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Making myself heard in Parliament and NGO role in peace process
The main manner of communication in Parliament is through speeches delivered in the House on Government business and the responses of the Opposition before a vote is taken to ratify those proposals or to disallow them. This is considered to be a democratic procedure since the House must approve – by majority vote – any expenditure of funds which are collected from the people. The principle of “No taxation without representation” was established in the face of a British sovereign’s right to levy taxes. The approval of appropriations is the right of Parliament as seen in the title of the annual budget which is” The Appropriations Bill”.
As rookie MPs we were very keen to participate in debates in the House. Usually it is the party leader who decides on his speakers list which is sent to the Speaker at the beginning of the days business so that the work of the House can be conducted in an orderly manner. With Gamini as leader and with my previous experience as a public servant and UN official, I could ask for a speaking slot with confidence while other new comers tended to bide their time.
Thus I was listed as a speaker in the very first debate of the CBK regime which was on the new anti-bribery and corruption law. Many seniors were reluctant to intervene in this debate as they had many things to hide. Indeed the gossip in Parliament was that the new law would permit the arrest of Gamini on a corruption charge and thereby disqualify him from contesting the forthcoming Presidential contest with CBK.
Gamini himself was nervous about these manoeuvres and wanted the new law defeated in the House. But Ranil and I wanted it to be brought to the House where we would support it. To counter this move Gamini had brought lawyer Desmond Fernando QC to pick holes in the draft legislation. But with corruption as a major issue we did not heed his lawyerly arguments and the UNP group decided to vote in favour of the bill in Parliament. In my maiden speech I supported the Bill and is now so recorded in Hansard. Since Parliamentary speeches were published in the daily newspapers I spoke in Sinhala so that my constituents could follow the contribution of their newly elected representative.
This did not endear me to some of my UNP colleagues who preferred to speak in English. The Government side and the Opposition tend to “pair” speakers so that the arguments of my paired MP, or Minister in this case, can be rebutted in my contribution and vice versa. Though not especially so designated this was in effect a semblance of a dialogue between a Minister and his opposite number in the “shadow cabinet”. In the shambles of Parliamentary practice today this useful arrangement has been, I believe, abandoned.
In my days as a UNP MP my opposite number was Dharmasiri Senanayake who was my friend from Peradeniya University days. We got on so well that I would begin my replies by complimenting Dharmasiri on his speech. This got noticed and he told me politely to stop it because his own MPs were getting jealous about our friendship. Another helpful Parliamentarian was Ratnasiri Wickremanayake who was the Leader of the House shortly to become Prime Minister. He was a bold Minister who would not hesitate to change his mind if a counter argument could be offered even by a member of the Opposition.
I remember that as Minister of Public Administration, he brought a bill to retire all Grama Sevakas at the age of 55. This was because the SLFP believed that the majority of GSs were UNPers. While opposing this bill in the House I said that this bill was discriminatory and unfair. In any case as Minister of Public Administration Ratnasiri had the right of not extending the service of any public officer after 55. Extensions were given only at his discretion.
So why discriminate against one identified service like the GS when he already had the powers to ensure any public servants retirement at 55? He immediately saw the logic of my argument and withdrew his bill on the floor of the House. He was that sort of decisive Minister. At the condolence meeting in Parliament after Ratnasiri’s death, I was able to narrate this incident which is now enshrined in Hansard.
Hansard
No descriptions of Parliamentary affairs would be complete without a reference to Hansard. It is a document of record not only of speeches made in the House but also of all other Parliamentary business conducted in the well of the House (the Chamber). The fate of bills and amendments presented to the House are recorded in detail. These records are accepted by the legal arm of the state as true records of the proceedings regarding legislation and related actions. Responsible MPs peruse drafts which contain their speeches and ensure that the final publication of Hansard (called the corrected version) truly records what they said.
There are many instances where MPs rush to the top floor, where the Hansard office is located, to make sure that they are reported accurately. This was a practice I followed faithfully so that the printed version of speeches were without infelicities and inaccuracies. The Hansard staff were all very helpful and would show us the drafts provided by their reporters who took down notes in relays in short hand so that they did not miss any interventions.
Condolences
A particularly poignant event in Parliament occurs on Fridays when time is set apart for condolences on the demise of MPs and ex-MPs. These speeches are noted for publication in Hansard and are usually treasured by the relatives of the deceased. From the very inception I took this opportunity to eulogise many of our late colleagues. I spoke about Madam Sirimavo Bandaranaike, Anura Bandaranaike, Ratnasiri Wickremanayake, Dharmasiri Senanayake, Gamini Jayasuriya, Vivienne Goonewardane, Indika Gunawardena, D.M. Jayaratne and many others.
Role model
My role model as a Parliamentarian was Dr. NM Perera. He took his duties in Parliament very seriously. In his days Parliament met in the evenings and its sittings would go well into the night. NM, after a strenuous game of tennis at the Nondescripts Cricket Club [he disliked ethnicity based clubs like the SSC, Tamil Union and Moors] he would return to his home in Cotta Road, bathe, change into a well pressed white suit and a red tie and self drive his Peugeot 204 to Parliament. He would then patiently spend time there till it was time to leave for a social occasion.
