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Spinning a perfect konde is an art

The avurudu table of any Lankan home is complete only when it is laden with kevum. Dating back to ancient times, many types of kevum are chronicled even in our classical texts. The Dutch rulers of the island are said to have relished them, some even asking if they grew on trees… A delicacy which was offered to visiting dignitaries, kevum was revered by our kings even in the battle field not only as an energy-booster but also as a wound disinfectant.

BY RANDIMA ATTYGALLE

The culmination of Avurudu preparations in my childhood with my grandparents was marked by the ritual of Kevum-making. Athamma would ‘book in advance’ the kevum specialist Soida Hami (Soida aachchi to us children), and install a special hearth in her back verendah for the grand moment. I would watch Soida aachchi in wonderment as her thick batter of rice flour and best of kithul treacle shaping into kevums in a hot wok of coconut oil. The long kevum koora in her nimble fingers would achieve the feat of the perfect konde. It was almost a rite of reverence, so much so I was not supposed to talk to her until the first batch of Konda-kevums was completed. Like many old-folk of her vintage, Soida aachchi believed that talking while the first few kevums are done would result in a flawed product.

She would then place each perfect Konda kevuma on a banana leaf for the excess oil to drain. Once the whole exercise was completed, she would place Konda-kevum in large earthen pots and store them in the dum messa or the storage area above the main hearth of the kitchen. She would spare me only one kevuma and the rest had to wait until the auspicious time on avurudu day!

Travellers’ records

Robert Knox an English sailor who was held in captive in the court of the Kandyan King Rajasinghe II and one of the prolific chroniclers of ancient Ceylon in his famous work, An Historical relation of the Island Ceylon documents on the sweet meats of Lankans with a special account of kevum.

‘They have several sorts of sweet-meats. One they call Caown. It is like to a fritter made of Rice-flower and Jaggory. They make them up in little lumps and lay them upon a leaf, and then press them with their thumbs and put them into a frying-pan and fry them in Coker-nut Oyl or Butter. When the Dutch came first to Columba, the King ordered these Caown to be made and sent to them as a royal treat. And they say, the Dutch did so admire them, that they asked if they grew not upon trees, supposing it past the Art of man to make such dainties.’ (Spelling as in the original Knox)

The account of Knox enables rich insights into this wonder of a sweet meat which enthralled many a traveller to the island including dignitaries. The European trader Cosmas who visited Ceylon in 545-550 AD, documents that along with gems, Kevum and Kalu dodol from Ceylon were taken to the Roman court of Emperor Claudius during the sixth century.

Classical literature

Kevum dates back to ancient times and our classical texts such as the Ummagga jatakaya, Pujawaliya and Saddharma Ratanawaliya bear evidence to this fact. “Originally known as poopa this sweet meat came to be known as kevum in the Dambadeniya-Kurunegala era. Jathaka atuwa getapadaya mentions 18 kinds of sweet-meats found in the ancient Sri Lanka and among them are several types of kevum such as sendi kevum, mal kevum, athirasa, pena kevum, raa-kevum,” says Prof. Kusumalatha Lankamulla from the Department of Sinhala and Mass Communication at the University of Sri Jayewardenepura.

This scholar with research interest in Culture, Traditional and Modern Literature goes onto note that Mahawamsa in its 32nd chapter refers to two types of kevum in the context of alms offered by King Dutugemunu. The two types- thel kevum and maha de kuvum mentioned, were fried in ghee. “Many of our classical texts mention kevum in multiple festive contexts beyond avurudu. In Ummagga jathakaya, kevum is mentioned as a fitting gift to be taken when visiting parents. Saddharma Ratanawaliya refers to boxes of kevum or kevum pesa.

Narang kevum

An energy booster

Among the popular kevum types found today are Konda kevum, athirasa, mun-kevum, naran kevum and hendi-kevum. Although the ingredients used for each type may slightly differ, rice flour and treacle (now largely replaced with sugar) remain common to all. The much sought after Konda kevum which is relatively a later addition to the range of kevum found here at home is believed to have originated during the Kandyan period says Prof. Lankamulla. “During the Kandyan period, men were prohibited from cutting their hair off and they had to tie it in form of a knot on top of their heads. Konda kevuma is believed to have been inspired by this practice.”

Traditionally, Sinhalese soldiers were given a bag of kevum when going to war. History has it that King Dutugemunu went a step ahead and used kevum to treat wounded soldiers. His army used to prepare kevum months in advance and keep them exposed to air so that the mould can grow on them.

