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Comment: Arundhati Roy’s Mother Mary Comes to Me
My title reads ‘Comment …’ I dare not claim this article to be a review of Arundhati’s latest book, since she is too unique a writer for me to attempt criticizing.
I start by saying that her latest book is for the general reader, and not a political or protest publication, is a biography of her mother and autobiography of herself. After a long time I got to read a book that I could not put down – it was so stylishly constructed, written in an easy flowing manner and absorbingly interesting: the two lives – her mother’s after her marriage to a tea planter in Assam and hers from childhood.
The Penguin edition I bought from Vijitha Yapa bookshop soon after its advertised publication date 6 September, was stunning in appearance: brilliant red with the title and author’s name in dull gold letters with a moth of the same colour below. Menacing, I imagine. The author refers to the creature often: “A cold, furry moth on a frightened heart. That moth was my constant companion.” On the back cover is this statement: “In these pages my mother, my gangster, shall live. She was my shelter and my storm.” A half sized, detachable white cover has a picture of the young author with cigarette and at the back an older, salt and pepper haired woman; both arrestingly beautiful.
Content
Having read a couple of reviews in foreign newspapers and an extract from the book, I was under the impression that the entire book was about Mary Roy, Arundhati’s mother. Incorrect. At page 108 of 372, (after 15 short chapters; one third the book) her tumultuous life with her mother ended, (temporarily, I hasten to add) by Arundhati, now a qualified architect and 21, escaping to live in Delhi and breaking ties with her mother. “My unceasing sense of apprehension and the instinct to survive from day to day, moment to moment, were still intact. Perhaps my old friend, the cold furry moth on my heart, saved me from drifting into a life of addiction to drugs or alcohol or crime, which would be the most natural thing to happen to someone like me…. It had been three years since I met or communicated with Mrs Roy. I thought of her often, but mostly with relief that I had escaped. I worried about her, but I knew that I did not yet have what it took to withstand her, to survive.”
Arundhati’s brother, Lalith Kumar Christopher Roy (LKC), a year older than her, remembered better times spent in Assam with the father present. He was equally smothered with maternal derision, scorn, resentment and even physical blows but he suffered silently. He was separated from mother and sister when he went to college in Delhi and then like his uncle, G Isaac, graduated from Balliol College, Oxford University (not precisely documented) and ended up a very successful seafood exporter. He married a teacher at Mrs Roy’s Pallikoodam School, Kottayam, Kerala. On Mrs Roy’s death, LKC’s wife became principal of the now well-known school of holistic education including Bharatanatyam and swimming. The siblings united with their father – Ramjit Roy when he moved to Delhi. She named him Nothing Man and loved him.
Autobiography
Arundhati then moves her biography to the story of herself; her romantic loves, her various interests and undertakings, her marriage and her writing of The God of Small Things (1997) and two decades later her second novel – The Ministry of Utmost Happiness (2017). All is enthrallingly interesting, but me, I stodgily waded through her protests and the inherent police and judicial danger and threats. She was in police remand for one night: contempt of Court. In these periods of time she wrote extensively on the cause she, with others, was espousing, like protesting the building of the Sarda Sarova Dam across the Narmada River in Gujerat, the merciless killing of thousands of Muslims by rioting Hindus in the same state in 2002, and the Kashmir issue. But the novelist in her could not be restrained forever.
“Nothing made me forget the world like reading did. Nothing made me think about the word like reading did. Nothing else filled me up. Nothing else emptied me out…Kipling, Shakespeare, the opening passage of Lolita, G Isaac’s sentences purloined from Joyce’s Ulysses, streaked like comets across my reading sky.”
“Once I started running, once I joined Architecture School, I thought that a writer was the last thing I could ever do. I gave up. And then years later came that letter. Have you ever considered becoming a writer? I knew that I hadn’t found the grazing language-animal. But the bloodhound in me caught the faint, faraway scent of it on the breeze.”
