, and used his voice for people’s issues. He increasingly asserted that his decision to enter politics was for the people not for fame, money or power. The huge fan following that Imran amassed were the urban younger citizens. His fiery speeches, his leadership skills for dealing with some of the contentions issues are remarkable. He saw a political vacuum in the theoretical state of Pakistan and made all efforts to make it a better alternative to the existing system after he took over power as the Prime Minister.

He arrived in Sri Lanka for a two day official visit, this Colombo trip was only Imran’s second foray since becoming PM.Imran Khan is the first head of state since the pandemic to visit Sri Lanka. During his two day stay he had many fruitful bilateral meetings with the higher officials in Sri Lanka.

The attention and the warmth showered on Imran Khan marks a definite turn in the relationship between Sri Lanka and Pakistan

The exuberant welcome Imran recieved in Sri Lanka reflects the love, the people and the cricket fans had for him. Billboards and flags ffluttered along the routes and within the city of Colombo focussed the cordial welcome.

In Sri Lanka ,his speeches reflected the oratorical skiis. His ability to entice enthuiastic and spontaneous responses that sesulted in standing ovation at the few meetings he chaired. His eloquent language of English with a Britist aacent, well known and admired by many.

His ability to project to thousands of people , without effacing their differenes make him not only a rare and articulate politician, but an outstanding Prime Minister. Meanwhile a press release from .Sthe embassy of Pakistan stated

The charismatic captain led Pakistan to its World Cup victory in 1992. Mr Khan, struggled for years to turn popular support into electoral gains. He launched his Pakistan Tehreek-e-Insaf (PTI) in 1996. His party won the General Election 2018 and he became Prime Minister of Pakistan after a political struggle of 22 years.

Imran Khan’s economic vision for Pakistan is alluring. Khan is working hard to improve the lives of the poor. He promised a “new Pakistan” in the 2018 General Election. Imran made pledges with the nation for a uniform education system, launching of a health card scheme, elimination of corruption, improving the tax culture, self-sustainability of Pakistan, generating employment opportunities, strengthening of the federation, bringing reforms in police, boosting investment and tourism, strengthening agriculture sector by imposing an agriculture emergency, and protecting women population. He is on right track to fulfill his promises with the nation.

The Government of Prime Minister Imran Khan has handled the economic impact of pandemic with effective strategies and emerged successful during tough times. Year 2020 has known to be a tale of challenges globally, but for Pakistan, under the leadership of PM Imran Khan, it has proved as a “story of success and development” even during the coronavirus pandemic.

Year 2020 narrates a journey of stable economy, numerous development and welfare projects, and remarkable achievements at foreign policy front. Khan’s government has significant achieved major milestones during 2020 along with a set of the Prime Minister’s New Year resolutions for year 2021.

Khan is not only achieving at domestic front but also fighting for the betterment of globe. Prime Minister Imran Khan, in his address to the United Nations General Assembly (UNGA) 75th session, highlighted global issues including climate change, money laundering, pandemic, Islamophobia and human rights violations. He called upon the UN to play its role to combat racism and ensure implementation of its own resolution for global peace and stability.

Imran khan is a philanthropist. He is gifted with natural leadership and the capacity to accumulate great wealth. He has great talent for management in all walks of life, especially in business and financial matters, where he contributes the greater vision, purpose, and long-range goals. He understands the material world, and intuitively knows what makes virtually any enterprise work. Business, finance, real estate, law, science, publishing, and the management of large institutions are among the vocational fields that suit Imran best. He is naturally attracted to positions of influence and leadership, politics, social work, and teaching are among the many other areas where his abilities are shining.

PM Imran Khan’s political struggle of twenty two years can be compared with a thrilling test cricket match, full of twists and turns. After a long struggle, he succeeded in the 2018 General Election. PM Imran Khan’s Government has managed to perform well in the foreign affairs arena as well. Critical in this regard has been Khan’s personal charisma on the international stage and close coordination with the country’s all institutions.