This mould in today’s language had ‘antibiotic properties’ and was used on the wounds of the soldiers to prevent them from festering. “In a bid to undermine the pride of place given to kevum as a super food by the locals, the British coined the famous derogatory adage: ‘Sinhalaya is a fool but is an ace at eating kevum’. (Sinhalaya modaya-kevum kanna yodaya)

Steeped in tradition

Superstitious beliefs surrounding the process of kevum-making are not uncommon and these vary from region to region in the island, says Prof. Lankamulla. Regardless of the region, several common traditions were followed by our ancestors and these still continue to be observed in several parts of the country, she says. “The frying pan with coconut oil to prepare the kevum was kept on fire at an auspicious time and village matriarchs who were highly skilled were mobilized for the occasion. Women also believed that they must refrain from talking when the first kevum is being made. For centuries, the first kevum was considered to be the ‘konduru kevum’, dedicated to the sledge-fly or the konduruwa. The village women would hang the first kevum up for the insects so that the rest would be unspoilt.”

Sybil Wettasinghe’s work celebrating kevum

Prof Kusumalatha Lankamulla

With the passage of time, many Lankans, particularly city-dwellers depend on commercially available avurudu kevili including kevum. Although kevum is synonymous with avurudu, today people get to enjoy it round the year thanks to many sweet meat kiosks found in cities. Although these outlets have best sales during avurudu, they get plenty of orders from Lankans travelling abroad or coming home for vacation at other times of the year as well.

One such die-hard kevum fan is Uthpala Ranatunga from Ottawa, Canada. “My Loku amma (oldest aunt) makes it a point to pack me a parcel of best quality Konda kevum to take with me whenever I’m in Sri Lanka for a vacation.

I deep-freeze them for longer use and eat them sparingly,” says Uthpala to whom kevum is always a strong reminder of home. “Each time I indulge in them I feel nostalgic and miss home.”

Kevum is an integral part of the Lankan culture, finding its way from ancient classical literature to that of the contemporary including children’s literature and arts. The much-loved sweet meat is celebrated in the work of Sybil Wettasinghe – the iconic story teller and illustrator.

Come avurudu, we often hear the intonation of Lionel Ranwala, the eminent musician, vocalist and an authority on Sri Lankan folk music, whose tribute to the enduring legacy of this delicacy is one of the best in our times:

Me avurudu kale -sinaha weyan rale
Thel ihirunu kewum gediya wage…



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From Colombo to Canada and Back: How Thevin Gamage found his voice through cinema

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Thevin with Gautham Manoj, his director of photography, behind the camera

For most Sri Lankan parents, success is often measured in familiar terms: a doctor, a lawyer, an engineer, or a businessman. Creative pursuits, while admired, are rarely viewed as dependable career paths.

Young filmmaker Thevin Gamage knows that reality is all too well.

Ironically, he grew up in a household immersed in the arts. His mother, celebrated actress Kumudumali De Silva, entered the film industry as a teenager and went on to win acclaim for her performances on television.

His father, veteran actor Nihal Gamage, also established himself as a respected figure in Sri Lanka’s film and television landscape.

Yet even within a family of artists, there remained a strong expectation that their only son would pursue a more conventional profession.

“I grew up in a very strict and conservative household,” Gamage recalls. “Like many Sri Lankan families, education was everything. The expectation was that I would become a businessman, lawyer, or something considered stable and respectable.”

Today, sitting thousands of miles and many life lessons away from that childhood, Gamage reflects on a journey that has taken him from the classrooms of Colombo to the film schools of Toronto, in Canada, and eventually to the director’s chair of his own feature film.

His story is not merely about filmmaking. It is about identity, perseverance, self-discovery, and the courage to pursue a passion that remained hidden beneath years of expectations.

“I think I was always creative,” he says. “The problem was that nobody around me really understood that creativity and academic intelligence are two very different things.”

Directing a scene

Thevin and Gautham

Educated at Colombo International School, Gamage admits he was never among the highest-performing students, academically.

“I wasn’t the student teachers pointed to as an example,” he laughs. “But looking back now, I think I simply processed the world differently.”

Like many Sri Lankan students pursuing London examinations, he spent countless hours attending tuition classes.

“My days would begin before sunrise. There would be mathematics classes at four in the morning, before school. Then another class, after school, and another in the evening. That was the routine.”

