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Beyond the screen:Reclaiming real relationships in a hyperreal world

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On a quiet Sunday evening at Galle Face Green, it is easy to notice something unusual. Families gather, couples stroll by the sea, and children chase kites in the wind. Yet, instead of gazing at the sunset, most eyes are fixed on glowing screens. A father points his phone at his daughter, ensuring the moment is “Instagram-worthy.” A teenage boy records a TikTok dance, barely noticing his grandmother waving him to share an ice cream. The scene is cheerful, but it also carries an invisible weight: are we truly living these moments, or only rehearsing them for a digital audience?

This question takes us into the world of hyperreality, a concept made famous by the French thinker Jean Baudrillard. In simple terms, hyperreality describes a condition where the boundaries between the real world and the world of images, symbols, and media blur until we can no longer separate one from the other. Social media has become the grand stage of this hyperreality, offering users not just connection, but an alternative universe one that feels more colorful, exciting, and rewarding than everyday life.

The Rise of a World Beyond Reality

In the past, people lived in tangible spaces villages, neighborhoods, workplaces where relationships were built as in one on one. Today, however, many live in digitally constructed realities. Facebook “likes” validate friendships, TikTok trends determine relevance, and Instagram feeds become curated self-portraits. The “real” is no longer enough; it must be filtered, edited, and broadcast.

Sri Lanka, like much of the world, has not escaped this tide. According to the Telecommunications Regulatory Commission, over 12 million Sri Lankans actively use social media platforms. For young people in Colombo, Kandy, or even Jaffna, digital identity often takes precedence over the physical one. A university student may spend hours polishing her Facebook profile, yet feel uncomfortable speaking with classmates in person. A middle-aged professional may post smiling selfies with his family while, in reality, his marriage quietly crumbles.

In hyperreality, appearance is not just a mask of reality it becomes reality itself. For many, life offline begins to feel dull compared to the constant excitement online.

Cracks in Human Bonds

This transformation, however, comes at a cost. Across the world, sociologists note that hyperreality has weakened physical intimacy. In Sri Lanka too, the signs are visible.

Divorce rates, once rare in a society that valued family cohesion, have been steadily rising. According to recent legal records, Colombo courts hear thousands of divorce cases annually many citing lacks of communication, neglect, or infidelity discovered online. Marriage counselors often describe situations where spouses are physically present but emotionally absent, lost in the glow of smartphones.

“It is heartbreaking,” says a counselor in Kandy. “A husband may spend hours chatting with strangers online, building fantasies, while his wife feels invisible in the same house. Social media promises connection, but often delivers disconnection.”

Among youth, the situation is equally stark. University campuses are filled with students who maintain vibrant online personas but struggle to hold real conversations. Physical friendships, once nurtured through shared meals, cricket matches, or late-night study sessions, now risk being replaced by endless scrolling.

When Families Become Followers

Hyperreality also reshapes family life. In villages of the Southern Province, elders often complain that children no longer visit them as frequently. “They talk to us less,” says an elderly farmer in Matara, “but they are always on the phone. Sometimes they send us pictures through WhatsApp, but it is not the same as sitting together for tea.”

What is striking is that family members often turn into audiences for one another. Instead of shared experiences, life is mediated through posts and stories. A child’s birthday is incomplete without a perfectly decorated cake shared on Instagram; a family trip is measured not by laughter, but by the number of likes.

As Baudrillard warned, the copy replaces the original, the symbol becomes more real than the thing itself. The Facebook post of the family outing may appear happier than the outing itself.

Global Warnings and Local Lessons

This problem is not unique to Sri Lanka. In countries like South Korea and the United States, the rise of hyperreality has been linked to loneliness, depression, and declining marriage rates. Japan has even coined terms such as “hikikomori” for youth who retreat entirely into virtual lives.