During the 1990s, Khan also served as UNICEF’s Special Representative for Sports and promoted health and immunization programmes in Bangladesh, Pakistan, Sri Lanka and Thailand. While in London, he also works with the Lord’s Taverners, a cricket charity. After retirement from cricket and before joining politics Khan focused his efforts solely on social work. By early nineties, he had founded the Shaukat Khanum Memorial Trust, a charity organisation bearing the name of his mother, Mrs. Shaukat Khanum. As the Trust’s maiden endeavour, Khan established Pakistan’s first and only cancer hospital, constructed using donations and funds exceeding $25 million, raised by Khan from all over the world.

Khan also established a technical college in the Mianwali District during April 2018 called Namal College. It was built by the Mianwali Development Trust (MDT), and is an associate college of the University of Bradford. Imran Khan Foundation is another welfare work, which aims to assist needy people all over Pakistan. It has provided help to flood victims in Pakistan.

President Rajapaksa is familiar with Pakistan where he attended number of military courses in Pakistan military training institutions. While Prime Minister Mahinda Rajapaksa has also deep association with Pakistan. Imran khan has visited Sri Lanka on number of occasions and has a great fan following in the Island Country. The upcoming visit of Prime Minister Khan will be a great opportunity for leaders of both countries to make bilateral relations meaningful and beneficial for people of Sri Lanka and Pakistan which would further strengthen the relations between the two friendly nations.



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From Colombo to Canada and Back: How Thevin Gamage found his voice through cinema

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Thevin with Gautham Manoj, his director of photography, behind the camera

For most Sri Lankan parents, success is often measured in familiar terms: a doctor, a lawyer, an engineer, or a businessman. Creative pursuits, while admired, are rarely viewed as dependable career paths.

Young filmmaker Thevin Gamage knows that reality is all too well.

Ironically, he grew up in a household immersed in the arts. His mother, celebrated actress Kumudumali De Silva, entered the film industry as a teenager and went on to win acclaim for her performances on television.

His father, veteran actor Nihal Gamage, also established himself as a respected figure in Sri Lanka’s film and television landscape.

Yet even within a family of artists, there remained a strong expectation that their only son would pursue a more conventional profession.

“I grew up in a very strict and conservative household,” Gamage recalls. “Like many Sri Lankan families, education was everything. The expectation was that I would become a businessman, lawyer, or something considered stable and respectable.”

Today, sitting thousands of miles and many life lessons away from that childhood, Gamage reflects on a journey that has taken him from the classrooms of Colombo to the film schools of Toronto, in Canada, and eventually to the director’s chair of his own feature film.

His story is not merely about filmmaking. It is about identity, perseverance, self-discovery, and the courage to pursue a passion that remained hidden beneath years of expectations.

“I think I was always creative,” he says. “The problem was that nobody around me really understood that creativity and academic intelligence are two very different things.”

Directing a scene

Thevin and Gautham

Educated at Colombo International School, Gamage admits he was never among the highest-performing students, academically.

“I wasn’t the student teachers pointed to as an example,” he laughs. “But looking back now, I think I simply processed the world differently.”

Like many Sri Lankan students pursuing London examinations, he spent countless hours attending tuition classes.

“My days would begin before sunrise. There would be mathematics classes at four in the morning, before school. Then another class, after school, and another in the evening. That was the routine.”

The hard work eventually paid off. He secured admission to the prestigious University of Toronto, a move that opened the door to a world far removed from the sheltered upbringing he had known.

More importantly, it offered him the independence he had long desired.

“To be honest, one of the biggest motivations for going overseas was that I wanted to experience life beyond the boundaries I had grown up with.”

Initially, he enrolled in a Bachelor of Business Administration programme, with a focus on economics. However, it quickly became apparent that the world of finance and accounting did not inspire him.

“I knew very early that I wasn’t built for accounting. Finance wasn’t something that excited me either.”

After considerable soul-searching, he switched his academic focus to political science, while pursuing minors in economics and psychology.

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The decision proved to be the right one.

He graduated with honours, much to the relief and pride of his parents.

“That was important to them. Like many parents, they wanted to know their sacrifices had meant something.”

Yet, despite earning a respected university degree, Gamage remained uncertain about his future.

Upon returning to Sri Lanka, for a period, he became involved in his family’s restaurant business. At the time, it seemed the closest thing to a creative profession that he could realistically pursue.