The hard work eventually paid off. He secured admission to the prestigious University of Toronto, a move that opened the door to a world far removed from the sheltered upbringing he had known.

More importantly, it offered him the independence he had long desired.

“To be honest, one of the biggest motivations for going overseas was that I wanted to experience life beyond the boundaries I had grown up with.”

Initially, he enrolled in a Bachelor of Business Administration programme, with a focus on economics. However, it quickly became apparent that the world of finance and accounting did not inspire him.

“I knew very early that I wasn’t built for accounting. Finance wasn’t something that excited me either.”

After considerable soul-searching, he switched his academic focus to political science, while pursuing minors in economics and psychology.

THE ONSET

The decision proved to be the right one.

He graduated with honours, much to the relief and pride of his parents.

“That was important to them. Like many parents, they wanted to know their sacrifices had meant something.”

Yet, despite earning a respected university degree, Gamage remained uncertain about his future.

Upon returning to Sri Lanka, for a period, he became involved in his family’s restaurant business. At the time, it seemed the closest thing to a creative profession that he could realistically pursue.

“I loved the idea of hospitality because there is artistry involved in food, presentation, and customer experience. But something still felt missing.”

The answer would emerge unexpectedly during one of the most disruptive periods in modern history.

The COVID-19 pandemic.

At the time, Gamage was back in Canada, working toward permanent residency, while also exploring possibilities for introducing Sri Lankan restaurant concepts to the Canadian market.

To support himself, he worked as a bartender in one of Toronto’s leading restaurants.

Then, the world shut down.

For many people, lockdowns created uncertainty. For Gamage, they created clarity.

“I suddenly had time to think. For the first time in years, I wasn’t running from one responsibility to another.”

That period of reflection led him back to a childhood obsession that had never truly disappeared – Cinema.

Growing up, movies had been far more than entertainment.

“Because I wasn’t allowed to socialise much, films became my escape. They allowed me to experience different cultures, different lives, and different ways of thinking.”

While other teenagers spent weekends attending parties, Gamage spent his watching films.

“I could sit for hours studying how stories were told. I didn’t realise it then, but storytelling was already becoming a huge part of who I was.”

One day, driven by curiosity rather than any grand ambition, he requested information from Toronto Film School.

What followed would alter the course of his life.

A lengthy conversation with a school representative encouraged him to take a chance on himself.

“She simply asked me why I wasn’t applying. I honestly didn’t have an answer.”

Using money he had painstakingly saved from bartending, Gamage enrolled.

The experience was transformative.

“For the first time in my life, I felt like I belonged somewhere.”

Surrounded by fellow storytellers, writers, directors, and aspiring artists, he discovered a community that understood the language of creativity.

“It felt like home. These were people who saw the world the way I did.”

His instructors quickly recognised both his passion and his work ethic.

“They kept telling me that I had something worth pursuing.”

Among hundreds of students, Gamage was selected to direct a student short film — an achievement that boosted his confidence enormously.

Thevin with his DoP camera With his parents and lighting crew

Yet his education was not confined to the classroom.

A chance opportunity on a Discovery Network production opened the door to the professional industry.

In a story he still recounts with amusement, his first break came, thanks to a dog.

“The showrunner, Mary Bissel, who, in due course, became Thevin’s first mentors, needed somebody to help take care of her puppy, while she was working. I always joke that my career began because of a dog.”

What began as a production assistant role quickly evolved.

Gamage volunteered for every task available.

“I wasn’t interested in staying inside one department. I wanted to understand how every part of a production worked.”

His enthusiasm and dedication did not go unnoticed.

Within a remarkably short period, he moved from production assistant to wardrobe assistant, then unit production manager and eventually assistant director.

By the time he completed film school, he was already serving as an assistant director on a major production.

“I actually missed my graduation because I was working on set. That was a pretty special feeling.”

Working alongside experienced professionals further strengthened his belief that filmmaking was where he belonged.

But he wanted more than a career.

He wanted to tell stories.

Determined to prove himself, Gamage embarked on creating his first short film, despite having limited resources.

Without substantial financing, or an established reputation, he improvised.

Friends and relatives became producers. Multiple crew positions were consolidated. Administrative responsibilities were shared.

“There were moments when I was essentially doing several jobs at once.”

The experience taught him one of the most valuable lessons of his career.

“You don’t wait for permission. If you believe in something strongly enough, you find a way.”

