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One imagines that over the years School Principals develop a splendid antenna which allows no school child’s mis-demeanour or untoward emotion to go undetected. Such is certainly not the case. Most of the bustling little beings in the care of the school’s Staff have the eyes of angels and the minds and hearts of a Judas. They fool their parents most of the time, their teachers some of the time and the general public all the time.

When they leave school to go out into the world of Higher Studies Principals try to soften the transition from the protected atmosphere of a school campus to the comparatively unprotected freedom of University. The following hints are for students who intend getting their Degrees and are positively ecstatic that they no longer have their Principal or any of their teachers breathing down their necks on a daily basis. They look forward to unbridled freedom and I really do worry about the rosy haze that envelops their thinking.

Reality brings them up short. University careers demand concentration and hard work. They demand organization of time. They demand serious studying. Some wilt under the pressure. Others find they cannot cope with life outside their homes. (Mothers bringing them orange juice each morning and practically bathing them, dressing them and then driving them to school are things of the past.) They have been too cocooned, too fussed over with all initiative stifled. To send such a child abroad to study without preparation is inviting disaster.

We hear the success stories of well performing students but the failures are hushed up. And believe me there are failures. Not necessarily academic failures but a failure to cope with life away from home. So here is some of the advice I hand out to every batch of AL students planning to study abroad, imagining themselves totally prepared to face the world

First of all expect to be homesick. See it through. The first three months are hard but life becomes much easier after that. One young girl of my acquaintance called home each night. (These days of easy communication have minus points too). “I want to come home,” she sobbed into the phone. “I am so lonely here.” “Coming home is not an option right now,” said her wise Mother. “If you feel the same after a year you can scrap your Degree plans but you must see out the year.” At the end of her four-year Degree course it was hard to get her home at all.

2. If you console yourself with the words, “I’ll party tonight and study tomorrow,” you area bigger sucker than you think. That tomorrow never comes. Make a study plan from the outset and stick to it unless you are dying.

3. Eat sensibly. It is a standard joke that students returning from the USA all gain a minimum of ten pounds. Universities in America provide their students with fantastic menus. Visiting my granddaughter at her College I watched open mouthed at the unbelievable quantity and quality of food served buffet style at a normal, everyday lunch. There was Italian food in one corner, Indian food in another, and Mexican food in a third. Meats, fish and western –style dishes were on a table loaded with breads of all kinds. Faced with these bewildering choices Asian students tend to go for the spicy menus. Of course they obviously may over-eat during that difficult first year but a little common sense should soon prevail.

4. Learn discrimination. Choose friends wisely which means those with steady minds and habits which your parents will find reassuring. There may be other Sri Lankans in your University you will tend to hang out with. Try to cultivate friends of all races too. A student from here should enjoy the diversity of cultures and races.

5. Join the Clubs. One Buddhist girl I know had a lovely voice and joined the Choir of the University’s Church. She had a great time. Nobody tried to convert her. In fact they listened to her views on religion with much respect. Upon gaining her Degree it was the Church Chaplain’s glowing letter of recommendation that helped her get her first job in New York.

6. Sri Lankan students go all over the world nowadays. They go to India, China, Australia, Malaysia, Singapore, Canada and Australia apart from the UK and USA. They must adjust to new atmospheres all the time. Most try to cope sensibly because they realize the financial burden their parents undertake on their behalf.

7. Don’t drink (much). Most Universities have strict rules about minors drinking but I have been reading some hair-raising tales about undergraduate partying. Be careful and do not take part in socializing just to be popular.

8. Our students should attempt to copy the best of the West and not become mere carbon copies of their unshaven, badly dressed counterparts. It is not `cool’ to be so easily influenced by a down slide of standards. One boy returned home with an Afro hair style a strange accent and a totally re-invented personality. He also managed to lose his University funding that year. He was set straight at home and has just finished his Degree with honours.



