Opinion
Fingers or forks?

We grew up cleaning teeth using ground charcoal readily available in most households as ordinary people used firewood for cooking. Then came a noticeable uplift in our living standards when my father finally gave in to Amma’s constant complaining to buy a kerosene cooker! All siblings were pretty excited even to brag about it to classmates! Charcoal gave way to an Indian pink tooth powder called Gopal coming in packs. Notwithstanding the “primitive” stuff, our culture stressed the importance of oral hygiene! It meant just cleaning your teeth itself wasn’t good enough – cleaning your tongue was just as important! I recall my father asking to look into his mouth whether tongue was clean enough after almost making himself sick constantly poking his fingers in the process!
White people are not accustomed to it! No one in the family would be allowed the customary morning cup of black coffee until we have been put through the ablution! Having milk in coffee became possible when Milk Board opened a stall opposite Moratuwa Railway station which meant me trek a good five miles to fetch a bottle! It was 55 cents! All these rituals were in sharp contrast to British culture – cup of tea or coffee is given priority over oral hygiene! I still look down upon this habit though keep my opinion to myself.
After half a century of living in the U.K., I admit to using knife and fork as a force of habit now, though white people think using your fingers is “filthy”! Well, if you cannot trust your own fingers for cleanliness and hygiene as opposed to cutlery, there is something wrong somewhere in your logic!
In all fairness to British strict table etiquette, you are not supposed to talk while eating! More to the point, it’s common sense – we could spit unintentionally especially if we have gaps in our teeth! I am no exception. Also, you should not leave the table until everyone has finished. If you must, excuse yourself.
Something totally hilarious and very embarrassing happened to me in the Majestic shopping mall in Colombo long time ago – my wife and daughter were still enjoying the food when I had to excuse myself to go into the washroom mainly to rinse my mouth as I have gaps in my teeth. There was a row of wash hand basins and a “long mirror” I presumed above.
So, I was busy looking myself in the “mirror” mouth wide open. My wife and daughter not least others were shocked and hugely embarrassed! Not to me as I thought it was simply a reflection from the “mirror”. Need I say walking back to the table wasn’t fun!
Reverting back to Suddhas ways, it is not uncommon to see them giving their dinner plates with leftovers to the pet dogs to finish it off! All these in sharp contrast to their customs saying “Oh, pardon me when you sneeze”, and you are supposed to “Bless you!” Anyway, let me conclude on a happier note, Cheers! Bacchus was the Roman god of wine, fertility, and revelry! My mother enjoyed Southern comfort during our regular visits, saying “Comfort, comfort!”
Saturday 08th March marked our beloved Amma’s death anniversary! May she attain Nibbana! She visited us in UK three times, my father did so twice.
Sunil Dharmabandhu
Wales, UK
Opinion
Insulting SL armed forces

No Head of State of Sri Lanka had ever alleged that the country’s security forces were unprofessional until unrecently.
Our forces successfully suppressed two insurgencies in 1971 and 1989, fought a thirty-year war against the world’s most ruthless terrorist group, and emerged victorious. The then-President proudly named his Commander of the Army as the best Commander in the world.
Our forces have been continually selected by the UN to serve as peacekeeping forces globally.
However, President Anura Kumara Dissanayake, who appointed a his Secretaries of Defence and Public Security and the Deputy Minister of Defence retired personnel from the Army and Police, now claims in Parliament that Sri Lanka’s armed forces are unprofessional.
Does the President wish to go down in world history as the only elected leader who insulted his armed forces?
A Ratnayake
Opinion
Beyond Victory: sportsmanship thrives at Moratuwa Big Match

The 75th annual Prince of Wales vs. St. Sebastian’s College Big Match, Moratuwa’s most significant social event, took place at De Soysa Park from February 28 to March 2. This marked the first time the Big Match was played over three days, with both teams thoroughly prepared for the grand occasion. The host, Prince of Wales College, did an excellent job organizing the event. Schoolboys, alumni, and well-wishers from both sides eagerly anticipated the start of the match and traditional pre-match gatherings and parties were held with many choosing to prioritize the sporting spirit over excessive revelry.
Unfortunately, the weather gods had other plans. Showers disrupted play on all three days with a particularly heavy thunderstorm on the evening of the second day forcing a delayed start on the third day. The match concluded at 4:00 PM due to bad light, resulting in a tame draw. But as the saying goes, “For when the one great scorer comes to mark against your name, he writes not if you won or lost, but how you played the game.” Both teams upheld the values of cricket and played with commendable sportsmanship.