While the short film was travelling through international festival circuits, Gamage began work on an even more ambitious project — his first feature film.

Rather than play it safe, he chose to create a Sinhala-language film, influenced by the storytelling rhythms and cinematic sensibilities he had absorbed in North America.

“I wanted to bring something different to Sri Lankan cinema. Not because local films are lacking, but because every generation deserves to contribute its own voice.”

The feature called, “Aragalyak Mada- In The Middle Of A Struggle,” stars respected Sri Lankan actor Buddika Jayarathna and represent years of learning, experimentation,and persistence.

Directing the lead with Buddika Jayarathna in one scene

Remarkably, Gamage also undertook much of the editing process himself.

“Editing is where the story truly comes alive. It allows me to stay connected to every stage of the creative journey.”

Today, with his debut feature film completed and awaiting release, Gamage remains focused not on fame or recognition but on impact.

He hopes his journey will encourage other young Sri Lankans who feel trapped between societal expectations and personal aspirations.

“There are many talented young people in this country who don’t realise their potential because they are afraid of pursuing creative careers.”

His own story stands as evidence that unconventional paths can lead to extraordinary destinations.

Looking back, he does not regret the years spent navigating expectations, academic pressures, and uncertainty.

Every experience contributed to the filmmaker he has become.

“If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that passion matters. Obsession matters. Sometimes, talent helps, but determination is what carries you forward.”

For Thevin Gamage, the boy who once sought refuge in movies, has now become a storyteller himself — crafting worlds, exploring emotions, and giving voice to dreams that often go unspoken.

And if his ambitions are realised, this may only be the opening scene of a much larger story yet to unfold.

By Ifham Nizam

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Healing bones restoring confidence

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Dr. Melanie Amarasuriya Consultant Orthopaedic surgeon hands and upper Limb

Advancing Orthopaedics through care and education

Dr Melanie Amarasuriya is a distinguished Consultant othopaedic surgeon,academic and educator whose career bridges the world of medicine and higher education. As a senior lecturer at the University of Moratuwa, she combines clinical expertise with a passion for teaching and mentoring the next generation of professionals. Renowned for her commitment to patient care and advancing orthopaedic practice, Dr. Amarasuriya has earned respect both within the medical fraternity and academia. In this interview, Dr. Melanie shares insights into her professional journey,the evoving landscape of orthopaedic surgery,and the challeges and opportunities facing health care in Sri Lanka

(Q) Can you tell us about your professional journey and key milestones?

(A) I qualified from the University of Colombo and completed my specialist training in Orthopaedic Surgery in Sri Lanka. I then pursued advanced training in hand and upper limb surgery in the United Kingdom and Australia, followed by a PhD in Wrist Biomechanics at Flinders University, Australia.

My career has combined clinical practice, research, and education, with a particular focus on complex hand, wrist, and upper limb conditions. Some key milestones include becoming the first and the only woman to qualify as Consultant Orthopaedic Surgeon in the country, completing further fellowship training in hand and upper limb surgery under internationally renowned hand and upper limb surgeons all over the world, earning a PhD, publishing internationally recognised research on wrist biomechanics, being awarded international awards and fellowships by other hand / upper limb organisations, like IFSSH, APWA, and representing Sri Lanka in international orthopaedic and hand surgery organisations.

Today, I divide my time between clinical practice, teaching, research, and contributing to the development of orthopaedic care in Sri Lanka.

(Q) What are the most common orthopaedic conditions you encounter in Sri Lanka?

(A) In Sri Lanka, the most common orthopaedic conditions we encounter are fractures, resulting from road traffic accidents, falls, and sports injuries. We also see a large number of patients with arthritis affecting the knees, hips, and hands, particularly as the population ages. Back and neck pain, tendon injuries, nerve compression syndromes such as carpal tunnel syndrome, and work-related musculoskeletal disorders are also very common.

I frequently manage complex injuries of the hand, wrist, and elbow, as well as conditions that affect function and quality of life, such as ligament injuries, nerve compressions, and degenerative disorders.

(Q) Are there any emerging trends in bone and joint health that people should be aware of?

(A) One of the most important trends is the growing recognition that bone and joint health is closely linked to overall health and lifestyle. We are seeing increasing rates of obesity, sedentary behaviour, and Vitamin D deficiency, all of which can negatively affect the musculoskeletal system.

