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Shattering the glass ceiling – Kumudini Perera-David
by Rochelle Palipane Gunaratne
Pics courtesy Tai Hsin Photography
While breaking the glass ceiling is what we refer to as breaking of barriers that hold women back, I picture Kumudini Perera-David actually kicking it with all her might and shattering it to smithereens as Kumu to me has always been a strong and vibrant personality. While I pause to reflect, I can’t help seeing the vivacious Tina Turner pounding her staccato heels on the floor as she sings, “What you see is what you get “when I think of Kumu. Her overwhelming trait is her forthright attitude and fearless manner as she’s one of THE MOST interesting personas I’ve met.
Making her presence felt
I recall the fact that even at school she just could not be ignored as her personality shone through like a rainbow that bursts through the storm clouds and arches across the land. Although we greeted each other at school and cheered for the same house at the sports meet and other events, I had no knowledge of the real Kumu, except of being aware of a helluva talent she possessed for singing!
Advocating for change
In the ensuing years, we used to meet at various events but it did not go beyond a girly greeting until I added her on FB and read her testimony. Kumu’s knack for venting her deepest thoughts on social media was an inspiration as it paved the way for those who hid painful memories to address these burning issues considered a taboo by society. Her experiences of being abused as a child, effervescent attitude to sex drove a metaphorical nail on the head and earned her an extensive fan following, to the point in which she occasionally informed that it was time for filtering her account as it exceeded the limit.
When did you come to that realization that your experience could be shared was my first question at our lengthy tête-à-tête over coffee and chocolate milkshake, to which she responded; “It was when I overcame the stigma of being a victim and realized that I am a victor and my story could help another person to rise above the vicissitudes and crush the waves of despair which threaten to drown out the person you were created to be. Most often, a brutal awareness of being party to a stolen childhood can cause bouts of depression which steals one’s joy and it needs to be addressed professionally with the first step being the awareness. “Most often than not victims of any form of abuse, especially when they have been subjected to it as children, tend to internalize their experiences, allowing guilt to gnaw away their propensity to enjoy life to the fullest.” Recognizing the fact that you are not to blame is the first step in the healing process. As well, it is essential to deal with the anger that wells up against the perpetrator, as in most cases it is a person of trust who has manipulated the situation. Seeking redress through legal means, though ideal, may not always be viable and may cause further victimization and pain to the victim but to move forward through forgiveness is always a good option as it releases the invisible hold another person’s actions has on you,” revealed Kumu.
Till I was 33 years old I was on survival mode and trying to cope with anxiety and depression but I had an epiphany which led me to throw away caution to the wind and seek counseling and advocating for awareness and change in how we perceive ourselves, augmenting our individuality and value as people who deserve to be loved correctly and to enable us to love without fear or trepidation.
She is also known to campaign against animal abuse as she herself has literally adopted many fur babies who have been abandoned by negligent human beings.
The diabolical actions against her has not made her a person devoid of compassion as she is ultra- sensitive, making her a go to person for anyone ( irrespective of gender) who is dealing with issues related to abuse. While abuse has been prevalent since time immemorial, it has been swept under the proverbial carpet, which has enabled it to rear its ugly head continuously but gutsy folks like Kumu are adamant to rout out the evil by placing themselves as juggernauts even at the expense of being ridiculed publicly on social media. It is a stand only a few can muster and she runs the gauntlet of advocacy day in and day out with a determination that deserves all praise.
Singing her way through life
On a lighter note, we focus on Kumu’s incredible voice, her acting and artistic flair which is awe-inspiring. Her performances are compelling and makes you think that she came out of her mother’s womb singing but for those who are not aware, Kumu discovered her extraordinary talent during her late teens and she attributes Aunty Marianne of Merry an Singers fame to having lovingly drawn her out of her shell.
Exploring her penchant for teaching, she along with a few passionate individuals have formed a choir, aptly titled, Clefolution which literally means resolving both clefs- enabling equally passionate singers, be it amateur or professional to band together and sing to their hearts content. As well, the lockdown period created an opportunity for her to spread her knowledge beyond the shores through online voice training classes which she conducts on a daily basis.
While her nightingale voice has gained recognition, one cannot help swoon at her drawings and that too was a self- taught passion which she dabbles and excels in.
While Kumu’s life has been dotted with trials, she has embraced it all with gumption and stood up tall against the marauding forces, inspiring others to not merely live but thrive!
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The power of being heard, with psychologist Anita Sharma
Anita Sharma is a psychologist, who approaches the human mind with equal measures of empathy and insight. Known for her calm presence and thoughtful perspectives, she works closely with individuals navigating anxiety, relationship, trauma and the quiet emotional struggles that often go unseen. With experience working with individuals, couples and families, she has built a reputation for helping people navigate emotional challenges with clarity. Compassion and confidence. Anita Sharma stands as a reassuring voice bridging science, sensitivity and cultural understanding.
What inspired you to pursue a career in psychology?