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The challenge of keeping value-based politics alive

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Anti-migrant protests in Durban, South Africa. BBC

The current outbreak of anti-immigrant protests in Durban, South Africa is bound to have taken many a subscriber to value-based politics or political idealism quite by surprise. After all, this is evidence that despite the historic accomplishments of nation-builders of the stature of the late President Nelson Mandela it cannot be taken for granted that identity politics, including racism in its worst forms, is no more in South Africa.

At the time of this writing details are scarce on the substantive root causes of the protests but it could very well be that economic grievances, particularly on the part of the majority community in South Africa, are contributing considerably to the disaffection. Shrinking employment and material prospects are likely to figure majorly among the factors igniting the unrest.

Fortunately, the local authorities in Durban are losing no time in calling for peaceful co-existence among the relevant communities and are pointing to the vital importance of stepping-up national integration processes. Apparently, immigrants in sizable numbers from neighbouring countries are present in Durban. However, international TV footage of the protests quoted some local authorities as saying that the majority of the immigrants in some centres that housed them were not illegal migrants and had the documents that entitle them to be in Durban.

In the Durban protests the world has fresh proof of the socially divisive consequences of the gathering globe-wide economic disaffection, touched off particularly by the continuing crisis in West Asia. Going ahead, the world would need to brace for increasing identity-based unrest of the kind it is just witnessing in South Africa.

Considering that the material lot of ordinary people everywhere could only aggravate progressively, with the US and Iran showing no signs of negotiating an end to their confrontation any time soon, it will be left to the more democratic and progressive sections of the world community to initiate positive measures collectively to bring a measure of relief to the discontented.

The swiftness with which such relief will be provided would depend crucially on the importance those sections taking up these undertakings attach to value-based politics as opposed to Realpolitik of power politics.

Going by these yardsticks, Italy could be considered to be moving in the right direction. Recently Italy came to the fore in initiating the collective named, ‘Rome Coalition for Food Security and Access to Fertilizer’, which has as one of its aims the swift provision of fertilizer to economically weak African countries.

In a recent statement Italian Minister of Foreign Affairs and International Cooperation, Antonio Tajani, said that a principal aim of the project was to ensure that the farmers of Africa gained easy access to fertilizer, considering that food security is a growing concern among some of Africa’s economically vulnerable countries.

The statement went on to mention that some 30 countries hailing from the Mediterranean region, the Middle East, the Balkans as well as the FAO had been invited to join the coalition. The venture is far-seeing in that food security is main among the reasons for social discontent which in turn could degenerate into endemic political turmoil and bloodshed. Separatist violence and geographical fragmentation of countries wouldn’t be too far behind these developments, as Africa itself has often proved.

It is hoped that more G7 countries would take the cue from Italy and do what they could to ease the hardships of economically distressed countries, particularly of the global South. In these efforts they would need to break rank with the US, which is today brutally indifferent to the consequences of its policy of making ‘America First’, come what may.

Going by current developments, the Trump administration seems to be blithely oblivious to the wider, deleterious effects of its policy course in West Asia. Besides rendering Iran militarily and otherwise impotent nothing else seems to matter to Washington, as regards West Asia. This is policy short-sightedness of an extreme kind. After all, right now West Asia could be said to be sitting on the proverbial powder keg.

On the other hand, Iran is not giving the world the impression that it is doing anything constructive to get out of the policy straitjacket that it wove for itself decades ago. Rather than enter into a policy of ‘live and let live’ in relation to Israel in particular and initiate a process of reconciliation with the latter, it has chosen to operate within policy parameters that continue to damn Israel. This has put Israel always on the ‘defensive’ so to speak and prevented the opening up of space for meaningful dialogue.

That said, Israel is obliged to explore the possibilities of entering into a negotiatory process with the Arab-Islamic world that could lead to a de-escalation of tensions and bloodshed. It cannot continue to look at its neighbours through lenses that distort them as archetypal enemies who should be ‘wiped off completely from the face of the earth.’