At the same time, more people are remaining physically active well into older age, creating greater demand for treatments that preserve mobility and independence. So it’s really important looking at the patient as a whole and not only focus on bones and joints. It is also important to prevent injuries, intervene early before they need complex surgery, and rehabilitation, rather than simply treating problems after they occur. The goal is not only to help people live longer, but to help them remain active, independent, and pain-free throughout their lives.

Another emerging trend is the use of advanced technologies, such as artificial intelligence, three-dimensional imaging, computer-assisted surgery, and patient-specific treatment planning. These innovations are helping surgeons diagnose conditions more accurately and tailor treatments to individual patients. While Sri Lanka still is a middle-income country, according to WHO, we do have the capacity to utilise most of these advanced technology.

(Q) What steps can people take to maintain healthy bones and joints throughout their lives?

(A) Maintaining healthy bones and joints starts with regular physical activity. Weight-bearing exercise, strength training, and activities that improve balance and flexibility help maintain bone density, muscle strength, and joint function.

A balanced diet, rich in calcium, protein, and Vitamin D, is also important. Avoiding smoking, limiting excessive alcohol consumption, and maintaining a healthy body weight can significantly reduce the risk of osteoporosis and arthritis.

Equally important is listening to your body. Persistent pain, swelling, weakness, or loss of function should not be ignored. Early assessment and treatment often prevent minor problems from becoming major ones.

Ultimately, bone and joint health is an investment that begins in childhood and continues throughout life. The choices we make every day have a significant impact on our mobility, independence, and quality of life as we age.

(Q) How important are exercise and nutrition in preventing orthopaedic problems?

(A) Exercise and nutrition are fundamental to preventing many orthopaedic problems. Regular physical activity helps maintain strong bones, healthy joints, muscle strength, balance, and coordination. It also reduces the risk of falls, fractures, obesity, and many chronic conditions that can affect the musculoskeletal system.

Nutrition is equally important. Adequate intake of calcium, Vitamin D, and protein is essential for bone health, muscle maintenance, and recovery from injury. Poor nutrition can contribute to osteoporosis, frailty, delayed healing, and reduced physical function. When I mention poor nutrition, being overweight is also included in the spectrum. A large number of patients, with long standing back pain and knee pain, would get a better quality of life if they simply manage their body weight. The good news is that prevention does not require extreme measures. Consistent exercise, a balanced diet, maintaining a healthy weight, and avoiding smoking can significantly reduce the risk of many bone and joint problems. In orthopaedics, prevention is often far more effective than treatment.

(Q) What are some of the common misconceptions about bone and joint health are women at greater risk of certain orthopaedic conditions?

(A) There are several common misconceptions about bone and joint health. One is that joint pain is simply a normal part of ageing that must be accepted. While age-related changes do occur, many conditions can be prevented, treated, or managed effectively if identified early. Another misconception is that osteoporosis only affects very elderly people, when in fact bone health is influenced throughout life by factors such as nutrition, physical activity, and hormonal health.

Women are indeed at greater risk of certain orthopaedic conditions. Osteoporosis is particularly common in women, after menopause, due to the decline in oestrogen levels, which accelerates bone loss. Women are also more prone to conditions such as osteoarthritis of the hand and knee, certain ligament injuries, and some nerve compression syndromes, including carpal tunnel syndrome.

However, many of these risks can be reduced through regular exercise, good nutrition, maintaining a healthy weight, and seeking medical advice when symptoms first appear. Awareness and early intervention are often the key to preserving long-term mobility and independence.

(Q) As women age how can women protect their bone health?

(A) As women age, protecting bone health becomes increasingly important, particularly after menopause when bone loss accelerates due to declining oestrogen levels. The most effective strategies include regular weight-bearing and resistance exercises, such as walking, jogging, dancing, or strength training, which help maintain bone density and muscle strength.

Good nutrition is equally important. Women should ensure adequate intake of calcium, Vitamin D, and protein, either through diet or supplementation when necessary. Maintaining a healthy body weight, avoiding smoking, and limiting excessive alcohol consumption also play a significant role in preserving bone health.

Regular health check-ups are important, especially for women with risk factors for osteoporosis, such as a family history, early menopause, or previous fractures. Early screening and intervention can identify bone loss before fractures occur.

The key message is that it is never too early—or too late—to invest in bone health. Small lifestyle choices made consistently over time can have a significant impact on mobility, independence, and quality of life in later years.

(Q) What should women know about osteoporosis and fracture prevention?