Sri Lanka is beginning to feel similar tremors. Beyond rising divorces, schools report difficulties in student attention spans. Teachers in Colombo complain that children are more interested in filming TikTok dances than playing cricket in the

schoolyard. Religious leaders, from Buddhist monks to Christian priests, frequently urge congregations to practice “digital discipline.”

Some communities are taking action. Several Colombo-based schools have introduced phone-free events, encouraging students to leave devices at the gate during sports meets or concerts. Non-governmental organizations have begun promoting “mindful technology use” workshops, teaching families to balance screen time with real-world bonding. Even local businesses such as cafés in Kandy and Galle experiment with “no-WiFi zones,” encouraging conversation instead of browsing.

Phone-Free Movements:

A Ray of Hope

One inspiring example comes from a rural school in Kurunegala, where teachers noticed that students were spending break times silently scrolling. They introduced a “Phone-Free Friday” initiative, asking students to deposit their phones before classes began. At first, students resisted, complaining of boredom. But within weeks, the playground filled again with games of tag and volleyball. Friendships rekindled. Laughter replaced silence.

Similar experiments have been seen in Colombo offices, where companies encourage “device-free meetings.” By banning phones at the conference table, managers’ report not only greater focus but also warmer professional relationships.

These efforts show that while hyperreality is powerful, it is not irreversible. People long for genuine human contact, even if the digital world tempts them constantly.

A Culture at the Crossroads

Sri Lanka stands at a cultural crossroads. On one side lies the seductive pull of hyperreality filters, likes, and carefully curated images. On the other lies the fragile but deeply human reality of physical presence, shared meals, unfiltered conversations, and face-to-face relationships.

The danger is clear: if hyperreality dominates, the very fabric of Sri Lankan society built on extended families, village bonds, and community rituals may weaken.

Marriage will become less about companionship and more about performance. Friendships will dissolve into algorithmic interactions. Festivals like Vesak or Christmas may turn into backdrops for selfies rather than occasions for genuine spirituality.

Yet, the solution is equally clear: reclaiming balance. Hyperreality cannot be entirely rejected; social media does offer benefits connecting relatives abroad, amplifying small businesses, giving youth creative outlets. But it must not replace reality. Instead, it should serve it.

Experts recommend several steps:

1. Digital Literacy Education: Schools should teach not only how to use social media, but also how to question it. Students must learn to recognize when they are slipping from reality into hyperreality.

2. Family Rituals Without Phones: Families can revive traditions such as shared meals without devices, temple visits, or weekend outings where the focus is on presence rather than posting.

3. Community Campaigns: Just as Sri Lanka successfully campaigned against smoking in public, it could also promote “phone-free zones” in parks, libraries, and religious sites.

4. Personal Reflection: Individuals can ask themselves: “Am I posting this for memory or for validation? Am I living this moment, or staging it ?”

As the waves crash against the rocks of Galle Face, the sunset does not need a filter to be beautiful. The laughter of a child, the warmth of a grandmother’s hug, the conversation between friends over a cup of tea these moments are richer than any digital simulation. Sri Lankans, like people everywhere, must ask themselves whether they will continue drifting into hyperreality or anchor themselves in the messy, imperfect, but profoundly authentic reality of human connection. In the end, the choice is not between the real and the unreal, but between living fully and merely scrolling through life.

As we navigate this hyperreal world, the challenge is not to reject technology but to reclaim our ability to build genuine, human connections beyond the screen. Social media and AI, like all powerful tools, carry both risks and promises. As U.S. Vice President JD Vance remarked at the 2025 Paris AI Summit, they are “weapons that are dangerous in the wrong hands but incredible tools for liberty and prosperity in the right hands.” The task before us, then, is to ensure that these technologies serve as bridges to real relationships rather than barriers, empowering us to enrich not replace the world of authentic human connection.