He loved good clothes and ballroom dancing. He was such a good dancer that ladies would scramble to get a dance with him. NM was a handsome man and was the cynosure of the eyes of society women.
At the same time he was a conscientious and hard worker. His speeches were well prepared and full of statistical information. The Government ranks listened to him with rapt attention. He spoke to a Parliament which had just over a hundred MPs so that he was given time to develop his arguments. He was devoid of malice and could be seen later in the Parliament canteen sharing a smoke with Dudley, JR or CP de Silva.
His loud laughter with his head thrown back, could be heard along the corridors of the House. Even his later enemies like Philip praised NM for his hard work. Once in Parliament Philip said that “the only hard worker here is the MP for Ruwanwella”. Before my speeches on economic issues I would invariably read NM’s speeches to find out how he sequenced his presentations. Though the leader of a Marxist party he was more open in his thinking and was very much a Keynesian. In his budget making he was influenced by Nicholas Kaldor of Cambridge University who belonged to the Keynesian group of economists. Kaldor visited Sri Lanka and advised on setting up a new taxation system which was weighted against capitalists. These radical measures were resented by the growing middle class which then abandoned Mrs. B and her government.
After the LSSP leaders were released from prison in 1945 the party split and NM and Philip were expelled for following a more liberal democratic line showing their growing disenchantment with Trotskyite dogma. They came together shortly after only to quarrel and split again. Philip soon set up his own party [VLSSP] while NM realigned himself with the old LSSP.
Seminars and study tours
A major feature of CBK’s new administration was a renewed effort to solve the ethnic issue which was tearing the country apart. Attempts made by previous Presidents JRJ, Premadasa and Wijetunga had all failed. The Sri Lankan economy which had a spectacular success in the early JRJ years, was grinding to a halt due to the war. The international community which saw the migration of many Tamil refugees to their countries were pressurizing the Sri Lankan Government to settle this conflict through negotiation and the devolution of power.
The initial reaction of the Tamil community was one of trust in CBK. She reciprocated by sending a delegation of her advisors to talk to the LTTE. The Tamil population of the North used this pause to show their appreciation of the new government of CBK. CBK bangles and CBK sarees became popular among northern Tamil ladies.
But the talks failed and war was resumed causing consternation among the international community, in particular the UK, Germany, France, Switzerland, Norway and Japan. Their well funded NGOs began to focus on Sri Lanka which had received much global media attention. All this led to a concentrated attempt to co-opt [officially called educate] Members of Parliament, particularly of the opposition, whose assent was necessary to present a united front in the negotiations. Among those NGOs were the Friedrich Naumann Foundation [FRG] International Alert [Norway] The Berghof Foundation [FRG] World View Foundation [Norway] Japanese International Foundation [Japan] Foundation for Federalism [Switzerland] and many others not so well known.
Sri Lankan representatives of these Foundations – Sagarika Delgoda, Kumar Rupasinghe and Tyrell Ferdinands, as well as foreign representatives living in Colombo were in close touch with us as were the western embassies located here. They all paid special attention to us in the opposition and were particularly considerate about our physical safety perhaps due to the carnage of the JRJ and Premadasa years. I remember the British High Commissioner volunteering to accompany me to the airport when I had to leave for a seminar abroad. Whether on the government side or the Opposition there were about 30 of us who were wooed incessantly by the above mentioned NGOs and the Western embassies.
International Alert
The most active of these NGOs was International Alert which was represented in Norway by Kumar Rupasinghe who had played a significant political role during Mrs. B’s tenure as her son-in-law and a radical influence on her party till Anura Bandaranaike returned from his studies in the UK and blew him out of the water. Later he married a Norwegian girl and settled down in Oslo and became an advisor to IA on Sri Lankan peace initiatives. Very recently Norwegian official reports about its involvement in the local peace process disclosed that a substantial amount of Norwegian government funds were set apart for the NGOs to create an atmosphere conducive to a peaceful resolution of the ethnic conflict.
This was a time when Norway had emerged on the global stage as a peacemaker after its intervention in the Isreal-Palestine conflict and in internal conflict resolution in Sierra Leone. Sri Lanka could be another feather in its cap and the Norwegian authorities liberally spent its newly found wealth from North sea oil to put its stamp on the pursuit of peace on the global stage.
Freidrich Neumann Foundation
Another organisation which supported our peace process was the Freidrich Neumann Stiftung, which was an arm of the Free Democratic Party of western Germany. The FDP was the leading liberal party in the country which competed with the SDP [Socialists] and the Conservatives [CDU]. Though smaller than the other two parties they were often sought after as coalition partners by both larger parties. Once they coalesced with the CDU. Later they joined the SDP under Schmidt to form a coalition government. On both occasions the leader of the FNS – the energetic Herr Genscher, was appointed the Minister of Foreign Affairs and was virtually the Deputy Chancellor of the country.