I was inspired to pursue a career in psychology because I have always been curious about how people think and behave, especially when observing the world around us today. With so much happening in society, I often found myself wondering why people responded differently to similar situations and what influenced their choices, emotions, and behaviours. Psychology allows me to explore these questions on a deeper level and understand how factors like the environment, experiences, and social pressures shape a person’s behaviour. This interest motivated me to want to better understand others and eventually use that knowledge to make a positive impact.
How has your journey been as a psychologist? Have you faced unique challenges?
My journey as a woman in this field has required a lot of resilience and self-belief. In a world that is not always kind, there have been moments where certain spaces felt intimidating, but I chose to turn those experiences into strength rather than allow it to limit me. Instead of shrinking myself, I learned to speak up and trust my inner voice. These challenges have shaped my confidence, sharpened my perspective, and reinforced my commitment to the field.
What areas of psychology Do you specialise in and why did you choose them?
I specialize in counselling, focusing on people experiencing depression and anxiety, as well as adolescents, couples, and individuals recovering from surgery. I chose this area because I’m passionate about helping people go through life’s challenges. Supporting adolescents allows me to guide young people through critical stages of growth, counselling couples strengthens relationships, and working with individual’s post-surgery helps them cope emotionally and adjust to major life changes. Overall, this field lets me make a meaningful impact on people’s mental and emotional well-being.
How Do you approach therapy or counselling with clients facing anxiety or depression or trauma?
When working with clients facing anxiety, depression, or trauma, I approach therapy with empathy and patience. I start by creating a safe, non-judgmental space where clients feel heard and understood. I focus on understanding their experiences, thoughts, and feelings, and together we identify coping strategies and goals that are realistic and meaningful for them.
In your opinion, what are the most promising mental health challenges facing women and men?
In my opinion, some of the most pressing mental health challenges today revolve around stress, anxiety, depression, and the pressures of balancing personal and professional life. For women in particular, societal expectations, gender bias, and body image pressures can take a significant toll. Women are often expected to excel at work, manage family responsibilities, maintain social roles, and meet certain standards of weight and beauty appearances. Society frequently makes remarks or judgments about women’s bodies and looks, which lowers their self-esteem. Men also face challenges, like societal pressure to suppress emotions, which can lead to untreated stress or depression. Addressing these challenges requires awareness, supportive environments, and access to mental health resources
What role do you think society can play in reducing stigma around therapy and counselling?
Society plays a crucial role in reducing the stigma around therapy and counselling. By openly talking about mental health, sharing personal experiences, and normalizing seeking support, we can challenge the idea that needing help is a sign of weakness. Media, workplaces, schools, and communities all have a part to play in creating safe, supportive environments where people feel comfortable accessing mental health care. Education and awareness campaigns can also help people understand that therapy isn’t just for crises
Psychology can be emotionally demanding. How do you maintain your own mental health and balance work like pressures?
Psychology can definitely be emotionally demanding and it’s not a field that is suited for everyone. Maintaining my own mental health is a priority. I make a deliberate effort to detach from work at the end of the day, which allows me to process my own emotions and recharge. I also practice regular self-care, such as meditation, listening to music, and spending time with my family. Seeking supervision and peer support helps me gain perspective on challenging cases, ensuring I don’t carry that emotional weight alone
Would you say has been your most rewarding experience as a Psychologist?
Looking back, the most rewarding part of my work in psychology is hearing a client say, ‘I feel so much better after speaking to you.’ In those moments, I’m reminded that simply being present, listening without judgment, and offering support can truly make a difference in someone’s life. Knowing that I’ve helped someone feel lighter, more understood, or more hopeful is incredibly fulfilling and just reinforces why I chose this profession.
Where privacy and social perceptions matter greatly. How do you help individuals feel safe and comfortable seeking psychological support?
In a close-knit society where privacy and social perceptions are deeply valued, some women face pressures from traditional family expectations, including arranged marriages and strict cultural norms. To help them feel safe seeking psychological support, I focus on creating a space built on trust and understanding. For many, it’s the first time they can truly voice their thoughts and emotions, and helping them express themselves is incredibly empowering. By being sensitive to their cultural and societal context, I guide them towards confidence, emotional relief, and the belief that their feelings matter.
Ultimately, I hope this helps people understand the importance of mental wellbeing and seeking support when needed. I believe that at some stage, everyone can benefit from counselling. It’s not just for when you face a problem, seeking support can help you understand yourself better, manage challenges, and grow stronger. Life is always changing and nothing stays the same forever. By taking steps to care for our minds, we can move forward with clarity, courage, and a sense of inner balance, trusting that even difficult moments will pass.
By Zanita Careem ✍️
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New era of wellness
Tranquil and tropical with a rugged beauty and temperate climate, Sri Lanka’s south coast is blessed with a naturally restorative environment. On a rocky outcrop overlooking a secluded cove of golden sand, Anantara Peace Haven Tangalle Resort harnesses the nurturing qualities of its shoreline home to create a sophisticated oasis of soothing and renewal.