(A) Osteoporosis is often called a “silent disease” because bone loss occurs gradually and usually causes no symptoms until a fracture happens. Many people only discover they have osteoporosis after sustaining a fracture from a minor fall or injury.

Women, particularly after menopause, are at increased risk because of hormonal changes that accelerate bone loss. However, osteoporosis is not an inevitable part of ageing. Regular exercise, especially weight-bearing and strength-training activities, adequate calcium and Vitamin D intake, maintaining a healthy weight, and avoiding smoking are all important preventive measures.

Fracture prevention is equally important. Falls are a major cause of fractures in older adults, so maintaining muscle strength, balance, good vision, and a safe home environment can significantly reduce risk. Women with risk factors, such as a family history of osteoporosis, previous fractures, or early menopause, should discuss bone density screening with their doctor.

The good news is that osteoporosis can be detected early and effective treatments are available. With appropriate lifestyle measures, screening, and medical care when needed, many fractures can be prevented, and people can maintain an active and independent lifestyle.

(Q) What advice would you give to young people involved in competitive sports?

(A) My advice to young people involved in competitive sports is to view their bodies as their most valuable piece of equipment. Talent and hard work are important, but long-term success depends on staying healthy and injury-free.

Good training habits, proper technique, adequate rest, nutrition, and recovery are just as important as performance. Young athletes should avoid the temptation to play through significant pain or return to sport too quickly after an injury, as this can lead to long-term problems.

It is also important to remember that sport should promote lifelong health and enjoyment. While competition is important, developing good habits, resilience, teamwork, and a love for physical activity are equally valuable outcomes.

Finally, if an injury does occur, seek expert advice early. Early diagnosis and appropriate treatment often allow athletes to return to sport safely and perform at their best for many years to come.

(Q) What development do you expect to see you in the next decade?

(A) The next decade is likely to bring major advances in orthopaedics, driven by technology, data science, and a deeper understanding of how the musculoskeletal system functions. I expect to see greater use of artificial intelligence, advanced imaging, computer-assisted surgery, and personalised treatment plans tailored to each patient.

We are also moving towards earlier diagnosis and more precise interventions. Technologies such as dynamic imaging and motion analysis are helping us understand joint disorders in ways that were not possible before, allowing treatments to be targeted more effectively.

In addition, biologic therapies and regenerative medicine may play an increasing role in treating cartilage injuries, tendon disorders, and early arthritis. While joint replacement surgery will continue to be important, there will be a stronger focus on preserving native joints and maintaining function for as long as possible.

Ultimately, the future of orthopaedics is not just about treating injuries and disease—it is about helping people remain active, independent, and able to enjoy a high quality of life throughout their lifespan.

By Zanita Careem

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Behind close doors: Hidden trauma of child abuse?

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Dr Anita Sharma: Dedicated mental health professional whose work focuses on helping individuals navigate emotional challenges, relationship issues, anxiety and depression

Child abuse remains one of the most disturbing yet under-reported issues affecting children worldwide. Beyond the visible scars, abuse often leaves deep emotional and psychological wounds that can shape a child’s development, relationship, and mental well being for years to come. Despite increasing awareness, child abuse remain a serious concern in Sri Lanka. Recent events in Sri Lanka have once again highlighted the urgent need to address child abuse in all its forms. From allegations involving influential figures to heartbreaking cases that have shaken the nation, these incidents have exposed the devastating consequences of abuse and challenges faced by young victims seeking protection and justice. In an interview with the ‘Sunday Island,’ a leading Singaporean psychologist, living in Sri Lanka, Anita Sharma, says many children suffer in silence, carrying trauma that can affect their emotional well being, education, relationships and their future lives. She also discusses the warning signs that parents and teachers should recognise, the barriers to reporting and the support systems needed to help children heal and rebuild their lives. With experience in leading medical institutions, she has a patient centred approach, to empower children and individuals to lead healthier and more fulfilling lives.

(Q) How would you define sexual abuse of children and what forms can it take?

(A) Child sexual abuse occurs when an adult, older adolescent, or another person in a position of power involves a child in sexual activities that the child cannot understand, consent to, or is not developmentally ready for. It is a serious violation of a child’s rights, safety, and trust. Sexual abuse can take many forms, including inappropriate touching, forcing or persuading a child to engage in sexual acts, exposing a child to sexual content, taking sexual images of a child, online grooming, or exploiting a child for sexual purposes.