“I loved the idea of hospitality because there is artistry involved in food, presentation, and customer experience. But something still felt missing.”

The answer would emerge unexpectedly during one of the most disruptive periods in modern history.

The COVID-19 pandemic.

At the time, Gamage was back in Canada, working toward permanent residency, while also exploring possibilities for introducing Sri Lankan restaurant concepts to the Canadian market.

To support himself, he worked as a bartender in one of Toronto’s leading restaurants.

Then, the world shut down.

For many people, lockdowns created uncertainty. For Gamage, they created clarity.

“I suddenly had time to think. For the first time in years, I wasn’t running from one responsibility to another.”

That period of reflection led him back to a childhood obsession that had never truly disappeared – Cinema.

Growing up, movies had been far more than entertainment.

“Because I wasn’t allowed to socialise much, films became my escape. They allowed me to experience different cultures, different lives, and different ways of thinking.”

While other teenagers spent weekends attending parties, Gamage spent his watching films.

“I could sit for hours studying how stories were told. I didn’t realise it then, but storytelling was already becoming a huge part of who I was.”

One day, driven by curiosity rather than any grand ambition, he requested information from Toronto Film School.

What followed would alter the course of his life.

A lengthy conversation with a school representative encouraged him to take a chance on himself.

“She simply asked me why I wasn’t applying. I honestly didn’t have an answer.”

Using money he had painstakingly saved from bartending, Gamage enrolled.

The experience was transformative.

“For the first time in my life, I felt like I belonged somewhere.”

Surrounded by fellow storytellers, writers, directors, and aspiring artists, he discovered a community that understood the language of creativity.

“It felt like home. These were people who saw the world the way I did.”

His instructors quickly recognised both his passion and his work ethic.

“They kept telling me that I had something worth pursuing.”

Among hundreds of students, Gamage was selected to direct a student short film — an achievement that boosted his confidence enormously.

Thevin with his DoP camera With his parents and lighting crew

Yet his education was not confined to the classroom.

A chance opportunity on a Discovery Network production opened the door to the professional industry.

In a story he still recounts with amusement, his first break came, thanks to a dog.

“The showrunner, Mary Bissel, who, in due course, became Thevin’s first mentors, needed somebody to help take care of her puppy, while she was working. I always joke that my career began because of a dog.”

What began as a production assistant role quickly evolved.

Gamage volunteered for every task available.

“I wasn’t interested in staying inside one department. I wanted to understand how every part of a production worked.”

His enthusiasm and dedication did not go unnoticed.

Within a remarkably short period, he moved from production assistant to wardrobe assistant, then unit production manager and eventually assistant director.

By the time he completed film school, he was already serving as an assistant director on a major production.

“I actually missed my graduation because I was working on set. That was a pretty special feeling.”

Working alongside experienced professionals further strengthened his belief that filmmaking was where he belonged.

But he wanted more than a career.

He wanted to tell stories.

Determined to prove himself, Gamage embarked on creating his first short film, despite having limited resources.

Without substantial financing, or an established reputation, he improvised.

Friends and relatives became producers. Multiple crew positions were consolidated. Administrative responsibilities were shared.

“There were moments when I was essentially doing several jobs at once.”

The experience taught him one of the most valuable lessons of his career.

“You don’t wait for permission. If you believe in something strongly enough, you find a way.”

While the short film was travelling through international festival circuits, Gamage began work on an even more ambitious project — his first feature film.

Rather than play it safe, he chose to create a Sinhala-language film, influenced by the storytelling rhythms and cinematic sensibilities he had absorbed in North America.

“I wanted to bring something different to Sri Lankan cinema. Not because local films are lacking, but because every generation deserves to contribute its own voice.”

The feature called, “Aragalyak Mada- In The Middle Of A Struggle,” stars respected Sri Lankan actor Buddika Jayarathna and represent years of learning, experimentation,and persistence.

Directing the lead with Buddika Jayarathna in one scene

Remarkably, Gamage also undertook much of the editing process himself.

“Editing is where the story truly comes alive. It allows me to stay connected to every stage of the creative journey.”

Today, with his debut feature film completed and awaiting release, Gamage remains focused not on fame or recognition but on impact.