Entering its second decade, the resort has announced a fresh expansion of its Anantara Spa menu, enriching an already extensive range of traditional and modern therapies. Anantara Peace Haven Tangalle Resort now hosts the region’s only spa overseen by three resident Ayurveda doctors. Led by Head Ayurvedic DoctorBhagya Wellapilli, these qualified medical officers work alongside accomplished practitioners in immaculate facilities, ensuring authentic and effective experiences, delivered by the safest hands.
In addition to enhancing its wellness team, the resort has also launched the pioneering Ayurvedic beauty sanctuary, Ayu Lavanaya. Named from the Sanskrit words Ayu (life) and Lavanaya (grace), the sanctuary is a modern reimagination of a quintessential Ayurvedic parlour. It aligns physical care with deeper wellbeing through timeless rituals and ancient wisdom. Offered in a new space within the lush, floral environs of Anantara Spa, each meditative treatment at Ayu Lavanaya is formulated for immediate results and long-lasting benefits.
Signature therapies complement a full menu of Ayurvedic manicures, pedicures and eye rituals. The brightening and firming Kumkumadi Royal Facial uses the esteemed Kumkumadi oil to leave skin supple and luminous. The Kesha Revive Hair Ritual pairs a lime and onion extract head massage with warm triphala therapy to relieve tension, fortify roots and boost scalp health. The 120-minute Prana Radiance Ritual detoxifies the senses and rejuvenates vital energies through carefully crafted steps that promote release, balance and renewal. Also available are Abhyanga massages, Pizhichil Kerala-style oil baths, Sweda thermal infusions and more.
Beyond Ayurveda, the award-winning Anantara Spa has also introduced four specially curated aromatic massages, showcasing the sensory potency of the island’s indigenous ingredients. Melt away stress and tension with a Four Hand Massage in which two skilled therapists work in perfect synchronicity to induce profound relaxation. Invoking the natural healing of the ocean, a unique Seashell Massage releases muscles and improves circulation by moving polished shells in graceful, flowing strokes across the body.
Age is no barrier to bliss at Anantara Spa with tailored 30-minute Kids’ Massages for ages four to 12. Using light pressure and natural coconut oils, these gentle treatments support healthy care for growing bodies. For mums-to-be, a 60-minute Pregnancy Massage eases the back, neck, and shoulders, reducing swelling and assisting sleep to boost comfort for mother and baby throughout their shared journey.
Yoga sessions by the sea, a state-of-the-art fitness centre, and nutrient-rich menus augment all therapies and treatments, maximising every benefit and laying the foundation for long-term vitality. For more intensive healing, five-day programmes focus on inner harmony, deep sleep, natural weight management, or holistic detox and rebuilding.
“Since our doors opened, we have been honoured to continue and grow Sri Lanka’s long-lasting tradition of Ayurvedic practices and natural wellness,” said Erik Billgren, General Manager at Anantara Peace Haven Tangalle Resort. “By expanding our spa menu and opening the exciting Ayu Lavanaya sanctuary, we are proud to set a new benchmark in holistic healing for every treasured guest.”
“As a fully-trained Ayurvedic Doctor, I understand the importance of fostering a calm and welcoming environment in which guests can feel completely comfortable,” added Ms Wellapilli, Head Doctor at Anantara Peace Haven Tangalle Resort. “By offering this alongside an extensive menu of expertly delivered rituals, we are excited to redefine the possibilities for soothing stays on Sri Lanka’s beautiful south coast – now, and for many years to come.”
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ITC Ratnadipa awarded prestigious 5-Star classification by Sri Lanka Tourism Development Authority
ITC Ratnadipa has been awarded the coveted 5-Star Classification Certificate by the Sri Lanka Tourism Development Authority (SLTDA), reaffirming its commitment to delivering world-class hospitality and sustainable luxury.
The certificate was formally presented by Mr. Buddhika Hewawasam, Chairman of SLTDA & SLTPB, and accepted by Mr. Keenan McKenzie, Area Manager – Sri Lanka and General Manager of ITC Ratnadipa.
The ceremony was attended by several distinguished officials and industry leaders, including, Board Member, SLTDA; Mrs. Malkanthi Rajapaksha, Director – Standards & Quality Assurance, SLTDA; and Mr. Trevine Gomas, Chairman, Hotels’ Classification Committee. Their presence underscored the significance of this milestone for Sri Lanka’s hospitality sector.
ITC Ratnadipa, a Luxury Collection Hotel, opened its doors in Colombo, Sri Lanka, on April 25, 2024, introducing a new benchmark in responsible luxury and sustainability-driven hospitality. Since its inception, the hotel has been committed to offering exceptional experiences that blend opulence with environmental stewardship.
Addressing the gathering, Mr. Keenan McKenzie stated:
“We are grateful to the Sri Lanka Tourism Development Authority and the Hotels’ Classification Committee for their guidance and trust, and to our partners and stakeholders for their continued support. This milestone strengthens our resolve to elevate Sri Lanka’s hospitality landscape while delivering responsible luxury rooted in sustainability.”
This recognition underscores ITC Ratnadipa’s dedication to excellence, sustainability, and its vision to redefine luxury hospitality in Sri Lanka.
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