While the details of the 75th Big Match may fade from memory, the closing ceremony speech by Prince of Wales Principal, Mr. Hasitha Kesara Weththimuni, will undoubtedly be remembered, especially by those present at the venue. Thanks to social media, courtesy of Sebastianite alumni, this speech is now widely shared. Traditionally, the Big Match is perceived as rivalry between schools. However, Mr. Weththimuni introduced a new culture, emphasizing brotherhood and the true spirit of cricket, setting a positive example for students, alumni, and supporters alike. It is hoped that future Big Matches will reflect this spirit.
Beyond the Big Match, Principal Weththimuni also acknowledged the ongoing Schools League One cricket tournament. Despite Prince of Wales not qualifying for the finals, he paid a heartfelt tribute to the St. Sebastian’s College cricket team for reaching the finals against Royal College, Colombo. He sincerely wished St. Sebestian’s good luck, expressing his hope that they would bring the cup back to Moratuwa, promising that victory celebrations would commence at Prince of Wales College.
Principal Weththimuni, your leadership is commendable. We are proud of your vision, and I am confident that the community of Moratuwa will greatly benefit from your guidance from Prince of Wales College.
Ralph Gunawardena
A former St. Sebastian’s cricketer
Opinion
Why do we need a Women’s Day ?

International Women’s Day falls tomorrow
by Geewananda Gunawardana,Ph.D.
It was fifty years ago in 1975 that the United Nations designated March 8th as International Women’s Day to promote women’s rights and world peace. Its origins lie in early twentieth-century suffrage and labour movements. Ironically, at the current pace, achieving all its goals could take another 150 years. Inequality for half the population is not only a societal failure but also a significant barrier to progress, and Sri Lanka cannot afford to wait for that long.
Sri Lanka remains an oddity among similar economies in this respect. It elected the first female head of state in the world. With a high human development index, over 92% literacy for both genders, and 60% of university students being women, Sri Lanka still ranks poorly on global Gender Inequality Indices. According to a UN report, only 35% of the females participate in the workforce compared to 72% of the men. Women constitute 52% of Sri Lanka’s population, but female representation in parliament is only 9.8%. What is worst is that 90% of Sri Lankan women and girls have faced sexual harassment at least once in their lifetime, a blemish to our image not only as a top tourist destination but also as the guardians of a major religion teaching equality and equanimity. The Global Gender Gap Index 2024 ranks Sri Lanka at 122 among 146 countries. What prevents the country from escaping this embarrassing position and utilising its full human potential for its development?
Sri Lankan culture has been a patriarchy. However, as a primarily an agrarian society, women had an equal participation in the labour force in the past. The few historical records available does not give the impression that Sri Lankan women were forced to live a subservient life (Knox, 1681). It is possible that the adoption of Victorian ‘values’ that demeaned women, during colonial rule may have contributed to transforming the society to some extent. However, it is reasonable to assume that we have overcome most such influences, perhaps except for the aspect that some have described as “the monstrosity of the male gaze.” It is accepted that a society cannot be shaped by rules and regulations alone. We must acknowledge that while existing rules and regulations are sufficient to safeguard gender equality, it is society’s inability to ensure their implementation that has hampered our progress in this respect. Since the steps taken last September ensure safeguarding and strengthening the rules, it remains for society to fulfill its share of responsibility. It is this shortcoming that makes Sri Lanka an oddity among its peers.
The lack of translation of gender equality in education into the job market is concerning, as it indicates a suboptimal utilisation of the talents of half the population and inefficient use of educational resources. Several factors contribute to this situation: prolonged interruptions and delays in education over the years have led to an older student population compared to previous generations. As a result, job market entry and childbearing age overlap, raising concerns for job seekers and employers, especially for the job seeker and her family due to cultural norms. The lack of childcare facilities further delays their entry into the job market. While it is not possible to put a monetary value to this enormously important function of childbearing, caring, and home keeping, its contribution to the GDP goes unnoticed and unappreciated. The unaccounted contributions to GDP are estimated at 2.4% for males and 10.3% for females, based on the lowest wage rate. At the higher wage rate, they are 8.1% and 33.8%, respectively (Gunewardena, 2017).
In previous generations, when the typical graduation age was around 21-22 years, it was common to gain several years of job experience before starting a family and to continue working after maternity leave. Taking measures to reduce interruptions to education and making childcare affordable are two ways to encourage the skilled female population to remain in the workforce. In addition, there should be ways to recognize the silent contributions to the economy and bearing a higher burden in bringing up the next generation by women. Women constitute 40% of the migrant workforce, 78% of the garment workers, and 65% of the tea estate workers, which together contribute about 20% of the GDP in addition to the unaccounted figures mentioned earlier. Does the society appreciate this enormous contribution to country’s economy by women?