He hopes his journey will encourage other young Sri Lankans who feel trapped between societal expectations and personal aspirations.

“There are many talented young people in this country who don’t realise their potential because they are afraid of pursuing creative careers.”

His own story stands as evidence that unconventional paths can lead to extraordinary destinations.

Looking back, he does not regret the years spent navigating expectations, academic pressures, and uncertainty.

Every experience contributed to the filmmaker he has become.

“If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that passion matters. Obsession matters. Sometimes, talent helps, but determination is what carries you forward.”

For Thevin Gamage, the boy who once sought refuge in movies, has now become a storyteller himself — crafting worlds, exploring emotions, and giving voice to dreams that often go unspoken.

And if his ambitions are realised, this may only be the opening scene of a much larger story yet to unfold.

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Healing bones restoring confidence

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Dr. Melanie Amarasuriya Consultant Orthopaedic surgeon hands and upper Limb

Advancing Orthopaedics through care and education

Dr Melanie Amarasuriya is a distinguished Consultant othopaedic surgeon,academic and educator whose career bridges the world of medicine and higher education. As a senior lecturer at the University of Moratuwa, she combines clinical expertise with a passion for teaching and mentoring the next generation of professionals. Renowned for her commitment to patient care and advancing orthopaedic practice, Dr. Amarasuriya has earned respect both within the medical fraternity and academia. In this interview, Dr. Melanie shares insights into her professional journey,the evoving landscape of orthopaedic surgery,and the challeges and opportunities facing health care in Sri Lanka

(Q) Can you tell us about your professional journey and key milestones?

(A) I qualified from the University of Colombo and completed my specialist training in Orthopaedic Surgery in Sri Lanka. I then pursued advanced training in hand and upper limb surgery in the United Kingdom and Australia, followed by a PhD in Wrist Biomechanics at Flinders University, Australia.

My career has combined clinical practice, research, and education, with a particular focus on complex hand, wrist, and upper limb conditions. Some key milestones include becoming the first and the only woman to qualify as Consultant Orthopaedic Surgeon in the country, completing further fellowship training in hand and upper limb surgery under internationally renowned hand and upper limb surgeons all over the world, earning a PhD, publishing internationally recognised research on wrist biomechanics, being awarded international awards and fellowships by other hand / upper limb organisations, like IFSSH, APWA, and representing Sri Lanka in international orthopaedic and hand surgery organisations.

Today, I divide my time between clinical practice, teaching, research, and contributing to the development of orthopaedic care in Sri Lanka.

(Q) What are the most common orthopaedic conditions you encounter in Sri Lanka?

(A) In Sri Lanka, the most common orthopaedic conditions we encounter are fractures, resulting from road traffic accidents, falls, and sports injuries. We also see a large number of patients with arthritis affecting the knees, hips, and hands, particularly as the population ages. Back and neck pain, tendon injuries, nerve compression syndromes such as carpal tunnel syndrome, and work-related musculoskeletal disorders are also very common.

I frequently manage complex injuries of the hand, wrist, and elbow, as well as conditions that affect function and quality of life, such as ligament injuries, nerve compressions, and degenerative disorders.

(Q) Are there any emerging trends in bone and joint health that people should be aware of?

(A) One of the most important trends is the growing recognition that bone and joint health is closely linked to overall health and lifestyle. We are seeing increasing rates of obesity, sedentary behaviour, and Vitamin D deficiency, all of which can negatively affect the musculoskeletal system.

At the same time, more people are remaining physically active well into older age, creating greater demand for treatments that preserve mobility and independence. So it’s really important looking at the patient as a whole and not only focus on bones and joints. It is also important to prevent injuries, intervene early before they need complex surgery, and rehabilitation, rather than simply treating problems after they occur. The goal is not only to help people live longer, but to help them remain active, independent, and pain-free throughout their lives.

Another emerging trend is the use of advanced technologies, such as artificial intelligence, three-dimensional imaging, computer-assisted surgery, and patient-specific treatment planning. These innovations are helping surgeons diagnose conditions more accurately and tailor treatments to individual patients. While Sri Lanka still is a middle-income country, according to WHO, we do have the capacity to utilise most of these advanced technology.

