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PARENTS STILL WORRY!

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by Goolbai Gunasekara

Although I am now an ex- Principal of an International School, I am still asked the same questions albeit in varied degrees of anxiety, “Did you have much trouble having boys and girls in the same class?” I interpret the question correctly as being, “Did you have trouble BETWEEN boys and girls in the same school?” What parents REALLY want to know is if I have nabbed ever any miscreants in the act of a hand squeeze and/or even heaven forbid – a kiss.

With absolute truth I can state that I did not. For one thing I was not in the habit of peeping behind doors or peering under desks looking for trouble and for another I trusted the good sense of my pupils. It was rarely misplaced. Boys and girls studying together destroys that sense of mystique that coloured my own days in an all-girls’ school. Boys are no longer the god-like beings they seemed when we had little to do with them and only saw them at a distance enveloped in a rosy haze of our own imaginings.

And what of our parents? Were they traumatized by fears for our continuing innocence? Did they drive themselves into early graves wondering what on earth we were up to during those few minutes we were sent to school in the family car? They employed Mossad agents to act as drivers unless they actually drove us to school themselves.

For those of us who rode bicycles parents still had means of checking. They simply phoned other parents whose drivers had given them the all clear and assured them we had been seen turning into the school gate with no lurking Romeos to be seen in the near vicinity. Believe me, the CIA had a lot to learn from methods employed by parents of yore like keeping track of those randy boys of the time.

In the meantime what about us? Refrigerated in purity we remained icily untouchable until defrosted at some later date by some equally inexperienced young man. However, the process was all very slow and rather exciting in fact. A young man usually phoned in secret when both sides were fairly sure the coasts was clear… Had parents known what was in store for young ladies in the 21st century they might have decided not to procreate at all.

Youngsters of today are so lucky. Parents worry of course. Worry was bred into the very brains of a father and panic into the bones of a mother 60 years ago. According to our mamas, boys were dastardly beings who were never to be trusted. How they eventually developed into being the kindly, benevolent fathers we knew was never clearly explained. We assumed boys were initiated early into mysteries of life and love. But all this was a closed book to us.

The phone would ring around 7 pm and conversations with parents went something like this: –

“Who is this idiot who keeps ringing every evening at this time and asking for the Lotteries Board” asks an irate father.

“So our number is different by only one-digit Daddy.”

“I find it positively remarkable that so many people make the same mistake at the same time every evening. Do telephone lines cross by any chance?”

Those were the days before telephone numbers of callers appeared on phones. Nonetheless Rima quaked. She well knew the origin of the call. 7 pm was when Romeo’s parents went upstairs to get ready to go out and a happy half hour ensued while Rima pretended to be answering an innocuous call. Rima and Romeo lived for those moments which came as rarely as a snowflake in Hades.

But one day, alas, Papa picked up the upstairs phone connection and overheard the billing and cooing. The ensuing drama was worthy of a Greek tragedy as Papa thundered and boomed that Rima’s future was doomed, doomed, doomed. Her Mother tore her hair and summoned aunts and cousins to a witches’ coven. Dire predictions were made by all and all the various close relatives had a perfectly wonderful time re-hashing the whole incident.

Principals were not informed in case they decided that suspension if not actual expulsion was on the cards. After all, such calls from boys (and without permission too) could only mean one thing. Rima was never to be trusted again. Her security was doubled which meant she could no longer cycle to school. Her grumbling father got up an hour earlier and ensured his errant daughter was transferred safely from home gate to school gate.

Modern communication systems have put an end to all this excitement. I am serenely neutral to who phones whom most of the time. Life can be so stressful otherwise. In any case who uses a home phone these days?

(Excerpted from the ‘Principal Factor’ first published in Lanka Market Digest)



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Maduro abduction marks dangerous aggravation of ‘world disorder’

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Venezuelan President Maduro being taken to a court in New York

The abduction of Venezuelan President Nicolas Maduro by US special forces on January 3rd and his coercive conveying to the US to stand trial over a number of allegations leveled against him by the Trump administration marks a dangerous degeneration of prevailing ‘world disorder’. While some cardinal principles in International Law have been blatantly violated by the US in the course of the operation the fallout for the world from the exceptionally sensational VVIP abduction could be grave.

Although controversial US military interventions the world over are not ‘news’ any longer, the abduction and hustling away of a head of government, seen as an enemy of the US, to stand trial on the latter soil amounts to a heavy-handed and arrogant rejection of the foundational principles of international law and order. It would seem, for instance, that the concept of national sovereignty is no longer applicable to the way in which the world’s foremost powers relate to the rest of the international community. Might is indeed right for the likes of the US and the Trump administration in particular is adamant in driving this point home to the world.

Chief spokesmen for the Trump administration have been at pains to point out that the abduction is not at variance with national security related provisions of the US Constitution. These provisions apparently bestow on the US President wide powers to protect US security and stability through courses of action that are seen as essential to further these ends but the fact is that International Law has been brazenly violated in the process in the Venezuelan case.

To be sure, this is not the first occasion on which a head of government has been abducted by US special forces in post-World War Two times and made to stand trial in the US, since such a development occurred in Panama in 1989, but the consequences for the world could be doubly grave as a result of such actions, considering the mounting ‘disorder’ confronting the world community.

Those sections opposed to the Maduro abduction in the US would do well to from now on seek ways of reconciling national security-related provisions in the US Constitution with the country’s wider international commitment to uphold international peace and law and order. No ambiguities could be permitted on this score.

While the arbitrary military action undertaken by the US to further its narrow interests at whatever cost calls for criticism, it would be only fair to point out that the US is not the only big power which has thus dangerously eroded the authority of International Law in recent times. Russia, for example, did just that when it violated the sovereignty of Ukraine by invading it two or more years ago on some nebulous, unconvincing grounds. Consequently, the Ukraine crisis too poses a grave threat to international peace.