(The writer is a university lecturer in sociology. Views are personal)

by Milinda Mayadunna ✍️



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The challenge of being positive about SAARC

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The RCSS forum addressed by SAARC Secretary General Ambassador Md. Golam Sarwar in progress. (Pic courtesy RCSS)

It was a few years back that a former President of Sri Lanka took it on himself to pronounce SAARC ‘dead’. Since then there have been other sections of Sri Lankan opinion that have joined the critics of SAARC and taken the solemn stance that SAARC has indeed died what may be called a natural death.

Their fatalism is understandable. SAARC has failed to meet at heads of government or state level for the past several years to take the SAARC process notably forward. Regional cooperation has more or less been only an appealing idea. No substantive concrete projects have taken off to make the idea a hard reality. ‘Inner paralysis’ seems to be SAARC’s lot. Hence the fatalism in these circles.

However, being one of the worst cash-strapped regions of the world and a teemingly populated one with people virtually left to their devices, what choices do the ‘SAARC Eight’ have other than to try their best to band together and continue with their cooperation efforts, however small they may be?

There is no escaping the mounting debt trap for many of these countries and bankrupt Sri Lanka is a glaring example, but ‘throwing in the towel’ and abandoning themselves entirely to the diktats of the strongest economies and their agencies will prove a ‘living death’ for many countries in the SAARC fold.

The gains may be meagre but giving-up on SAARC cooperation in full would prove self-defeating for the organization and South Asia. Right now, the collective intention ought to be to salvage what the region could from the tenuous cooperative efforts. Moreover, such initiatives could go some distance to generate a degree of goodwill among the Eight and help in sustaining a dialogue process.

Given this backdrop it proved ‘a stich in time’ for the Regional Centre for Strategic Studies (RCSS), Colombo, to recently host the SAARC Secretary General Ambassador Md. Golam Sarwar to a round table discussion on the unifying potential of SAARC and its future possibilities, besides other related issue areas.

Held on June 24th and moderated by RCSS Executive Director and former ambassador Ravinatha Aryasinha, the forum brought together a vibrant, wide ranging audience comprising academicians, diplomats, senior public servants, civil society activists and many others. Following the presentation by Ambassador Golam Sarwar titled, ‘Reigniting SAARC: Achievements, Challenges and the Way Ahead’, a lively Q&A followed.

The above forum could be described as an act of lighting the proverbial ‘candle’ rather than ‘cursing the darkness.’ It surely is a ‘darkness’ that could be seen as daunting considering that the region’s pivotal powers, India and Pakistan, are failing to act in a spirit of accord but are engaged in bitter finger-pointing on a number of questions of vital importance to SAARC.

On the other hand, what is the rest of the region doing to bring the above sides together? It is disappointing that to date the rest of SAARC has failed to launch a major diplomatic drive to bring peace between the feuding regional heavyweights. It needs to act without delay and establish its earnestness and this effort would need to prove SAARC’s staying power in the unfolding months and even years.

In assessing SAARC’s seeming failure local opinion in particular has failed to factor in what could be described as weak leadership. Since Sheikh Mujibur Rahman of Bangladesh, the founding father of SAARC, the region has failed to produce a visionary leader who could advance the SAARC cause with charisma and drive.

Among other reasons, weak leadership accounts considerably for the faltering and stuttering status, as it were, of SAARC. Badly needed are leaders who could go the extra mile, think less of narrow national interests and work diligently towards the collective well being of the region but SAARC’s millions of ordinary people have been made to wait in vain for leaders of such stature. Instead, they have been burdened with politicians who seem to be relishing the apparently moribund state of SAARC.

Looking back, it could be said that it was the dynamic leadership factor that led to the launching of the Non-Aligned Movement and for its sustenance for a few decades. True, it could be seen in some quarters that NAM is no more, but as in the case of SAARC, the former too has been unfortunate to be burdened over the years with politicians who lack the vision and drive to unflaggingly advance the fortunes of the South. NAM and SAARC lack the dynamism and vision of leaders of the stature of Jawaharlal Nehru, for example, to give them the required guidance and intellectual depth.