(Q) What steps can people take to maintain healthy bones and joints throughout their lives?

(A) Maintaining healthy bones and joints starts with regular physical activity. Weight-bearing exercise, strength training, and activities that improve balance and flexibility help maintain bone density, muscle strength, and joint function.

A balanced diet, rich in calcium, protein, and Vitamin D, is also important. Avoiding smoking, limiting excessive alcohol consumption, and maintaining a healthy body weight can significantly reduce the risk of osteoporosis and arthritis.

Equally important is listening to your body. Persistent pain, swelling, weakness, or loss of function should not be ignored. Early assessment and treatment often prevent minor problems from becoming major ones.

Ultimately, bone and joint health is an investment that begins in childhood and continues throughout life. The choices we make every day have a significant impact on our mobility, independence, and quality of life as we age.

(Q) How important are exercise and nutrition in preventing orthopaedic problems?

(A) Exercise and nutrition are fundamental to preventing many orthopaedic problems. Regular physical activity helps maintain strong bones, healthy joints, muscle strength, balance, and coordination. It also reduces the risk of falls, fractures, obesity, and many chronic conditions that can affect the musculoskeletal system.

Nutrition is equally important. Adequate intake of calcium, Vitamin D, and protein is essential for bone health, muscle maintenance, and recovery from injury. Poor nutrition can contribute to osteoporosis, frailty, delayed healing, and reduced physical function. When I mention poor nutrition, being overweight is also included in the spectrum. A large number of patients, with long standing back pain and knee pain, would get a better quality of life if they simply manage their body weight. The good news is that prevention does not require extreme measures. Consistent exercise, a balanced diet, maintaining a healthy weight, and avoiding smoking can significantly reduce the risk of many bone and joint problems. In orthopaedics, prevention is often far more effective than treatment.

(Q) What are some of the common misconceptions about bone and joint health are women at greater risk of certain orthopaedic conditions?

(A) There are several common misconceptions about bone and joint health. One is that joint pain is simply a normal part of ageing that must be accepted. While age-related changes do occur, many conditions can be prevented, treated, or managed effectively if identified early. Another misconception is that osteoporosis only affects very elderly people, when in fact bone health is influenced throughout life by factors such as nutrition, physical activity, and hormonal health.

Women are indeed at greater risk of certain orthopaedic conditions. Osteoporosis is particularly common in women, after menopause, due to the decline in oestrogen levels, which accelerates bone loss. Women are also more prone to conditions such as osteoarthritis of the hand and knee, certain ligament injuries, and some nerve compression syndromes, including carpal tunnel syndrome.

However, many of these risks can be reduced through regular exercise, good nutrition, maintaining a healthy weight, and seeking medical advice when symptoms first appear. Awareness and early intervention are often the key to preserving long-term mobility and independence.

(Q) As women age how can women protect their bone health?

(A) As women age, protecting bone health becomes increasingly important, particularly after menopause when bone loss accelerates due to declining oestrogen levels. The most effective strategies include regular weight-bearing and resistance exercises, such as walking, jogging, dancing, or strength training, which help maintain bone density and muscle strength.

Good nutrition is equally important. Women should ensure adequate intake of calcium, Vitamin D, and protein, either through diet or supplementation when necessary. Maintaining a healthy body weight, avoiding smoking, and limiting excessive alcohol consumption also play a significant role in preserving bone health.

Regular health check-ups are important, especially for women with risk factors for osteoporosis, such as a family history, early menopause, or previous fractures. Early screening and intervention can identify bone loss before fractures occur.

The key message is that it is never too early—or too late—to invest in bone health. Small lifestyle choices made consistently over time can have a significant impact on mobility, independence, and quality of life in later years.

(Q) What should women know about osteoporosis and fracture prevention?

(A) Osteoporosis is often called a “silent disease” because bone loss occurs gradually and usually causes no symptoms until a fracture happens. Many people only discover they have osteoporosis after sustaining a fracture from a minor fall or injury.

Women, particularly after menopause, are at increased risk because of hormonal changes that accelerate bone loss. However, osteoporosis is not an inevitable part of ageing. Regular exercise, especially weight-bearing and strength-training activities, adequate calcium and Vitamin D intake, maintaining a healthy weight, and avoiding smoking are all important preventive measures.