In other words, the need is urgent for Realpolitik to give way to value-based politicks. Italy is beginning to prove that the latter approach could be pursued with some success. May be the EU and the UK could throw their weight behind these initiatives as well and establish that international politics could be refashioned on the basis of humane, civilized norms. The UN would need to be fully supportive of these moves and prove an organizational nucleus of the operations that follow.

In fact the time is ripe for people of conscience to collectively stand up on the side of peace and say ‘No’ to war and violence. Organizations such as the ICRC, the WHO and Medicines Sans Frontiers have already taken up this call. Referring to the widespread destruction of health facilities and their dehumanizing results these organizations have said, among other things, that ‘This is not a failure of the law. It is a failure of political will.’

True, ‘failure of political will’ among those powers that matter accounts for the runaway, uncontrollable nature of war and destruction in contemporary times, but more fundamentally it is a failure of the human conscience. It could very well be that the phenomenal levels to which violence and war have been unleashed today have had the effect of deadening consciences. This is a matter for urgent study and wide discussion.

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Vesak celebrations … with Cuteefly

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Perfect for celebrations, gifts, and meaningful occasions // Gift pack

I would describe Indunil Kaushalya Dissanayaka as innovative and creative, and she operates under the name of Cuteefly.

Indunil always comes up with something novel to celebrate special occasions, and she does it with candles … and that’s her profession.

She was in the spotlight when she created a happening scene, with candles, for Christmas, Sinhala and Tamil New Year, and Valentine’s Day.

As lanterns light up Sri Lanka for Vesak, the Colombo-based candle maker is quietly turning wax and wick into little pieces of the festival.

Candles reflecting Vesak themes

Her candles reflect Vesak themes – light, peace, remembrance, giving, etc., to enable you to fill your Vesak celebration with devotion and beauty.

Among her Vesak creations is a lotus-shaped soy candle, scented with sandalwood, lavender, etc., meant to burn during this Vesak Poya Day.

Indunil Kaushalya Dissanayaka: Customers
praise her for her creativity

These handcrafted Vesak candles are perfect for offering at the temple, she says.

What makes her creations so novel is that they come in different shapes, scents, themes, and all are handmade.

What’s more, her customers have heaped praise on her for her creativity.

According to Indunil, her creations are perfect as a thoughtful gift … to bring beauty, unity, and light into every moment.

Says Indunil: “Our beautifully handcrafted Unity candles are designed with premium detail and love, making them perfect for celebrations, gifts, and meaningful occasions.”

Cuteefly, says Indunil, is available online.

Readers could contact Indunil on 0778506066 for more details.

He Facebook Page is: Cuteefly.

Handmade with love

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Dark Spots …

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Yes, dark spots do crop up on the skin, especially with sun exposure and, of course, as the skin ages.

However, these tips should be of immense benefit to those who are faced with dark spots.

Lemon and Honey Glow Mask:

You will need 01 teaspoon lemon juice and 01 teaspoon honey.

Mix the lemon juice and honey well and then apply this mixture, only on the dark spots.

Leave for 10–15 minutes and then rinse with cool water.

Benefits:

Lemon helps brighten pigmentation.

Honey moisturises and heals skin.

Gives a natural glow.

* Aloe Vera Gel Treatment:

All you need is fresh aloe vera gel.

Apply the gel apply on dark spots, before going to bed.

Leave overnight and wash in the morning.

Benefits:

Reduces acne marks and pigmentation.

Soothes irritated skin.

Helps skin repair naturally.

Turmeric and Yoghurt Paste:

You will need 01 teaspoon yoghurt and a pinch of turmeric

Mix the yoghurt and turmeric into a smooth paste and apply on affected areas.

Leave for 15 minutes and then wash gently with lukewarm water.

Benefits:

Turmeric brightens skin naturally.

Yoghurt removes dead skin cells.

Helps fade dark spots gradually.

Use these packs 02-03 times a week as results are generally seen over time.

You can also try this out: Mix a ripe papaya into a smooth paste and apply to the face, or directly on to the dark spots. Leave for 15-20 minutes and then wash with lukewarm water.

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