The reasons are complex for there not being among us currently political leaders with the vision and the steadfast commitment to advance the legitimate interests of the South. However, it could be stated with conviction that the majority of Southern leaders have too easily caved in to the demands of the global North and its financial agencies.

These leaders have failed to see, for instance, that the largely market economy oriented Northern governments would not view with favour a centrist economic model that attaches priority to the interests of the dis-empowered publics of the South. This realization ought to have dawned on the current government in Sri Lanka, for instance, some while ago but it has no choice but to abide by IMF dictates since economic survival at present is unthinkable without the latter’s succour.

Accordingly for SAARC this should be the time for some soul-searching. Priority needs to be attached to ending the feuding between India and Pakistan since at present the material fortunes of the region hinge largely on these regional giants giving peaceful relations among them a try. This is no easy challenge to meet but some daring, visionary diplomacy needs to take hold among the rest of SAARC.

There is some sense in SAARC bringing the peoples of the region together through programs that address their best collective interests. A meeting of minds among SAARC nations could enable SAARC and its agencies to build a region-wide people’s movement for progressive political and economic change that could in turn lead to the region’s political leaders sensitizing themselves more to the neglected needs of their publics.

However, the time is ‘now’ for the initiation of these progressive changes and the voice of SAARC well wishers would need to drown out those of their critics.

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OPA seminar examines Sri Lanka’s economic recovery, resilience and growth pathways

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(L to R) Dr Achinthya Koswatte, Anushan Kapilan, Dr Harsha Aturupane, Bhanu Wijeyaratne, Vice President, OPA and moderator of the discussion, and Eng Chamil Edirimuny, General Secretary, OPA, at the head table.

A seminar, “Sri Lanka’s Economic Crossroads: Navigating Recovery, Resilience and Growth” was recently held by the Organisation of Professional Associations of Sri Lanka (OPA) at the OPA Auditorium, bringing together economists, OPA members, and professionals from diverse fields for an insightful discussion on Sri Lanka’s economic recovery and future growth prospects.

The event was held under the patronage of Jayantha Gallehewa, President of the OPA, and was jointly organised by the National Issues Committee (NIC) and the Seminars, Workshops and Programmes Committee of the OPA. The event reaffirmed the organisation’s commitment to advancing professional excellence, fostering insightful intellectual engagement, facilitating interdisciplinary knowledge exchange and creating a constructive platform for informed dialogue on issues of national importance.

The panel of speakers comprised Dr. Harsha Aturupane, Lead Economist and Programme Leader for Human Development at the World Bank for Sri Lanka and the Maldives; Dr. Achinthya Koswatta, Senior Lecturer in Economics at the Open University of Sri Lanka, and Anushan Kapilan, Lead Economist at Verité Research.

In his welcome address, the President of the OPA emphasised that Sri Lanka was at a critical juncture in its economic recovery journey where sustained reforms, effective implementation, and collective national commitment are essential to achieving long-term stability, resilience and inclusive growth. He noted that the country had experienced one of the most severe economic crises in its history with the economy contracting by 7.8 percent in 2022 and a further 11.5 percent in 2023, resulting in significant economic and social challenges.

Delivering his introductory remarks Bhanu Wijeyaratne, Vice President of the OPA and Chairman of the National Issues Committee, underscored the need to move beyond short-term economic stabilisation towards a comprehensive agenda of structural transformation. He observed that the economic crisis had revealed deep-rooted weaknesses within the economy, including persistent fiscal pressures, rising public debt, foreign exchange limitations, and insufficient diversification of the export base. He stressed that addressing these challenges through strategic reforms, institutional strengthening and long-term economic planning would be essential to establishing a more resilient and competitive economy.

While acknowledging recent positive developments, including improved inflation management, tourism recovery and signs of economic stabilisation, Wijeyaratne stressed the need to advance reforms aimed at strengthening fiscal discipline, enhancing productivity, improving competitiveness, developing human capital and reinforcing governance and institutional effectiveness.