Fracture prevention is equally important. Falls are a major cause of fractures in older adults, so maintaining muscle strength, balance, good vision, and a safe home environment can significantly reduce risk. Women with risk factors, such as a family history of osteoporosis, previous fractures, or early menopause, should discuss bone density screening with their doctor.

The good news is that osteoporosis can be detected early and effective treatments are available. With appropriate lifestyle measures, screening, and medical care when needed, many fractures can be prevented, and people can maintain an active and independent lifestyle.

(Q) What advice would you give to young people involved in competitive sports?

(A) My advice to young people involved in competitive sports is to view their bodies as their most valuable piece of equipment. Talent and hard work are important, but long-term success depends on staying healthy and injury-free.

Good training habits, proper technique, adequate rest, nutrition, and recovery are just as important as performance. Young athletes should avoid the temptation to play through significant pain or return to sport too quickly after an injury, as this can lead to long-term problems.

It is also important to remember that sport should promote lifelong health and enjoyment. While competition is important, developing good habits, resilience, teamwork, and a love for physical activity are equally valuable outcomes.

Finally, if an injury does occur, seek expert advice early. Early diagnosis and appropriate treatment often allow athletes to return to sport safely and perform at their best for many years to come.

(Q) What development do you expect to see you in the next decade?

(A) The next decade is likely to bring major advances in orthopaedics, driven by technology, data science, and a deeper understanding of how the musculoskeletal system functions. I expect to see greater use of artificial intelligence, advanced imaging, computer-assisted surgery, and personalised treatment plans tailored to each patient.

We are also moving towards earlier diagnosis and more precise interventions. Technologies such as dynamic imaging and motion analysis are helping us understand joint disorders in ways that were not possible before, allowing treatments to be targeted more effectively.

In addition, biologic therapies and regenerative medicine may play an increasing role in treating cartilage injuries, tendon disorders, and early arthritis. While joint replacement surgery will continue to be important, there will be a stronger focus on preserving native joints and maintaining function for as long as possible.

Ultimately, the future of orthopaedics is not just about treating injuries and disease—it is about helping people remain active, independent, and able to enjoy a high quality of life throughout their lifespan.

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Behind close doors: Hidden trauma of child abuse?

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Dr Anita Sharma: Dedicated mental health professional whose work focuses on helping individuals navigate emotional challenges, relationship issues, anxiety and depression

Child abuse remains one of the most disturbing yet under-reported issues affecting children worldwide. Beyond the visible scars, abuse often leaves deep emotional and psychological wounds that can shape a child’s development, relationship, and mental well being for years to come. Despite increasing awareness, child abuse remain a serious concern in Sri Lanka. Recent events in Sri Lanka have once again highlighted the urgent need to address child abuse in all its forms. From allegations involving influential figures to heartbreaking cases that have shaken the nation, these incidents have exposed the devastating consequences of abuse and challenges faced by young victims seeking protection and justice. In an interview with the ‘Sunday Island,’ a leading Singaporean psychologist, living in Sri Lanka, Anita Sharma, says many children suffer in silence, carrying trauma that can affect their emotional well being, education, relationships and their future lives. She also discusses the warning signs that parents and teachers should recognise, the barriers to reporting and the support systems needed to help children heal and rebuild their lives. With experience in leading medical institutions, she has a patient centred approach, to empower children and individuals to lead healthier and more fulfilling lives.

(Q) How would you define sexual abuse of children and what forms can it take?

(A) Child sexual abuse occurs when an adult, older adolescent, or another person in a position of power involves a child in sexual activities that the child cannot understand, consent to, or is not developmentally ready for. It is a serious violation of a child’s rights, safety, and trust. Sexual abuse can take many forms, including inappropriate touching, forcing or persuading a child to engage in sexual acts, exposing a child to sexual content, taking sexual images of a child, online grooming, or exploiting a child for sexual purposes.

(Q) What are the common psychological effects of sexual abuse on children?