The writer of the letter was JC – Gerard de Cunha – a senior student she moved from the student residence of Architecture School, to live with. To legalise their living together to others-1978 to 1882 – they staged a mock marriage They were entwined with each other as she writes, but separated when he wanted to settle down in Goa and she wanted to return to Delhi.
She got employment in the National Institute of Urban Affairs in New Delhi with a woman as her boss. One day, her boss wanted some documents delivered to her flat. Arundhati took them to find the boss lived above a flat which was raucous with conversation and laughter by some older persons. The boss’ husband opened the door with two small girls clinging to him. She was immediately attracted to him – Pradip Krishen, documentary film maker – and he to her. His erstwhile wife left him shortly afterwards and Arundhati moved to live with him, a foster mother to his two daughters, aged less than ten years, and approved of daughter-in-law to his parents who lived below him and hosted frequent parties. Pradip and she married in 1984 and are a couple though they now live separately. She wrote screen scripts for him, including the BBC, and was paid well and won awards too which kept them in money.
Arundhati, though she initially escaped to Architecture School when 18 and graduated three years later, relented and visited her mother, kept in touch with her and spent her vacations in Kottayam. Mrs Roy continued being wickedly acerbic, sharply sarcastic and disapproving but within her was pride in her daughter as she became an internationally known person. She even told her daughter she had tried to abort the growing fetus in her with eating raw papaw and using a coat hanger.
She arranged a vast event in her school to launch The God…to the Keralan public. She did not want her brother present, but G Isaac did attend, much to his niece and nephew’s delight.
Around the time The Ministry… was published in 2017, Mrs Roy’s health declined and she gradually became house and then room bound. She had plenty helpers and even Kurussammal, first met in their Ooty days of poverty. Arundhati visited her mother often, helped to care for her. Almost at the same time G Isaac and sister Mary Roy were on ventilators. He died, she survived. Arundhati writes when she was stuck in Delhi during the Covid pandemic: “I wanted to hug her and reassure her that everything would be OK. But you can’t hug a porcupine. Not even over the telephone.”
Mary Roy died peacefully at age 89. Arundhati had returned to Delhi. The funeral was almost a state funeral with the police band playing. She was hailed as a great woman: gaining Keralan Christian women’s right to their share of family property and a great educator. Her headstone read:
Mary Roy
Dreamer Warrior Teacher
07.11.1933 – 01. 09.2022
Arundhati mourned her death, the brother took it in his stride. They built a grove in memory of her. Her mother sent her a letter that she loved her and was proud of her; Arundhati showed love and devotion once she returned to her mother.
Judgement
Mother Mary Comes to Me
is a wonderful biography cum autobiography of two remarkable women: double treat. Maybe there is a Christian element in the title and story – mercy. Arundhati’s language and style of writing are unique – short sentences; brilliant comparisons, explicit truths, outrageous once in a while with a stream of humour running through. Well worth its price of Rs 6,300/- It is a must read, more so for women.
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US’ drastic aid cut to UN poses moral challenge to world
‘Adapt, shrink or die’ – thus runs the warning issued by the Trump administration to UN humanitarian agencies with brute insensitivity in the wake of its recent decision to drastically reduce to $2bn its humanitarian aid to the UN system. This is a substantial climb down from the $17bn the US usually provided to the UN for its humanitarian operations.
Considering that the US has hitherto been the UN’s biggest aid provider, it need hardly be said that the US decision would pose a daunting challenge to the UN’s humanitarian operations around the world. This would indeed mean that, among other things, people living in poverty and stifling material hardships, in particularly the Southern hemisphere, could dramatically increase. Coming on top of the US decision to bring to an end USAID operations, the poor of the world could be said to have been left to their devices as a consequence of these morally insensitive policy rethinks of the Trump administration.
Earlier, the UN had warned that it would be compelled to reduce its aid programs in the face of ‘the deepest funding cuts ever.’ In fact the UN is on record as requesting the world for $23bn for its 2026 aid operations.