Hence they were not short of money or influence both in Germany and abroad. They were not afraid to fly the flag of liberalism as they had an enviable record of resistance during the Hitlerite period.
The FNS had a special interest in Sri Lanka as under the JRJ and Premadasa regimes we were recognized in the “Free World” as a democratic country which had “rolled back socialism”. In addition Sri Lanka had been developed as a long haul tourist destination by Aitken Spence Travels and the largest travel agency in western Germany – TUI. Condor Air, an affiliate of Lufthansa, flew charters regularly into Colombo and Sri Lanka which was well featured in European travel catalogues, became a preferred destination for many German tourists.
Unlike AI however FNS preferred to hold their meetings in Cologne and after reunification, in the capital – Berlin. I was happy to travel to Germany which was now being transformed. The GDR economy was faltering and especially the youth were unsympathetic to Communism. With the emergence of Mikhail Gorbachev and his “Perestroika” and “Glastnost” its days were numbered. Before long GDR leader Erich Honecker’s regime collapsed and the Berlin Wall, which best symbolized the division of Germany, was pulled down. The FNS was delighted by this outcome and organized many meetings in Berlin which had become a united city.
Cash rich FNS had acquired an impressive office in Berlin Mitte and visitors from Asia and Africa came there in large numbers to be lectured to on the virtues of liberalism. Back in Sri Lanka FNS supported the Marga Institute, Sarvodaya and political parties of the right. A leader of the FNS who had special ties to Sri Lanka was Count Von Lambsdorf who later became the Foreign Minister of Germany. He was a regular visitor to Colombo. My friend Bertolt Witte whom I knew from my Paris days as described in Volume Two of my autobiography, became the President of FNS.
The FNS office in Colombo under Sagarika Delgoda was sympathetic to the UNP and I was invited to participate in many of its activities. One of its regular activities was its support of the annual Dudley Senanayake lecture. On the invitation of the FNS and the Senanayake family, I delivered one such lecture entitled “Dudley Senanayake and media freedom” which received wide coverage in the newspapers of the time.
Bergdorf Foundation
The Bergdorf Foundation of Berlin was another NGO that supported the peace process. They were in Sri Lanka at the invitation of GL Peiris, probably on the instructions of CBK. Her government had launched several initiatives like the “Sudu Nelum” movement under Mangala Samaraweera and was open to international assistance particularly to encourage the opposition to respond positively to the President’s call for a joint effort to settle the ethnic issue. In fact more than the opposition it were leaders within her own Cabinet like Ratnasiri Wickremanayake and Mahinda Rajapaksa who were skeptical of her peace efforts.
The head of BF in Colombo was Norbert Ropers, a skilled diplomat who had mediated in the transformation of Eastern Europe. He established good rapport with MPs of different political parties as well as a few Tamil University teachers who were sympathetic to the LTTE. Since these teachers were originally of the left it was not difficult for us to establish friendly relations and push them to go for a negotiated settlement. But the “hardliners”of the LTTE belittled them as those with no standing in their affairs.
Our friends told us privately that Prabhakaran was opposed to a negotiated settlement. I visited Berlin several times on the invitation of the BF and once delivered a lecture on the Sri Lanka ethnic conflict in their well appointed premises in Dahlem which was the elite residential district of Berlin. Since I had earned a good reputation among the NGOs and even locally as a spokesman on this issue, the UNP leadership which wanted all communications with the outside world decided on by the leader and his coterie, were decidedly unhappy but there was nothing they could do to stop it. It was another factor in the misunderstandings which were to eventually come to the surface with the party leadership which I will describe later.
Others
In addition to these well known, and well funded, agencies there were many other institutions which were also interested in hosting all party discussions. The Japanese Foreign Ministry [Gaimusho] which had much success in reconciliation talks in Cambodia and Laos promoted Ambassador Akashi to mediate in our case as well. Akashi was a former Deputy Secretary General of the UN who advanced the Japanese approach to problem solving in conflict ridden countries. This was the famous “Akashi Doctrine” of promising enhanced Japanese economic assistance if the belligerent parties came together.
It seemed to work in Cambodia and Japan was keen to repay JRJ’s famous intervention at the peace conference in San Francisco, by brokering a peace settlement here. This was a time when Japan was prosperous and wanted to make an impression in the global scene. Akashi and I had many discussions both in my home in Colombo and his house in a salubrious quarter of Tokyo. The Gaimusho then invited a multiparty group of MPs to visit Japan. We were housed in Gomba the famous holiday resort overlooking Mount Fuji.