(A) The effects vary from child to child, but common psychological consequences include anxiety, depression, fear, shame, guilt, low self-esteem, sleep disturbances, nightmares, emotional withdrawal, and difficulties trusting others. Some children may also develop symptoms of post-traumatic stress, struggle academically, or engage in risky behaviours later in life.

(Q) What signs should parents, teachers, and caregivers look for that may indicate a child is being abused?

(A) Warning signs may include sudden changes in behaviour, withdrawal from family and friends, unexplained fear of certain people or places, regression to younger behaviours such as bedwetting, sleep problems, declining school performance, self-harm, age-inappropriate sexual knowledge or behaviour, and unexplained physical injuries. While these signs do not automatically mean abuse has occurred, they should never be ignored.

(Q) Why do many child victims find it difficult to disclose abuse? Is it social stigma or fear?

(A) Many children do not disclose abuse because they are frightened, confused, ashamed, or worried they will not be believed. In many cases, the abuser may be someone the child knows and trusts, making disclosure even more difficult. Children may also fear punishment, family conflict, social stigma, or threats made by the perpetrator. The silence surrounding sexual abuse often creates additional barriers to seeking help.

(Q) How does sexual abuse affect a child’s emotional and social development?

(A) Sexual abuse can interfere with a child’s ability to develop healthy relationships, trust others, and feel safe in the world. Emotionally, children may struggle with feelings of fear, anger, sadness, or worthlessness. Socially, they may become isolated, have difficulty making friends, or experience challenges in forming healthy relationships later in life. Without support, the impact can extend into adulthood.

(Q) What role do counselling and therapy play in a child’s recovery?

(A) Counselling and therapy provide children with a safe and supportive environment to process their experiences, express their emotions, and learn healthy coping strategies. Therapy can help reduce symptoms of trauma, rebuild self-esteem, strengthen resilience, and support healthy emotional development. Early intervention often improves long-term outcomes and helps children regain a sense of safety and control.

(Q) How can society create a safer environment for children?

(A) Creating a safer environment requires a collective effort. Parents, schools, communities, religious institutions, and authorities must work together to educate children about personal safety and boundaries, encourage open communication, take disclosures seriously, strengthen child protection systems, and hold perpetrators accountable. Equally important is fostering a culture where children feel heard, respected, and protected.

(Q) Are boys and girls affected differently by sexual abuse?

(A) Both boys and girls can experience severe emotional and psychological harm from sexual abuse. While the core effects are often similar, boys may be less likely to disclose abuse due to societal expectations around masculinity and fears of being judged or misunderstood. Girls may face different social pressures and stigmas. Regardless of gender, every child deserves support, protection, and access to appropriate care.

(Q) What is the emotional journey of a child survivor from disclosure to recovery?

(A) Every child’s journey is unique, but recovery is often a gradual process rather than a single event. Following disclosure, many children experience a mix of emotions, including relief, fear, confusion, shame, anger, sadness, and anxiety. While some may feel relieved that the secret is no longer being carried alone, others may worry about the consequences of speaking out. As the child begins receiving support from trusted adults and mental health professionals, they can gradually develop a sense of safety and stability. Over time, therapy and a supportive environment can help them process the trauma, rebuild trust, strengthen self-esteem, and develop healthy coping skills. Recovery does not mean forgetting what happened; rather, it means learning to move forward without the trauma defining their life. With appropriate intervention, many survivors go on to lead healthy, fulfilling, and meaningful lives.

(Q) How prevalent is child sexual abuse?

(A) Child sexual abuse is unfortunately a global public health concern affecting children across all cultures, communities, religions, and socioeconomic backgrounds. Research consistently shows that many cases go unreported, meaning the true prevalence is likely higher than official figures suggest. According to international estimates, approximately 1 in 5 girls and 1 in 13 boys experience some form of sexual abuse before the age of 18. However, experts believe these numbers may underestimate the actual extent of the problem due to fear, stigma, and barriers to disclosure. It is important to remember that child sexual abuse can happen in any family, school, community, or institution, and awareness, prevention, and early intervention remain critical in protecting children.

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“One of the greatest misconceptions about child sexual abuse is that it is rare or only happens in certain families. The reality is that it can affect any child. The responsibility for prevention and protection lies with all of us parents, educators, professionals, communities and society as a whole.”

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