If this UN appeal happens to go unheeded, the possibilities are that the UN would not be in a position to uphold the status it has hitherto held as the world’s foremost humanitarian aid provider. It would not be incorrect to state that a substantial part of the rationale for the UN’s existence could come in for questioning if its humanitarian identity is thus eroded.
Inherent in these developments is a challenge for those sections of the international community that wish to stand up and be counted as humanists and the ‘Conscience of the World.’ A responsibility is cast on them to not only keep the UN system going but to also ensure its increased efficiency as a humanitarian aid provider to particularly the poorest of the poor.
It is unfortunate that the US is increasingly opting for a position of international isolation. Such a policy position was adopted by it in the decades leading to World War Two and the consequences for the world as a result for this policy posture were most disquieting. For instance, it opened the door to the flourishing of dictatorial regimes in the West, such as that led by Adolph Hitler in Germany, which nearly paved the way for the subjugation of a good part of Europe by the Nazis.
If the US had not intervened militarily in the war on the side of the Allies, the West would have faced the distressing prospect of coming under the sway of the Nazis and as a result earned indefinite political and military repression. By entering World War Two the US helped to ward off these bleak outcomes and indeed helped the major democracies of Western Europe to hold their own and thrive against fascism and dictatorial rule.
Republican administrations in the US in particular have not proved the greatest defenders of democratic rule the world over, but by helping to keep the international power balance in favour of democracy and fundamental human rights they could keep under a tight leash fascism and linked anti-democratic forces even in contemporary times. Russia’s invasion and continued occupation of parts of Ukraine reminds us starkly that the democracy versus fascism battle is far from over.
Right now, the US needs to remain on the side of the rest of the West very firmly, lest fascism enjoys another unfettered lease of life through the absence of countervailing and substantial military and political power.
However, by reducing its financial support for the UN and backing away from sustaining its humanitarian programs the world over the US could be laying the ground work for an aggravation of poverty in the South in particular and its accompaniments, such as, political repression, runaway social discontent and anarchy.
What should not go unnoticed by the US is the fact that peace and social stability in the South and the flourishing of the same conditions in the global North are symbiotically linked, although not so apparent at first blush. For instance, if illegal migration from the South to the US is a major problem for the US today, it is because poor countries are not receiving development assistance from the UN system to the required degree. Such deprivation on the part of the South leads to aggravating social discontent in the latter and consequences such as illegal migratory movements from South to North.
Accordingly, it will be in the North’s best interests to ensure that the South is not deprived of sustained development assistance since the latter is an essential condition for social contentment and stable governance, which factors in turn would guard against the emergence of phenomena such as illegal migration.
Meanwhile, democratic sections of the rest of the world in particular need to consider it a matter of conscience to ensure the sustenance and flourishing of the UN system. To be sure, the UN system is considerably flawed but at present it could be called the most equitable and fair among international development organizations and the most far-flung one. Without it world poverty would have proved unmanageable along with the ills that come along with it.
Dehumanizing poverty is an indictment on humanity. It stands to reason that the world community should rally round the UN and ensure its survival lest the abomination which is poverty flourishes. In this undertaking the world needs to stand united. Ambiguities on this score could be self-defeating for the world community.
For example, all groupings of countries that could demonstrate economic muscle need to figure prominently in this initiative. One such grouping is BRICS. Inasmuch as the US and the West should shrug aside Realpolitik considerations in this enterprise, the same goes for organizations such as BRICS.
The arrival at the above international consensus would be greatly facilitated by stepped up dialogue among states on the continued importance of the UN system. Fresh efforts to speed-up UN reform would prove major catalysts in bringing about these positive changes as well. Also requiring to be shunned is the blind pursuit of narrow national interests.
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Egg white scene …
Hi! Great to be back after my Christmas break.
Thought of starting this week with egg white.
Yes, eggs are brimming with nutrients beneficial for your overall health and wellness, but did you know that eggs, especially the whites, are excellent for your complexion?
OK, if you have no idea about how to use egg whites for your face, read on.
Egg White, Lemon, Honey:
Separate the yolk from the egg white and add about a teaspoon of freshly squeezed lemon juice and about one and a half teaspoons of organic honey. Whisk all the ingredients together until they are mixed well.
