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Beyond the screen:Reclaiming real relationships in a hyperreal world

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On a quiet Sunday evening at Galle Face Green, it is easy to notice something unusual. Families gather, couples stroll by the sea, and children chase kites in the wind. Yet, instead of gazing at the sunset, most eyes are fixed on glowing screens. A father points his phone at his daughter, ensuring the moment is “Instagram-worthy.” A teenage boy records a TikTok dance, barely noticing his grandmother waving him to share an ice cream. The scene is cheerful, but it also carries an invisible weight: are we truly living these moments, or only rehearsing them for a digital audience?

This question takes us into the world of hyperreality, a concept made famous by the French thinker Jean Baudrillard. In simple terms, hyperreality describes a condition where the boundaries between the real world and the world of images, symbols, and media blur until we can no longer separate one from the other. Social media has become the grand stage of this hyperreality, offering users not just connection, but an alternative universe one that feels more colorful, exciting, and rewarding than everyday life.

The Rise of a World Beyond Reality

In the past, people lived in tangible spaces villages, neighborhoods, workplaces where relationships were built as in one on one. Today, however, many live in digitally constructed realities. Facebook “likes” validate friendships, TikTok trends determine relevance, and Instagram feeds become curated self-portraits. The “real” is no longer enough; it must be filtered, edited, and broadcast.

Sri Lanka, like much of the world, has not escaped this tide. According to the Telecommunications Regulatory Commission, over 12 million Sri Lankans actively use social media platforms. For young people in Colombo, Kandy, or even Jaffna, digital identity often takes precedence over the physical one. A university student may spend hours polishing her Facebook profile, yet feel uncomfortable speaking with classmates in person. A middle-aged professional may post smiling selfies with his family while, in reality, his marriage quietly crumbles.

In hyperreality, appearance is not just a mask of reality it becomes reality itself. For many, life offline begins to feel dull compared to the constant excitement online.

Cracks in Human Bonds

This transformation, however, comes at a cost. Across the world, sociologists note that hyperreality has weakened physical intimacy. In Sri Lanka too, the signs are visible.

Divorce rates, once rare in a society that valued family cohesion, have been steadily rising. According to recent legal records, Colombo courts hear thousands of divorce cases annually many citing lacks of communication, neglect, or infidelity discovered online. Marriage counselors often describe situations where spouses are physically present but emotionally absent, lost in the glow of smartphones.

“It is heartbreaking,” says a counselor in Kandy. “A husband may spend hours chatting with strangers online, building fantasies, while his wife feels invisible in the same house. Social media promises connection, but often delivers disconnection.”

Among youth, the situation is equally stark. University campuses are filled with students who maintain vibrant online personas but struggle to hold real conversations. Physical friendships, once nurtured through shared meals, cricket matches, or late-night study sessions, now risk being replaced by endless scrolling.

When Families Become Followers

Hyperreality also reshapes family life. In villages of the Southern Province, elders often complain that children no longer visit them as frequently. “They talk to us less,” says an elderly farmer in Matara, “but they are always on the phone. Sometimes they send us pictures through WhatsApp, but it is not the same as sitting together for tea.”

What is striking is that family members often turn into audiences for one another. Instead of shared experiences, life is mediated through posts and stories. A child’s birthday is incomplete without a perfectly decorated cake shared on Instagram; a family trip is measured not by laughter, but by the number of likes.

As Baudrillard warned, the copy replaces the original, the symbol becomes more real than the thing itself. The Facebook post of the family outing may appear happier than the outing itself.

Global Warnings and Local Lessons

This problem is not unique to Sri Lanka. In countries like South Korea and the United States, the rise of hyperreality has been linked to loneliness, depression, and declining marriage rates. Japan has even coined terms such as “hikikomori” for youth who retreat entirely into virtual lives.

Sri Lanka is beginning to feel similar tremors. Beyond rising divorces, schools report difficulties in student attention spans. Teachers in Colombo complain that children are more interested in filming TikTok dances than playing cricket in the

schoolyard. Religious leaders, from Buddhist monks to Christian priests, frequently urge congregations to practice “digital discipline.”

Some communities are taking action. Several Colombo-based schools have introduced phone-free events, encouraging students to leave devices at the gate during sports meets or concerts. Non-governmental organizations have begun promoting “mindful technology use” workshops, teaching families to balance screen time with real-world bonding. Even local businesses such as cafés in Kandy and Galle experiment with “no-WiFi zones,” encouraging conversation instead of browsing.