Every morning we would come out of our rooms to get a splendid view of Mount Fuji enveloped by snow white clouds. The delegation had the privilege of meeting Prime Minister Fukuda who was a long time friend of our country. Our delegation which included Rukman Senanayake, Mahinda Samarasinghe, Hakeem, Douglas Devananda, Devaraj and me were briefed about the plans of the Japanese government to underwrite development assistance which was later unfolded at the “Aid Sri Lanka” summit to be held in Tokyo with the participation of Ranil Wickremesinghe as Prime Minister. But this was aborted at the last minute by the LTTE. Ranil’s skill in stage managing this meeting and his rapport with Japan may have alarmed Prabakaran who later preferred Mahinda Rajapaksa to him in the 2005 Presidential election. It was an election Ranil could have won easily but for Mahinda’s large scale capture of LTTE goodwill and their decision to boycott the presidential election, which took the northern votes out of contention.
There were many such meetings in Switzerland, UK and Norway which came later in time and will be described later in this book. It became clear that though I was a rookie MP I had a busy schedule of meetings both in the country and abroad. That was a delightful adventure but I was always conscious that a desperate battle was being waged in my country and every attempt should be made to facilitate an understanding between our several communities. It required all our skills to counter the propaganda campaigns of the LTTE which were increasing in their intensity. Let me now describe some of those memorable meetings.
(Excerpted from vol. 3 of the Sarath Amunugama autbiography)
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Matrimony in crisis: Economic volatility, youth outflow, and changing fabric of Sri Lankan families – I
by Prof. M. W. Amarasiri de Silva
Sri Lanka’s official crude divorce rate is among the lowest in the world, sitting at roughly 0.15 divorces per 1,000 people per year, which translates to about nine legally finalised divorces, daily, nationwide. However, legal scholars and sociologists emphasise that this figure does not reflect a lack of marital distress or separation. Instead, the low official number is primarily a result of the country’s stringent legal framework, complex judicial procedures, and deep-seated socio-cultural factors that prevent couples from seeking formal legal dissolutions.
A primary driver of the low official rate is Sri Lanka’s fault-based legal framework under general civil law. Unlike jurisdictions that allow “no-fault” divorce or swift mutual consent dissolutions, Sri Lankan civil law requires a petitioning spouse to legally prove specific statutory grounds in court, such as adultery, malicious desertion, or incurable impotence present at the time of marriage. Proving these fault grounds often leads to protracted, emotionally exhausting, and financially draining court battles, discouraging many individuals from pursuing a final decree. Furthermore, personal status matters for Muslim Sri Lankans are governed separately under the Quazi court system via the Muslim Marriage and Divorce Act, which operates under distinct statutory procedures.
Because navigating the formal legal system is so cumbersome and costly, hundreds of couples choose informal separation rather than court litigation. Living apart without legally dissolving the marriage on paper remains a common alternative, meaning official marriage registries undercount the true rate of domestic breakdown. Additionally, strong cultural norms, family expectations, economic dependencies, and social stigma—particularly affecting women—exert significant pressure on spouses to remain legally married even when cohabitation has permanently ceased.
Sri Lanka and other countries
Comparing Sri Lanka, India, and the United States reveals stark contrasts in divorce rates, legal frameworks, and societal attitudes toward marital dissolution. Statistically, Sri Lanka reports an official crude divorce rate of approximately 0.15 divorces per 1,000 people, annually, while India reports a rate of roughly 1 per 1,000. In contrast, the United States records a significantly higher crude divorce rate of around 2.5 per 1,000 people, with roughly 40% to 45% of first marriages ending in divorce. However, these figures reflect distinct judicial mechanisms and cultural expectations rather than a simple measure of marital harmony.
The primary legal distinction lies in the availability of “no-fault” divorce mechanisms. All 50 US.states allow no-fault divorce, enabling either party to dissolve a marriage by citing irreconcilable differences without assigning blame. India occupies a middle ground, where major personal law codes—such as the Hindu Marriage Act—permit divorce by mutual consent, provided the couple undergoes a court-mandated waiting period intended for potential reconciliation. Sri Lanka maintains the most restrictive regime among the three, requiring a petitioning spouse under general civil law to prove specific statutory faults, such as adultery or malicious desertion, through formal adversarial court proceedings.
Pluralistic personal law systems also shape how marital disputes are handled in South Asia compared to North America. Both Sri Lanka and India apply distinct personal status laws, based on religious or ethnic identity, such as Kandyan and Muslim laws in Sri Lanka, or Hindu, Muslim, and Christian personal codes in India. In contrast, the US relies strictly on uniform state civil codes for property division, spousal maintenance, and child custody, eliminating religious adjudication from the legal process.
Official divorce rates in Sri Lanka and India significantly undercount actual marital breakdowns. High legal costs, protracted court battles, and strong social stigma often lead estranged couples in both South Asian nations to choose informal, permanent separation over formal legal proceedings. In the United States, clear statutory procedures for asset distribution and custody arrangements encourage individuals to formally conclude their marriages through the judicial system rather than living in legal limbo.