It is relevant to mention in this connection that authoritarian rulers who hope to rule their countries in perpetuity as it were, usually end up, sooner rather than later, being a blight on their people. This is on account of the fact that they prove a major obstacle to the implementation of the democratic process which alone holds out the promise of the prgressive empowerment of the people, whereas authoritarian rulers prefer to rule with an iron fist with a fixation about self-empowerment.

Nevertheless, regime-change, wherever it may occur, is a matter for the public concerned. In a functional democracy, it is the people, and the people only, who ‘make or break’ governments. From this viewpoint, Russia and Venezuela are most lacking. But externally induced, militarily mediated change is a gross abnormality in the world or democracy, which deserves decrying.

By way of damage control, the US could take the initiative to ensure that the democratic process, read as the full empowerment of ordinary people, takes hold in Venezuela. In this manner the US could help in stemming some of the destructive fallout from its abduction operation. Any attempts by the US to take possession of the national wealth of Venezuela at this juncture are bound to earn for it the condemnation of democratic opinion the world over.

Likewise, the US needs to exert all its influence to ensure that the rights of ordinary Ukrainians are protected. It will need to ensure this while exploring ways of stopping further incursions into Ukrainian territory by Russia’s invading forces. It will need to do this in collaboration with the EU which is putting its best foot forward to end the Ukraine blood-letting.

Meanwhile, the repercussions that the Maduro abduction could have on the global South would need to be watched with some concern by the international community. Here too the EU could prove a positive influence since it is doubtful whether the UN would be enabled by the big powers to carry out the responsibilities that devolve on it with the required effectiveness.

What needs to be specifically watched is the ‘copycat effect’ that could manifest among those less democratically inclined Southern rulers who would be inspired by the Trump administration to take the law into their hands, so to speak, and act with callous disregard for the sovereign rights of their smaller and more vulnerable neighbours.

Democratic opinion the world over would need to think of systems of checks and balances that could contain such power abuse by Southern autocratic rulers in particular. The UN and democracy-supportive organizations, such as the EU, could prove suitable partners in these efforts.

All in all it is international lawlessness that needs managing effectively from now on. If President Trump carries out his threat to over-run other countries as well in the manner in which he ran rough-shod over Venezuela, there is unlikely to remain even a semblance of international order, considering that anarchy would be receiving a strong fillip from the US, ‘The World’s Mightiest Democracy’.

What is also of note is that identity politics in particularly the South would be unprecedentedly energized. The narrative that ‘the Great Satan’ is running amok would win considerable validity among the theocracies of the Middle East and set the stage for a resurgence of religious fanaticism and invigorated armed resistance to the US. The Trump administration needs to stop in its tracks and weigh the pros and cons of its current foreign policy initiatives.

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Pure Christmas magic and joy at British School

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Students of The British High School in Colombo in action at the fashion show

The British School in Colombo (BSC) hosted its Annual Christmas Carnival 2025, ‘Gingerbread Wonderland’, which was a huge success, with the students themseles in the spotlight, managing stalls and volunteering.

The event, organised by the Parent-Teacher Association (PTA), featured a variety of activities, including: Games and rides for all ages, Food stalls offering delicious treats, Drinks and refreshments, Trade booths showcasing local products, and Live music and entertainment.

The carnival was held at the school premises, providing a fun and festive atmosphere for students, parents, and the community to enjoy.

The halls of the BSC were filled with pure Christmas magic and joy with the students and the staff putting on a tremendous display.

Among the highlights was the dazzling fashion show with the students doing the needful, and they were very impressive.

The students themselves were eagerly looking forward to displaying their modelling technique and, I’m told, they enjoyed the moment they had to step on the ramp.

The event supported communities affected by the recent floods, with surplus proceeds going to flood-relief efforts.

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Glowing younger looking skin

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Hi! This week I’m giving you some beauty tips so that you could look forward to enjoying 2026 with a glowing younger looking skin.

Face wash for natural beauty

* Avocado:

Take the pulp, make a paste of it and apply on your face. Leave it on for five minutes and then wash it with normal water.

* Cucumber:

Just rub some cucumber slices on your face for 02-03 minutes to cleanse the oil naturally. Wash off with plain water.

* Buttermilk:

Apply all over your face and leave it to dry, then wash it with normal water (works for mixed to oily skin).

Face scrub for natural beauty

Take 01-02 strawberries, 02 pieces of kiwis or 02 cubes of watermelons. Mash any single fruit and apply on your face. Then massage or scrub it slowly for at least 3-5 minutes in circular motions. Then wash it thoroughly with normal or cold water. You can make use of different fruits during different seasons, and see what suits you best! Follow with a natural face mask.

Face Masks

* Papaya and Honey:

Take two pieces of papaya (peeled) and mash them to make a paste. Apply evenly on your face and leave it for 30 minutes and then wash it with cold water.

Papaya is just not a fruit but one of the best natural remedies for good health and glowing younger looking skin. It also helps in reducing pimples and scars. You can also add honey (optional) to the mixture which helps massage and makes your skin glow.

* Banana:

Put a few slices of banana, 01 teaspoon of honey (optional), in a bowl, and mash them nicely. Apply on your face, and massage it gently all over the face for at least 05 minutes. Then wash it off with normal water. For an instant glow on your face, this facemask is a great idea to try!

* Carrot:

Make a paste using 01 carrot (steamed) by mixing it with milk or honey and apply on your face and neck evenly. Let it dry for 15-20 minutes and then wash it with cold water. Carrots work really well for your skin as they have many vitamins and minerals, which give instant shine and younger-looking skin.

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