Phone-Free Movements:

A Ray of Hope

One inspiring example comes from a rural school in Kurunegala, where teachers noticed that students were spending break times silently scrolling. They introduced a “Phone-Free Friday” initiative, asking students to deposit their phones before classes began. At first, students resisted, complaining of boredom. But within weeks, the playground filled again with games of tag and volleyball. Friendships rekindled. Laughter replaced silence.

Similar experiments have been seen in Colombo offices, where companies encourage “device-free meetings.” By banning phones at the conference table, managers’ report not only greater focus but also warmer professional relationships.

These efforts show that while hyperreality is powerful, it is not irreversible. People long for genuine human contact, even if the digital world tempts them constantly.

A Culture at the Crossroads

Sri Lanka stands at a cultural crossroads. On one side lies the seductive pull of hyperreality filters, likes, and carefully curated images. On the other lies the fragile but deeply human reality of physical presence, shared meals, unfiltered conversations, and face-to-face relationships.

The danger is clear: if hyperreality dominates, the very fabric of Sri Lankan society built on extended families, village bonds, and community rituals may weaken.

Marriage will become less about companionship and more about performance. Friendships will dissolve into algorithmic interactions. Festivals like Vesak or Christmas may turn into backdrops for selfies rather than occasions for genuine spirituality.

Yet, the solution is equally clear: reclaiming balance. Hyperreality cannot be entirely rejected; social media does offer benefits connecting relatives abroad, amplifying small businesses, giving youth creative outlets. But it must not replace reality. Instead, it should serve it.

Experts recommend several steps:

1. Digital Literacy Education: Schools should teach not only how to use social media, but also how to question it. Students must learn to recognize when they are slipping from reality into hyperreality.

2. Family Rituals Without Phones: Families can revive traditions such as shared meals without devices, temple visits, or weekend outings where the focus is on presence rather than posting.

3. Community Campaigns: Just as Sri Lanka successfully campaigned against smoking in public, it could also promote “phone-free zones” in parks, libraries, and religious sites.

4. Personal Reflection: Individuals can ask themselves: “Am I posting this for memory or for validation? Am I living this moment, or staging it ?”

As the waves crash against the rocks of Galle Face, the sunset does not need a filter to be beautiful. The laughter of a child, the warmth of a grandmother’s hug, the conversation between friends over a cup of tea these moments are richer than any digital simulation. Sri Lankans, like people everywhere, must ask themselves whether they will continue drifting into hyperreality or anchor themselves in the messy, imperfect, but profoundly authentic reality of human connection. In the end, the choice is not between the real and the unreal, but between living fully and merely scrolling through life.

As we navigate this hyperreal world, the challenge is not to reject technology but to reclaim our ability to build genuine, human connections beyond the screen. Social media and AI, like all powerful tools, carry both risks and promises. As U.S. Vice President JD Vance remarked at the 2025 Paris AI Summit, they are “weapons that are dangerous in the wrong hands but incredible tools for liberty and prosperity in the right hands.” The task before us, then, is to ensure that these technologies serve as bridges to real relationships rather than barriers, empowering us to enrich not replace the world of authentic human connection.

(The writer is a university lecturer in sociology. Views are personal)

by Milinda Mayadunna ✍️



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From stabilisation to transformation without delay

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At a symposium on reconciliation organised by the National Peace Council last week, more than 250 religious clergy, civic activists and political representatives from different communities gathered to discuss the country’s future. Speaking at the event, Minister Bimal Rathnayake explained the government’s approach to national reconciliation. He said the government viewed the country’s recovery in terms of a three stage process. The first stage was stabilisation, the second was development and the third was transformation. Reconciliation, he implied, would come in that final stage. The participation of Opposition Leader Sajith Premadasa at the same symposium, and the constructive nature of his comments, strengthens that hope.

When the present NPP government took office in 2024, the country was emerging from one of the gravest crises in its post Independence history. The economic collapse of 2022 had led to shortages of fuel, food, medicines and electricity. Inflation soared, foreign reserves disappeared and long queues became part of daily life. The political upheaval that followed culminated in the resignation of former President Gotabaya Rajapaksa after mass public protests under the banner of the Aragalaya movement. The country was then governed by a leadership that spoke the language of reform and reconciliation but was widely perceived as lacking a direct popular mandate.

Sri Lanka’s past experience suggests that stabilisation and transformation cannot be treated as entirely separate stages. Postponing reconciliation until some future moment risks repeating the failures of the past. If transformation is endlessly delayed until a supposedly perfect moment arrives, there will always be new crises and new reasons for postponement. Minister Rathnayake’s contention that the government’s immediate priority has necessarily been stabilisation flows from the government’s awareness of the precarious situation the country is. Over the past two years, the government has succeeded to a significant extent in restoring economic and political stability. Inflation has reduced, shortages have ended and public institutions have regained a degree of functionality.