Unmarried Sri Lankans
Data from the Department of Census and Statistics reveals that the proportion of the population that has never married has risen dramatically to over 40 percent. This shift reflects a major demographic transition characterised by delayed marriages, changing socio-economic priorities, and economic instability that has led many young adults to postpone or forego marriage altogether.
While both men and women are increasingly remaining unmarried, the trend manifests differently across genders due to distinct socio-demographic factors. Men generally marry at an older age than women—with the average age at first marriage rising toward 29 years for men compared to around 25 to 26 years for women. As a result, in younger adult cohorts, a noticeably higher percentage of men remain single at any given time.
Conversely, a different demographic dynamic affects women in older age cohorts. Sri Lanka exhibits a distinct gender imbalance in its total population, with women outnumbering men—there are roughly 93 males for every 100 females nationwide. This imbalance, combined with higher female life expectancy and significant labour migration of men seeking overseas employment, creates a structural shortage of eligible partners for women in certain age groups, contributing to a growing number of women remaining unmarried or living alone in later life.
The marriage expectations and ages by gender can be inferred through matrimonial advertisements in newspapers. Matrimonial advertisements, published in leading Sri Lankan weekend newspapers, offer a revealing look into the country’s shifting demographic trends and evolving marital preferences. These classified sections, traditionally placed by parents or family elders, rather than the individuals themselves, reflect a structured marriage market where personal expectations, economic security, and socio-cultural compatibility intersect.
The age profile of individuals advertised in these columns mirrors the broader national trend toward delayed marriage. For women, the typical age range featured in listings spans from 24 to 32 years, while for men, advertisers generally range between 28 and 38 years. Furthermore, advertisements for individuals in their late thirties, forties, or older have become increasingly common, particularly in notices seeking secondary marriages following a legal divorce or the loss of a spouse. The concentration of listings in older age brackets highlights how higher educational pursuits, career establishment, and economic challenges have pushed marriage further into adulthood.
Horoscope compatibility
Expectations detailed in newspapers emphasise a combination of traditional socio-cultural criteria and modern status indicators. Horoscope compatibility remains a fundamental requirement across a large majority of listings, alongside considerations of caste, religion, and regional background. Personal character is heavily weighted, with advertisements for men frequently specifying a desire for non-smoking, non-drinking partners, while descriptions for women routinely emphasise moral standing, domestic capability, and physical attributes.
Socio-economic standing and professional qualifications serve as primary benchmarks in prospective partner selection. Listings placed by women’s families heavily prioritise male suitors with secure employment in established sectors, such as medicine, engineering, law, management, or government service, alongside evidence of financial stability or asset ownership. Advertisements for men similarly seek educated and career-minded partners, though often balancing professional credentials with traditional family values. Notably, both publications feature a substantial proportion of listings placed by or seeking non-resident Sri Lankans and dual citizens, reflecting the strong pull of foreign residency and international mobility as desirable attributes in prospective matches.
Horoscope matching and dowry expectations in Sri Lankan matrimonial advertisements reflect a delicate interplay between longstanding cultural traditions and modern socio-economic realities. These two elements serve as primary filtering mechanisms during the initial stages of family-mediated matchmaking, helping families gauge spiritual alignment, family background, and long-term economic compatibility.
Horoscope compatibility remains a nearly indispensable prerequisite across a vast majority of Sinhala and Hindu marriage notices. Advertisements routinely include explicit phrases such as “send copy of horoscope with reply” or “astrologically compatible match sought,” underscoring the belief that planetary positions at birth dictate marital longevity, health, and mutual prosperity. Families often consult professional astrologers (nakath karayo) to compare charts (Janma-pathra) before engaging in direct personal meetings. Beyond general alignment, specific astrological conditions—such as Kuja Dosha or planetary placements associated with delayed marriage—are actively declared or sought out to ensure balanced pairings, making astrological clearance the first major gatekeeper in the proposal process.
Dowry expectations
Dowry expectations have undergone a significant transformation in contemporary Sri Lanka, evolving from explicit demands for wealth into subtle indicators of financial security and asset sharing. While direct references to cash or specific dowry amounts have largely disappeared from modern newspaper classifieds due to changing social norms, advertisements routinely signal material contributions through references to family assets. Listings placed by a bride’s family frequently highlight inherited residential properties, land parcels, vehicles, or substantial financial savings, framed positively as background assets rather than a mandatory transaction. Conversely, advertisements placed by grooms’ families often emphasise secure professional income and housing ownership, establishing an expectation of shared socio-economic parity between both lineages.
Ultimately, the portrayal of horoscopes and dowry in matrimonial advertisements illustrates how Sri Lankan families preserve traditional cultural safeguards while adapting to contemporary legal and economic environments. Horoscopes continue to function as an essential spiritual and psychological reassurance of harmony, while evolving dowry practices reflect a mutual investment strategy focused on helping young couples navigate modern economic pressures and establish financial stability.