Sadly, according to available data, the answer is no. It is common knowledge that sexual harassment of girls and women both in public transport systems and in the workplace is prevalent, even though only limited data are available for the latter case. The prevalence of the issue has also caused women’s reluctance to join the workforce. A 2016 International Labour Organization report states that three-fifths of unemployed women would be willing to work if they were assured that they would not be subject to sexual harassment in the workplace. Underlying causes of this behaviour towards women have been identified as complex, but one thing is clear: it is a learned behavior. That means society can prevent the younger generations from turning into monsters if it has the will irrespective of the historical circumstances. That is where education and upbringing can be effective. Statistics are hard to come by, but, ironically, the consensus is that those who should be role models happen to be the usual offenders. What is more, the barbaric practice of ragging in higher education institutions, also contributes to the male dominant attitude. Unfortunately, the erosion of law and order in general over the decades has rendered seeking legal protection meaningless. In fact, the procedures are such that pursuing legal action could invite more trouble, and as a result both victims as well as witnesses tend to avoid that option.
Poverty statistics also support the negative answer: women and children endure the most of economic hardships; according to reports, 42.2% of children under age 5 are multidimensionally poor. Another study found that families from the two lowest income brackets spend 40% of their total income on alcohol (Jayatilaka, 2017). The Alcohol and Drugs Information Centre reports that Sri Lankans spend 690 million rupees daily on alcohol; that is excluding the illicit alcohol and drugs. On an annualised basis, this is about 40% of the country’s education budget, for comparison. The impact of alcoholism goes beyond poverty, that also contributes to physical violence and mental trauma, especially on women and girls. It is the same abusers of alcohol that make streets unsafe for girls and women especially at the end of the day on their way home from classes or work.
It is well established that human behaviour cannot be legalised without sacrificing freedom. That is where the religions and societal ethics can play a role. Unfortunately, misinterpretation of some religious texts has contributed to encourage the male dominant attitude. For example, some Buddhist clergy expect laity to follow the rules meant for monastics in relating to women and treat them as ‘repulsive.’ They overlook the fact that Buddha described how a husband should treat the wife in the Singalovada Sutta: ‘A husband should serve his wife as the western quarter in five ways: by treating her with honour, by not looking down on her, by not being unfaithful, by relinquishing authority to her, and by presenting her with adornments.’ There is no mention of domineering or superiority of any gender.
Lack of understanding the differences in biology is another contributing factor to this problem; not knowing the truth tends to revert us to animal instincts. It is estimated that 60% of the girls did not know about menstruation until the first period. No need to say that men have a distorted view of menstruation, which is often based on indirect or incomplete information. The biology of the two genders is different but being ignorant of such a basic function linked to the continuity of human race at this day and age is a travesty. Why does society consider the subject taboo? Does it understand the consequences of this ignorance? Why did the religious and community leaders oppose providing that information to our children? They talk about period poverty in high circles; they are mistaken, there is information poverty. It is time that society move into the 21st century and remove taboos and inuendo associated with this biological fact.
The key question is why women are not given an opportunity to voice their concerns. It is true that the country elected the first female head of state in the world. But after over a half a century, there are less than 10% female representatives in the parliament while 56% of the voting population is female. Unfortunately, until recently, Sri Lankan politics has been a male dominated, corrupt dynastic affair. As demonstrated by a recent incident, the assembly has yet to shed old habits completely. We have taken a small step forward, but that is not sufficient. As the Hon. Prime minister said, “Equal representation is necessary to bring feminist sensitivity to policy making.” Let us hope that society heeds that message at the next opportunity.
Gender inequality is not merely a women’s problem, it is a societal problem that transcends gender, race, religion, and political affiliations. Most relevant to the current situation is that it affects economic development; how can a nation progress when half of its population is not given an opportunity to contribute? It is not sufficient to dedicate a day, talk or write about it, and continue as before. Society must recognize inequality, provide equity, and ensure that justice prevails. Both human decency and the law ensure equal rights to work, travel, dignity, and legal protection for all. There is an enormous education gap, and it is the responsibility of adults, educators, religious leaders, and most importantly, all types of media to bridge that gap. As demonstrated last September, our society is an intelligent one, and they do not fail to act when needed. A significant issue in this regard is the insufficient awareness of the importance of treating women and girls equally, as well as the broader impact on society of failing to do so, not just on our mothers, sisters, and daughters.
We do not have to wait for another 150 years as the pundits predict, if we have the will, we can eliminate this curse within a generation or two. Educate the youngsters that we all are equal.
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