(Q) What are the common psychological effects of sexual abuse on children?

(A) The effects vary from child to child, but common psychological consequences include anxiety, depression, fear, shame, guilt, low self-esteem, sleep disturbances, nightmares, emotional withdrawal, and difficulties trusting others. Some children may also develop symptoms of post-traumatic stress, struggle academically, or engage in risky behaviours later in life.

(Q) What signs should parents, teachers, and caregivers look for that may indicate a child is being abused?

(A) Warning signs may include sudden changes in behaviour, withdrawal from family and friends, unexplained fear of certain people or places, regression to younger behaviours such as bedwetting, sleep problems, declining school performance, self-harm, age-inappropriate sexual knowledge or behaviour, and unexplained physical injuries. While these signs do not automatically mean abuse has occurred, they should never be ignored.

(Q) Why do many child victims find it difficult to disclose abuse? Is it social stigma or fear?

(A) Many children do not disclose abuse because they are frightened, confused, ashamed, or worried they will not be believed. In many cases, the abuser may be someone the child knows and trusts, making disclosure even more difficult. Children may also fear punishment, family conflict, social stigma, or threats made by the perpetrator. The silence surrounding sexual abuse often creates additional barriers to seeking help.

(Q) How does sexual abuse affect a child’s emotional and social development?

(A) Sexual abuse can interfere with a child’s ability to develop healthy relationships, trust others, and feel safe in the world. Emotionally, children may struggle with feelings of fear, anger, sadness, or worthlessness. Socially, they may become isolated, have difficulty making friends, or experience challenges in forming healthy relationships later in life. Without support, the impact can extend into adulthood.

(Q) What role do counselling and therapy play in a child’s recovery?

(A) Counselling and therapy provide children with a safe and supportive environment to process their experiences, express their emotions, and learn healthy coping strategies. Therapy can help reduce symptoms of trauma, rebuild self-esteem, strengthen resilience, and support healthy emotional development. Early intervention often improves long-term outcomes and helps children regain a sense of safety and control.

(Q) How can society create a safer environment for children?

(A) Creating a safer environment requires a collective effort. Parents, schools, communities, religious institutions, and authorities must work together to educate children about personal safety and boundaries, encourage open communication, take disclosures seriously, strengthen child protection systems, and hold perpetrators accountable. Equally important is fostering a culture where children feel heard, respected, and protected.

(Q) Are boys and girls affected differently by sexual abuse?

(A) Both boys and girls can experience severe emotional and psychological harm from sexual abuse. While the core effects are often similar, boys may be less likely to disclose abuse due to societal expectations around masculinity and fears of being judged or misunderstood. Girls may face different social pressures and stigmas. Regardless of gender, every child deserves support, protection, and access to appropriate care.

(Q) What is the emotional journey of a child survivor from disclosure to recovery?

(A) Every child’s journey is unique, but recovery is often a gradual process rather than a single event. Following disclosure, many children experience a mix of emotions, including relief, fear, confusion, shame, anger, sadness, and anxiety. While some may feel relieved that the secret is no longer being carried alone, others may worry about the consequences of speaking out. As the child begins receiving support from trusted adults and mental health professionals, they can gradually develop a sense of safety and stability. Over time, therapy and a supportive environment can help them process the trauma, rebuild trust, strengthen self-esteem, and develop healthy coping skills. Recovery does not mean forgetting what happened; rather, it means learning to move forward without the trauma defining their life. With appropriate intervention, many survivors go on to lead healthy, fulfilling, and meaningful lives.

(Q) How prevalent is child sexual abuse?

(A) Child sexual abuse is unfortunately a global public health concern affecting children across all cultures, communities, religions, and socioeconomic backgrounds. Research consistently shows that many cases go unreported, meaning the true prevalence is likely higher than official figures suggest. According to international estimates, approximately 1 in 5 girls and 1 in 13 boys experience some form of sexual abuse before the age of 18. However, experts believe these numbers may underestimate the actual extent of the problem due to fear, stigma, and barriers to disclosure. It is important to remember that child sexual abuse can happen in any family, school, community, or institution, and awareness, prevention, and early intervention remain critical in protecting children.

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“One of the greatest misconceptions about child sexual abuse is that it is rare or only happens in certain families. The reality is that it can affect any child. The responsibility for prevention and protection lies with all of us parents, educators, professionals, communities and society as a whole.”

By Zanita Careem

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