Digital matrimonial platforms
Digital matrimonial platforms, dedicated matchmaking websites, and social media networks are reshaping traditional matchmaking practices in Sri Lanka. While the core objectives—securing compatible, stable, and family-approved partnerships—remain consistent, the shift to digital infrastructure has decentralised the matchmaking process, giving individuals greater agency while altering how personal data and socio-economic expectations are presented.
Specialised digital matrimony sites, such as Poruwa.lk and Matchmaker.lk, have modernised print classifieds by replacing brevity with structured digital profiles. Unlike newspaper advertisements, which are constrained by line limits and word costs, digital profiles allow candidates, or their families, to upload detailed personal biographies, verified educational certificates, career histories, and multiple photographs. Privacy controls on platforms, like Poruwa.lk, allow users to restrict photo visibility and obscure contact details until a mutual interest is established, offering safety and discretion that public newspaper columns cannot provide.
Social media platforms, particularly dedicated Facebook groups and WhatsApp channels, have democratised proposal exchanges across urban and rural demographics alike. These informal digital groups allow families and self-registering candidates to post notices directly without incurring publishing fees or relying on commercial matchmaking brokers. The interactive nature of social media enables direct messaging between interested parties, reducing the initial lag time typical of postal or phone responses generated by newspaper listings.
Digital matchmaking has also transformed how traditional criteria like horoscopes and dowry assets are handled. Many online platforms integrate digital horoscope software directly into their search filters, enabling automated chart matching before contact is initiated. Similarly, asset preferences are often communicated through structured fields detailing property ownership, foreign residency status, or career mobility, rendering explicit dowry discussions obsolete. By streamlining preliminary vetting, digital platforms allow Sri Lankans, especially young professionals and expatriates, to balance traditional familial expectations with modern efficiency.
Family-mediated marriages
While subtle differences exist in framing, with a popular English weekly in Sri Lanka leaning toward urban, English-speaking, and expatriate circles, and its Sinhala counterpart serving a wider Sinhala-speaking demographic, both mediums demonstrate that family-mediated marriage in Sri Lanka remains deeply anchored in structured compatibility, educational status, and long-term financial security.
Socio-economic factors also drive these decisions differently across genders. For many men, the financial burden of establishing an independent household, securing stable employment, and meeting traditional expectations of financial provision causes prolonged delays in marriage. For women, expanded educational attainment and changing lifestyle expectations mean that marriage is increasingly viewed alongside career goals or personal independence, rather than as an immediate or mandatory life milestone.
The severe economic volatility and escalating inflation experienced in Sri Lanka have acted as direct catalysts in altering traditional family planning and delaying marriage. Establishing a new household requires significant upfront capital, including funding wedding ceremonies, housing deposits, and securing household goods. With sharp rises in the cost of living and persistent real wage stagnation, young adults face immense financial barriers, prompting couples to postpone marriage or avoid formal marital commitments until economic conditions stabilise. (To be continued)
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What nature knows that humanity has forgotten
by Dr Debapriya Mukherjee
Former Senior Scientist
Central Pollution Control Board
Human beings often treat nature as an unlimited storehouse, clearing forests, polluting rivers and degrading soil for immediate gain. Animals and plants, without environmental policies or scientific knowledge, survive through relationships with their surroundings and other forms of life. An elephant needs connected habitats; a bee depends on flowers; a tree supports organisms while drawing nutrients from the soil. Humans can understand these connections, yet too often act as if their consequences did not concern us.
Elephants remind us that habitats cannot survive as isolated islands. Elephants disperse seeds and shape vegetation through feeding. Roads, railway lines, mines and settlements can obstruct their movements, increasing the risk of accidents and encounters with people. An elephant entering a village may reflect not only animal behaviour but also habitat fragmentation or changes in access to food and water. Protecting elephants therefore means conserving the corridors connecting essential habitats, not merely preserving separate patches of forest.
Vultures reveal the value of nature’s unsung services. These scavengers consume carcasses and help remove decaying animal material. India’s vulture crisis, linked particularly to exposure to the veterinary drug diclofenac, showed how a chemical used for one purpose can disrupt a distant ecological process. A creature often dismissed as unattractive may perform a service whose loss has far-reaching consequences.
Bees and bats reveal the biological foundations of food security. Bees pollinate many crops and wild plants. Certain bats also pollinate flowers, disperse seeds or consume insects. Habitat destruction, pesticide exposure and loss of food sources can threaten these contributions. Agricultural success cannot be judged by yield alone; the health of pollinators and the wider landscape also matter.
- Frog
- Bee
Frogs can warn us of environmental disturbance. Many amphibians have permeable skin and depend on both aquatic and terrestrial habitats. Some populations are sensitive to pollution, pesticides, habitat loss and disease. Frogs also consume insects and provide food for birds, snakes and other animals. Their decline does not identify a particular pollutant by itself, but it can warrant investigation. A pond may still hold water while losing important elements of ecological health.