Guaranteed Changes

On the other hand, the country’s development continues to face challenges due to adverse global conditions, including disruptions caused by conflict in the Middle East and extreme weather events that have affected tourism, trade and the cost of living. The danger is that reconciliation may be indefinitely postponed in the name of stabilisation. This danger can be reduced if the government works proactively with the opposition and civil society to commence practical measures of transformation now rather than later. The participation of Opposition Leader Sajith Premadasa at the symposium, and the constructive nature of his comments, has strengthened the sense that bipartisan engagement on reconciliation may now be possible.

The urgency of transformation came through strongly in the presentations made by representatives of the Sri Lanka Tamil and Malaiyaha Tamil communities. ITAK parliamentarian S.Shritharan spoke of the frustration caused by unresolved post war issues in the north and east. He referred to disputes regarding land occupied during the war years, including controversies linked to Buddhist temples and state sponsored settlement activity in areas claimed by local communities. He also pointed to the continuing large scale presence of the security forces in the north and east nearly two decades after the end of the war. These grievances have remained central to Tamil political discourse since the end of the armed conflict in 2009. Families displaced by war continue to seek the return of ancestral lands. Civil society organisations in the north have repeatedly called for greater civilian control over local administration and a reduction in military involvement in civilian life.

Academic research and practical work on the ground have shown that reconciliation cannot be separated from questions of dignity, equality and justice. Former minister Mano Ganesan, leader of the Democratic People’s Front, focused on the longstanding problems faced by the Malaiyaha Tamil community. He spoke passionately about continuing housing shortages, landlessness and economic marginalisation, issues that have persisted since Independence. He also highlighted the devastating impact of recent extreme weather events on estate communities that remain socially and economically vulnerable. The condition of the Malaiyaha Tamil community remains one of the enduring social justice issues in Sri Lanka.

After Independence in 1948, a large proportion of them were denied citizenship and voting rights through legislation that rendered them stateless. Though citizenship rights were eventually restored, the social and economic consequences of exclusion continue to be felt generations later.

Many families still lack secure housing and land ownership despite their immense contribution to the country’s plantation economy. Minister Rathnayake’s responses to both these concerns were politically significant. He argued that recent political developments, including the declining influence of narrow ethnic politics across communities, indicated a major shift in public attitudes. According to him, the political ground has changed in ways that make it increasingly difficult for politicians who rely primarily on ethnic division and communal insecurity to retain public support.

Inter-Connected

There is evidence to support the assessment about the changing political grounding which sees future prospects in the resolution of long standing problems. . The economic collapse of 2022 affected all communities alike and generated a new politics centred on governance, anti corruption, accountability and economic justice. The Aragalaya protests brought together Sinhalese, Tamils and Muslims in a common demand for political change. Although ethnic grievances have not disappeared, the crisis created space for a broader understanding that the country’s future depends on cooperation rather than division. Opposition Leader Premadasa’s comments at the symposium reflected this changing political climate. He emphasised that national reconciliation could not be separated from economic justice and the need to address disparities between regions and social classes.v He also mentioned the need for civil society organisations to take this message to the community. This wider understanding of reconciliation is important because ethnic inequality and economic inequality have often reinforced each other in Sri Lanka’s history.

Academic studies have identified the denial of citizenship rights after Independence as a historic injustice that set back the Malaiyaha community for decades. The challenge now is to ensure that transformation becomes part of the stabilisation and development process itself. Practical first steps are both possible and necessary. The release of civilian lands still under state control, greater devolution of administrative authority, reduction of military involvement in civilian affairs, language equality in public administration and accelerated housing and land ownership programmes in the plantation sector are all measures that can begin immediately without waiting for a final stage of transformation.

The government’s recent commitment that provincial council elections will finally be held this year is therefore significant. These elections have been repeatedly postponed by successive governments. Holding them would not solve the ethnic conflict by itself. But it would signal a willingness to restore democratic institutions and share power in a meaningful way.

Sri Lanka has repeatedly postponed difficult reforms in the hope that a more convenient political moment would eventually arrive. But opportunities are invariably created and fought for instead of being provided as a gift by a benevolent government.

The present moment, shaped by the economic crisis and public demand for accountable government, offers a rare opportunity to move simultaneously towards stability, development and reconciliation. Provincial council elections can be the first meaningful step. But they must not be the last.

by Jehan Perera

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Researchers to shape new environmental policy framework

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Some of the researchers at the meeting

In a significant move aimed at steering Sri Lanka’s environmental governance towards a more science-based and evidence-driven path, the Ministry of Environment has initiated a new collaborative mechanism to integrate leading researchers into national policy formulation and conservation planning.