He further highlighted the important role of professionals, businesses, academia and other stakeholders in contributing to evidence-based dialogue and supporting Sri Lanka’s journey towards a resilient, inclusive and sustainable economic future.

Delivering the keynote presentation, Dr. Harsha Aturupane provided a comprehensive assessment of Sri Lanka’s economic prospects within the broader context of global economic transformation. He argued that Sri Lanka functioned as a small open economy whose performance is significantly influenced by developments in the global marketplace. External factors could not be controlled, and the country must strengthen its domestic capacity and resilience to respond effectively to international economic shifts, he noted.

Tracing the evolution of global economic systems, Dr. Aturupane highlighted the transition from ideological divisions between state-controlled and market-oriented economies towards increasingly pragmatic approaches focused on growth, competitiveness and development. He noted that Sri Lanka’s own economic journey reflects a similar evolution, with contemporary policy debates now centred on practical solutions for sustainable economic progress.

The presentation also examined the transformative impact of globalisation. Dr. Aturupane observed that global economic integration had enabled several East Asian economies, including South Korea, Singapore, Taiwan and Hong Kong, to achieve remarkable economic advancement through export-led growth strategies. Sri Lanka similarly benefited from this process through the expansion of its apparel industry and increased integration into global value chains.

Turning to Sri Lanka’s recovery programme, Dr. Aturupane emphasised that the ongoing stabilisation process should be viewed as a national programme supported by the International Monetary Fund rather than solely as an IMF initiative. He observed that strong worker remittances, improved tourism earnings, enhanced government revenue mobilisation and prudent import management have contributed significantly to economic stabilisation.

Despite this progress, he cautioned that rebuilding foreign exchange reserves and meeting future debt obligations remain major challenges. He underscored the need to strengthen export performance, attract investment and generate sustainable foreign exchange earnings to ensure long-term economic resilience.

The discussion also focused on monetary stability, inflation management and exchange-rate policy. Dr. Aturupane stressed that maintaining price stability was fundamental to sustainable growth and household welfare, while sound monetary policy remains essential for preserving economic confidence.

Looking beyond stabilisation, he argued that Sri Lanka must transition towards a broader economic transformation agenda. Sustainable growth, he noted, will depend on expanding productive capacity through investment, technological advancement, innovation, skills development and structural reforms.

Among the key constraints identified was the high cost of energy, which continues to affect competitiveness and investment attractiveness. Dr. Aturupane emphasised the importance of improving efficiency and affordability within the energy sector to enhance Sri Lanka’s business environment.

He further highlighted the social dimensions of the crisis, noting the rise in poverty and economic vulnerability among households. Strengthening social protection systems and ensuring inclusive growth, he argued, must remain central components of the national development agenda.

Another critical challenge identified was Sri Lanka’s demographic transition. With an ageing population, outward migration and evolving labour market dynamics, the country is increasingly confronting labour shortages in several sectors. Dr. Aturupane suggested that greater automation, increased labour-force participation and strategic workforce planning would be necessary to address these emerging realities.

Concluding his presentation, he emphasised the need to improve governance, strengthen institutions, enhance competitiveness and create an enabling environment for private sector investment. Sri Lanka’s future success, he noted, will depend on its ability to move decisively beyond crisis management towards a development model founded on resilience, innovation, productivity and inclusive growth.

Dr. Achinthya Koswatta reiterated the importance of policy consistency and predictability in fostering investment and industrial development. She observed that frequent policy changes create uncertainty and discourage long-term investment decisions, whereas stable and coherent policy frameworks build confidence and support sustainable economic transformation.

Meanwhile, Anushan Kapilan highlighted the substantial progress achieved in restoring macroeconomic stability following the recent crisis. He noted significant improvements in fiscal performance, including increased government revenue, reduced reliance on debt financing and a historically low fiscal deficit.