Earthworms and termites reveal the living world beneath our feet. Earthworms contribute to soil structure and organic-matter decomposition. Termites recycle plant material and influence soil formation in many environments. Alongside fungi and bacteria, these organisms sustain processes essential to soil health. This matters to agriculture: applying cow dung or vermicompost does not guarantee a good crop if soil conditions and nutrient requirements are unknown. Agricultural inputs should be chosen according to soil properties, water availability and crop needs.

“Elephants remind us that habitats cannot survive as isolated islands. Elephants disperse seeds and shape vegetation through feeding. roads, railway lines, mines and settlements can obstruct their movements, increasing the risk of accidents and encounters with people.” (A file photo by picture by Dilum Alagiyawanna.)
Fig trees and native grasses show why conservation must respect each habitat’s character. Many fig species depend on specialised fig wasps for pollination, while their fruits feed birds, bats and other animals. Native grasses provide food and shelter for insects, birds and grazing animals. Planting trees everywhere is therefore not necessarily ecological restoration. Converting natural grasslands into tree plantations can damage habitats adapted to open landscapes. Conservation must protect the ecosystem suited to each place, not simply increase tree numbers.
Mangroves and wetland plants provide natural protection. Mangroves support wildlife, trap sediments in suitable conditions and can reduce wave energy and coastal erosion. Wetlands store water, provide habitat and cycle nutrients; some also help moderate flooding. Neither can prevent every cyclone or flood, but destroying these systems without assessing their functions may increase risks and the cost of protecting communities.
Nature is not a world of perfect cooperation. Predators hunt prey, plants compete for sunlight, and organisms sometimes harm one another. Its lesson lies instead in interdependence, environmental limits and the consequences of disruption.
Development is often measured through roads built, buildings completed and economic returns. These achievements matter, but the picture is incomplete when ecological damage is ignored or its costs are transferred to other communities. Science enables us to examine impacts before approving projects, protect wildlife corridors before they are severed, test soil before choosing inputs and assess wetlands before filling them. Knowledge, however, protects nature only when it influences decisions.
Nature does not ask humanity to abandon progress. It asks us to distinguish genuine progress from activities that destroy their own ecological foundations. A vulture, frog, bat, termite or fig tree may seem insignificant in isolation; their importance emerges through the processes they sustain.
The living world offers no simple moral sermon, but a scientific truth: a civilisation that neglects the ecological relationships sustaining life ultimately undermines its own future.
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Man Behind the Music: Ananda Ganegoda and Singlanka
A tribute to the man who believed Sri Lankan music deserved the very best
by Vindana Ariyawansa
Some people build companies. Others build institutions that outlive them. When Ananda Ganegoda passed away last week at the age of 81, he left behind something far larger than a business: a cultural landmark whose logo sits on the cassette shelves of countless Sri Lankan homes, and whose songs many of us grew up with without knowing the man who made them possible.
For decades, his name and Singlanka were one and the same. Both stand for the belief that Sri Lankan music deserved the highest standard of quality in its content, its production and its presentation.
“Singlanka: the symbol of excellence in creation and of priceless perfection in finish!”
That was the promise printed in the company’s advertising, and Ananda Ganegoda spent his life trying to keep it.
A friendship that changed a life
In the 1970s, Ganegoda was already a successful businessman from an industrialist family, running enterprises alongside his brothers. Then he met pop singer Milton Mallawarachchi, and the friendship became a turning point.
Through Milton, he came to know many of the country’s most celebrated artistes. He admired them deeply, and they welcomed him into their circle. Before long, the businessman had become something rarer: a patron who supported the country’s artistic endeavours out of genuine love for them.
Worried for the artistes
By the late 1970s the audio cassette had become the most practical way to sell music, and many businessmen rushed into the trade. Ganegoda watched this with concern. He worried about what it meant for singers’ creative and financial independence, and whether the people who made the music would share fairly in its rewards.
At the request of leading artists, he decided to enter music production himself. He did it, by every account, without commercial ambition. His only intention was to serve the artists.
18 March 1980
Singlanka was founded on 18 March 1980 as a limited company. Its founding team was remarkable. Clarence Wijewardana, the celebrated singer and songwriter, joined it. So did the renowned lyricist Kularatna Ariyawansa, who gave up his government job to be part of the venture, and continued to this day as its creative director. Vijaya Ramanayake, owner of the Tharanga record label, took charge of distribution.
Dozens of veteran artists who were close friends of Ganegoda handed over songs they had recorded independently to be released under the new label. Many new songs were recorded under the guidance of Clarence Wijewardana and Vijaya Ramanayake. In April 1980, Singlanka launched with 25 albums at once.
The first cassettes were produced in Singapore and imported. Because Sri Lanka then lacked the facilities to print Sinhala on the covers, the first sleeves carried their titles and information in English. Listeners objected, and the albums were quickly re-released with new covers in Sinhala.
By December 1980, 15 more albums recorded earlier in the year had followed. That same year, the Singlanka recording studio opened in Nugegoda under Clarence Wijewardana’s supervision. Equipped with the latest technology, it produced the country’s first eight-track recordings. Ganegoda invested heavily in it, and with veteran recordist Dayananda Perera at the helm it became the busiest and most respected studio in the country.