The initiative was discussed at a high-level meeting chaired by Dr. Dammika Patabendi at the Ministry of Environment on Tuesday, where top environmental scientists, wildlife experts and researchers were invited to contribute towards what officials described as a “strategic transition” in the country’s environmental management framework.

The discussions focused on strengthening the scientific basis of environmental conservation programmes and national policy decisions while creating a more research-friendly environment for academics and field scientists engaged in biodiversity and ecological studies.

Particular attention was paid to long-standing concerns raised by researchers regarding procedural and operational difficulties encountered when conducting studies in collaboration with the Department of Wildlife Conservation and the Forest Department.

Minister Patabendi stressed the need for environmental policies to be guided by credible scientific data rather than ad hoc administrative decisions, ministry sources said.

Among the key proposals discussed was the establishment of a streamlined mechanism that would reduce bureaucratic obstacles faced by researchers in obtaining approvals, accessing field sites and sharing scientific findings with state institutions.

The Minister highlighted the importance of building stronger partnerships between policymakers and the scientific community at a time when Sri Lanka is grappling with escalating environmental challenges including deforestation, biodiversity loss, human-elephant conflict, climate-related disasters and ecosystem degradation.

Environmentalists attending the meeting had also highlighted the urgent necessity of incorporating empirical research into national decision-making processes to ensure long-term ecological sustainability and better resource management.

The meeting brought together several of Sri Lanka’s leading environmental researchers and academics including Rohan Pethiyagoda, Saminda Fernando, Sewwandi Jayakody, Samantha Gunasekara, Dinidu Devapura, Himesh Jayasinghe, Manoj Prasanna, Mendis Wickramasinghe and Suranjan Karunarathna.

Director General of Wildlife Conservation Ranjan Marasinghe also participated in the deliberations.

Officials said the proposed framework is expected to pave the way for a more transparent, data-oriented and scientifically credible environmental governance structure capable of addressing emerging conservation challenges more effectively.

The government expects the new mechanism to support the implementation of practical and scientifically robust programmes aimed at safeguarding Sri Lanka’s ecological future while enhancing cooperation between state agencies and the country’s growing community of environmental researchers.

 

By Ifham Nizam

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Back home … for a special occasion

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Seven Notes: Sri Lankans based in Dubai – with Niluk (second from left)

Niluk Uswaththa, of Seven Notes fame, based in Dubai, surprised many when he and his wife Apeksha, turned up in Colombo, last week … unannounced.

Yes, they had a purpose in their surprise visit … to wish Apeksha’s mum for her birthday, which was on Monday, 18th May, and what a surprise it turned out to be!

In an exclusive chit-chat with The Island, Niluk said that the scene in Dubai is improving and Seven Notes do have work coming their way.

Since the members of Seven Notes are all employed (doing day jobs), they operate only on Saturdays and Sundays.

Niluk: Didn’t come prepared to perform, but obliged
friends in Galle

In fact, to get to Colombo for the birthday surprise (on Monday, 18th May), the band had to skip their 17th May, Sunday gig.

“Although it’s a short vacation, my wife and I are enjoying the setup here,” said Niluk, adding that they spent two days in Galle and that their next destination is Anuradhapura.”

Niluk didn’t come prepared to perform, but he obliged the crowd present, at a friend’s birthday celebrations, in Galle, singing and playing guitar.

They are scheduled to leave for their home, in Dubai, in the first week of June.

Seven Notes is an outfit made up of Sri Lankans and the band has been around for almost nine years.

Niluk came into their scene nearly seven years ago.

“When I went to Dubai, I had offers coming my way but it was Seven Notes that impressed me because of their acoustic style.”

The Dubai’s entertainment scene is showing clear signs of bouncing back and even levelling up in the next few months.

Niluk and Apeksha: Enjoying their short vacation

After a slowdown earlier this year due to regional tensions, shows and festivals are back on the calendar, and organisers say late 2026 could be the busiest concert season in years.

Time Out Dubai says “the 2026 concert calendar is filling up nicely” and “the city is ready to party once again” after some reschedules.

Dubai Summer Surprises in July brings retail activations, comedy nights, and indoor art exhibitions.

Organisers point to a backlog of postponed events that are being rescheduled for late 2026 and early 2027.

Yes, Dubai is calm on the surface but on alert. Life is mostly normal in the city, but there’s a “balancing act” as people watch for escalation.

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