He further observed that public debt levels are declining faster than anticipated, economic growth has exceeded expectations and inflation has been brought under control more rapidly than forecast. Nevertheless, he cautioned that the recovery remains uneven, particularly within the industrial sector and that many households have yet to experience a meaningful improvement in living standards.

The seminar was expertly coordinated by Eng. Chamil Edirimuni, Vice President of the OPA and Chairman of the Seminars, Workshops and Programmes Committee, while the technical moderation and interactive discussion session were facilitated by Bhanu Wijeyaratne, Vice President of the OPA and Chairman of the National Issues Committee.

The event was attended by Tisara De Silva, President-Elect of the OPA, Eng. Ravi Rupasinghe, General Secretary, Past Presidents, members of the Executive Council, representatives of the General Forum and professionals representing a wide range of disciplines.

The seminar concluded with a vibrant exchange of ideas and perspectives, reaffirming the importance of evidence-based policy dialogue, institutional collaboration and collective national commitment in advancing Sri Lanka’s economic recovery, resilience and sustainable growth.

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Her roots run deep in Sri Lanka

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Samantha Kay: Now based in the UK Samantha’s biggest passion is helping people, especially women, build confidence and believe in themselves Today, her focus is on radio, podcasting and coaching women Whenever she visits Sri Lanka, she says she loves spending time on the beautiful south coast, especially Hikkaduwa and Mirissa She released a song with 90s music icon Angie Brown, which reached No. 9 in the UK Club Charts

Yes, for UK-based presenter and artiste Samantha Kay, home is where the heart – and the roots – are. And her roots run deep in Sri Lanka.

In an exclusive interview with The Island, Samantha says “I’m proud to be Sri Lankan. My mum is from Kandy and my dad is from Colombo, so Sri Lanka has always held a very special place in my heart.

“Whenever I visit Sri Lanka, I love spending time on the beautiful south coast, especially Hikkaduwa and Mirissa. It’s somewhere I always feel connected to my roots and completely at peace.”

Now living in Bournemouth, on the south coast of England, where, she says, she is lucky to be close to some of the UK’s most beautiful beaches, including the iconic Sandbanks, Samantha has built a career that refuses to fit into one box.

She is a radio presenter, podcast host, singer-songwriter, personal trainer and life coach.

“I genuinely love the variety because every role allows me to connect with people and, hopefully, make a positive difference in someone’s day.”

Of course, music has taken her far.

One of her proudest achievements, she says, was releasing a song with 90s music icon Angie Brown, which reached No. 9 in the UK Club Charts.

She also reached the final stages of The X Factor and performed at Wembley Stadium in front of thousands.

Beyond music, Samantha competed in bikini bodybuilding across the UK, winning several titles. “It taught me discipline, resilience and self-belief,” she recalls.

Today, her focus is on radio, podcasting and coaching women. Her podcast encourages people to live life on their own terms rather than feeling pressured to follow society’s expectations.

Says Samantha: “Whether someone is single, changing careers, travelling solo or simply trying to find their purpose, I want them to know that it’s never too late to create a life that feels authentic. If you’ve ever felt like you don’t fit into the box, maybe you were never meant to.”

Samantha Kay also spent a year in Dubai, performing at five-star hotels, including FIVE, and coaching at the iconic outdoor gym on Palm Jumeirah.

“I taught strength and conditioning classes, and hosted wellness retreats, combining my passion for music, health and inspiring others.”

However, with family matters calling her back to the UK, she made the choice to return. “Family comes first,” she says.

Looking ahead, Samantha plans to grow her radio and podcast work, release more music, and expand her wellness retreats.

“My biggest passion is helping people, especially women, build confidence and believe in themselves,” she says.

“Wherever my career takes me, I hope to continue inspiring others to live with courage, kindness and authenticity, while never forgetting my Sri Lankan roots.”

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