One roof, one family
The year 1981 was a landmark for the company. Ganegoda held a strong conviction that artists should not be left at the mercy of a fluctuating cassette market, which made careers unpredictable and unsustainable. If he could give them stability under one roof, he believed, they could give their energy to their art instead of worrying about money.
So, he invited them to join Singlanka, and they came. Amaradeva, Nanda Malini, Victor Rathnayaka, Sanath Nandasiri, Milton Mallawarachchi, Gunadasa Kapuge, Priya Sooriyasena, Sisira Senarathna, Indrani Wijayabandara, Malkanthi Nandasiri, Clarence Wijewardana, Anton Jones, Abeywardana Balasooriya and Niranjala Sarojini became exclusive Singlanka artists. Sunil Edirisinghe, T. M. Jayaratna, Somathilaka Jayamaha, Karunarathna Divulgane, Deepika Priyadarshani, Janaka Wickramasinghe, Rohan Bulegoda and Dayan Witharana joined them later.
Singlanka also produced best-selling albums by H. R. Jothipala, M. S. Fernando, Desmond de Silva, Nihal Nelson and Vijaya Kumaratunga.
The journey was not without heartache. Some ventures did not bear fruit, and it pained him when a few artistes left the label over the years. But the majority stayed, which says something about the man they stayed with.
A company of firsts
Singlanka’s catalogue reads like a record of firsts for Sri Lankan music:
· In April 1981, it released the first film soundtrack on cassette, for Sunil Ariyaratna’s Vajira.
· That year it also released Nanda Malini Live in London, the country’s first live-recorded cassette.
· In 1982, Ganegoda began replicating cassettes in Sri Lanka itself, having previously relied on Singapore. Veteran musician Rohana Weerasinghe left his government teaching post to join the company in 1983.
· In 1983, Prof. Ediriweera Sarachchandra’s iconic play Sinhabahu was released on a double cassette. Noorthi and Nadagam Songs, directed by Punyasena Gunasinghe, followed as another first.
· In 1984, under Sanath Nandasiri’s direction, came Madhubani, the country’s first album of classical instrumentals and songs, launched with a classical concert at Colombo’s Tower Hall.
· The same year, Nanda Malini’s double vinyl album Sathyaye Geethaya was released. Vinyl was not in popular demand at the time, so the experiment was not continued.
· In 1987, one of Ganegoda’s dream projects came true with Dorata Waduma, an album by six talented amateur singers. It introduced the singer Deepika Priyadarshani.
· In 1987, Sansare Api became the first collection of songs written by a member of the clergy, the Venerable Rambukkana Siddhartha.
· In 1989, Dhammapada Geethaya set verses of the Dhammapada to song.
The famous Singlanka logo was designed by Charlie Chang of Singapore. It has since become a timeless emblem of quality Sinhala music. In its first decade alone, Singlanka produced 136 original albums, a remarkable achievement for a company built on original recordings.
A patron of the nation’s culture
Ganegoda’s generosity reached well beyond his own studio. During its first two decades, Singlanka contributed financially to virtually every prominent national artistic event in the country.
In the early 1980s he sponsored concert tours to the United Kingdom for Amaradeva, Sisira Senarathna, Indrani Wijayabandara, Sunil Edirisinghe, Malani Bulathsinhala, Sanath Nandasiri and Malkanthi Nandasiri, carrying Sri Lankan music to audiences abroad.
He supported the first Sarasaviya Film Festival at the BMICH in 1980, the University of Colombo Art Festival, the G. B. Senanayake scholarship at the University of Sri Jayewardenepura, and the Mahagama Sekara Memorial Festival. He supported the Amaradeva felicitation event, the Children’s Books Society’s book exhibitions and prize-givings, the Bandaranaike Memorial Foundation Fund, and the Charles Silva Gunasinghe Memorial Fund. He supported the Vesak Bhakthi Gee Festival of the Lake House Buddhist Society, the “40 Years of Sinhala Cinema” event organised by the film critics and writers’ society, Prof. Sarachchandra’s drama festival, and the Premakeerthi Tribute Festival.
He also helped launch Amaradeva’s Naada Siththam, Dharmasiri Gamage’s Sulan Kurullo, and the concert Mage Swarayayi Obe Ridmayayi by Victor Ratnayake and Premasiri Kemadasa. These are only some of the many occasions on which he quietly gave his support.
More than a company
Today, Ananda Ganegoda’s name and Singlanka are inseparable. Singlanka is more than a record label. It is a cultural emblem of Sri Lanka, one that preserved the country’s musical heritage and identity for a generation and set a benchmark that the industry still looks to.
He began as a businessman who befriended a singer. He became a guardian of Sri Lankan music, giving artists a home, a stage and the security to create. Most of the millions who have hummed those songs may never have known his name. But every time a Singlanka melody plays, his dream is still being heard.
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