Apply this mixture to your face and allow it to rest for about 15 minutes before cleansing your face with a gentle face wash.
Don’t forget to apply your favourite moisturiser, after using this face mask, to help seal in all the goodness.
Egg White, Avocado:
In a clean mixing bowl, start by mashing the avocado, until it turns into a soft, lump-free paste, and then add the whites of one egg, a teaspoon of yoghurt and mix everything together until it looks like a creamy paste.
Apply this mixture all over your face and neck area, and leave it on for about 20 to 30 minutes before washing it off with cold water and a gentle face wash.
Egg White, Cucumber, Yoghurt:
In a bowl, add one egg white, one teaspoon each of yoghurt, fresh cucumber juice and organic honey. Mix all the ingredients together until it forms a thick paste.
Apply this paste all over your face and neck area and leave it on for at least 20 minutes and then gently rinse off this face mask with lukewarm water and immediately follow it up with a gentle and nourishing moisturiser.
Egg White, Aloe Vera, Castor Oil:
To the egg white, add about a teaspoon each of aloe vera gel and castor oil and then mix all the ingredients together and apply it all over your face and neck area in a thin, even layer.
Leave it on for about 20 minutes and wash it off with a gentle face wash and some cold water. Follow it up with your favourite moisturiser.
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Confusion cropping up with Ne-Yo in the spotlight
Superlatives galore were used, especially on social media, to highlight R&B singer Ne-Yo’s trip to Sri Lanka: Global superstar Ne-Yo to perform live in Colombo this December; Ne-Yo concert puts Sri Lanka back on the global entertainment map; A global music sensation is coming to Sri Lanka … and there were lots more!
At an official press conference, held at a five-star venue, in Colombo, it was indicated that the gathering marked a defining moment for Sri Lanka’s entertainment industry as international R&B powerhouse and three-time Grammy Award winner Ne-Yo prepares to take the stage in Colombo this December.
What’s more, the occasion was graced by the presence of Sunil Kumara Gamage, Minister of Sports & Youth Affairs of Sri Lanka, and Professor Ruwan Ranasinghe, Deputy Minister of Tourism, alongside distinguished dignitaries, sponsors, and members of the media.
According to reports, the concert had received the official endorsement of the Sri Lanka Tourism Promotion Bureau, recognising it as a flagship initiative in developing the country’s concert economy by attracting fans, and media, from all over South Asia.
However, I had that strange feeling that this concert would not become a reality, keeping in mind what happened to Nick Carter’s Colombo concert – cancelled at the very last moment.
Carter issued a video message announcing he had to return to the USA due to “unforeseen circumstances” and a “family emergency”.
Though “unforeseen circumstances” was the official reason provided by Carter and the local organisers, there was speculation that low ticket sales may also have been a factor in the cancellation.
Well, “Unforeseen Circumstances” has cropped up again!
In a brief statement, via social media, the organisers of the Ne-Yo concert said the decision was taken due to “unforeseen circumstances and factors beyond their control.”
Ne-Yo, too, subsequently made an announcement, citing “Unforeseen circumstances.”
The public has a right to know what these “unforeseen circumstances” are, and who is to be blamed – the organisers or Ne-Yo!
Ne-Yo’s management certainly need to come out with the truth.
However, those who are aware of some of the happenings in the setup here put it down to poor ticket sales, mentioning that the tickets for the concert, and a meet-and-greet event, were exorbitantly high, considering that Ne-Yo is not a current mega star.
We also had a cancellation coming our way from Shah Rukh Khan, who was scheduled to visit Sri Lanka for the City of Dreams resort launch, and then this was received: “Unfortunately due to unforeseen personal reasons beyond his control, Mr. Khan is no longer able to attend.”
Referring to this kind of mess up, a leading showbiz personality said that it will only make people reluctant to buy their tickets, online.
“Tickets will go mostly at the gate and it will be very bad for the industry,” he added.
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