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Brides and Grooms – The Search

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by ACB Pethiyagoda

An Indian journalist, very probably married and with no ‘issues’, as children are often referred to in that country, has found advertisements in the ‘Wanted-Brides/Bridegrooms’ columns a source of amusement. The article which appeared in the Daily News recently gives one the impression that some Indians, lately, appear to find serious situations to be funny and vice versa and are only too ready, at least in the newspapers, to treat another’s problem as if they themselves have not or would not ever face similar situations. Be that as it may we ourselves are no different at times.

In our own country these matrimonial newspaper advertisements are taken seriously by those who insert them and those who await the dawn of each Sunday in the hope that with the assistance of the marriage proposals columns their search for a future partner in life would end. Of course, in their prevailing circumstances, they hardly realize that with that end comes the end of many pleasant and unpleasant facets of their lonely or not so lonely lives!

Consider for instance the plight of the ‘Highly qualified, Sinhala Buddhist 35-year-old, teetotaller, engineer working abroad and on a short holiday in December, who advertised that “he wishes to meet a wealthy, good looking, fair, well educated lady from a respectable family with a view to marriage” before returning to work end December.

That is a tall end of year order and one assumption is that this highly qualified engineer, unlike large numbers of other less qualified lonely hearts has no faith in the influence of celestial bodies on his life as there is no indication in the advertisement of the star he was born under and he does not appear to be interested in the planetary positions which influence his future wife. Perhaps this is because what he sees is more important to him than what he does not.

He is indeed sensible as far as this aspect goes but on the other hand with the hordes of women who are ready to pawn, steal and forge to leave the country even as multi-duty housemaids to unknown Arabs, he has not given sufficient thought to the possibility of being virtually inundated with replies from several thousand prospective brides to be or their loving parents, well meaning siblings, uncles, aunts or friends.

Such an avalanche, among several other reasons, is because few people think they are not wealthy, good looking, well educated or from a respectable family and they are absolutely correct as these attributes are only relative terms.

This engineer has not realized what a stupendous and risky task he is soon to face or it may be that he is the trusting type who has still not learnt enough about life. He is also, to say the least, rather unfair as he does not say where or what he engineers, particularly because there being engineers and engineers in foreign lands!

If he has not already arranged for secretarial and perhaps courier services also how would this advertiser sort his mail, write back to the selected candidates, fix appointments, meet them, short list them, compare their merits and finally marry one of them, all ‘on a short holiday”?

Also, if he is successful in his mission in spite of the constraints and hazards, would he not have a lurking suspicion at all times that he may have missed the ‘gem’ as all he had to go by were mere letters and his intuition without samples, trials, tests and specs to guide him as is usual in his professional life?

Further, could not the deceitful (there being enough and more of them now) introduce him to a beauty and imply or produce proof of her graduation, bank accounts, CDs, NRFC Account, Term Deposits, Special Deposits, houses, lands close relationship to all sorts of high flying types (there being enough and more them also now) and on the all important day produce someone without any or at best with the less valuable of the required qualifications?

Some would say, ‘what stupidity’. May be, but then such things have happened and have been attempted in the past, will happen and will be attempted in the future too. How so? Just as much as a sucker is born every minute so are crooks, knaves, liars and imposters.How that Indian journalist found such grave and dangerous situations to be funny is beyond comprehension.

Advertisements are also frequently inserted by men and women declaring themselves as divorcees who are the ‘innocent party’ and a great, great majority of them are ‘without encumbrances.’ Does this mean that those with encumbrances have had enough of matrimony and do not seek partners as they have no wish to encumber themselves with a spouse also? If so, thank the Gods, we do seem to have wise and pragmatic people among us.

Another question comes to mind. What do the men and women who fall into the category of the ‘guilty party’ do about finding marriage partners? Are they sufficiently experienced and resourceful enough to find partners without help of newspapers or have they decided that the life of a ‘singleton’ as someone said, is preferable to being spliced? Or have they locked the proverbial cupboard so securely that they feel safe enough to masquerade as the ‘innocent party’?

Advertisers in the matrimonial columns of our newspapers are indeed brash and trusting people. They are no different from thousands like them in more advanced countries who go to computer banks not only to punch in their requirements but have the advantage of an instant offer of a choice of several suitable partners with micro chip assistance.

Good luck to them all in the New Year!

(First published in 1987)



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Three arrested with narcotics valued at Rs123 million at BIA

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Three Sri Lankan male passengers who arrived from Muscat by flight no. OV 437 on Saturday (24) have been arrested by officers attached to the  NCU at BIA as they were found  to be carrying 12,306 grams of Cannabis class narcotics (suspected as Hashish & Kush) valued at 123 million rupees.

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Navy intercepts 02 narcotics-laden trawlers with 11 suspects in southern seas

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Building on its success in seizing major narcotic stocks in 2025, the Navy continued to support the “A Nation United” National Mission in 2026. In continuation of these efforts, during an
operation conducted on the high seas south of Sri Lanka, the Navy apprehended eleven (11) suspects aboard two local multi-day fishing trawlers suspected of drug smuggling.

Based on shared information, by the Sri Lanka Navy and Police, this special operation was conducted off the southern coast, deploying the Navy‟s Offshore Patrol Vessels. The operation
resulted in the interception of a multi-day fishing trawler  suspected of smuggling narcotics, and the apprehension of five (05) suspects on board.

During further operations in the same area, naval units seized another multi-day fishing trawler (01), along with communication equipment and six (06) additional suspects, also believed to be involved in drug smuggling.

This morning (25 Jan 26), the two intercepted fishing trawlers, along with fourteen (14) sacks laden with suspected narcotics and the suspects, were brought to the Dikovita Fisheries Harbour.

An expert examination by the Police Narcotic Bureau confirmed that the fourteen (14) sacks contained more than 184 kilograms of heroin and over 112 kilograms of ‘Ice’ (crystal methamphetamine).

The Deputy Minister of Defence, Major General (Retd) Aruna Jayasekara,  the Commander of the Navy, Vice Admiral Kanchana Banagoda, and the Inspector General of Police,  Priyantha Weerasuriya, inspected the narcotics at the Dikovita harbour.

The Deputy Minister of Defence said  that the current administration has initiated several projects for national development. As a flagship initiative, under the directives and guidance of the President, and under the supervision of the
Ministry of Defence, well-coordinated anti-narcotic raids have been launched.

This effort, part of “A Nation United” National Mission, involves the tri-forces, police, and all intelligence agencies working together under a coordinated plan to ensure that drug smugglers have no opportunity to bring narcotics into the country, he opined. He further stated that despite the national disaster situation, the state machinery, including the tri-forces, the police, and the public at large, remains united in rebuilding the nation, no room will be left for drug trafficking, which poses a severe threat to national security and public safety. Those
who engage in or support drug trafficking, under the cover of fishing activities, will find no escape, he added.

The Deputy Minister also reaffirmed that the tri-forces, police, and all law enforcement agencies are fully committed to their duty of suppressing this menace.

The Deputy Minister of Defence reported that, throughout 2025, a series of highly successful operations were conducted leading to numerous arrests. This was achieved through close coordination and mutual cooperation among the tri-services, the police, the Special Task Force, Police Narcotics Bureau, local law enforcement and international agencies. He noted that this
same spirit of cooperation and commitment has continued into 2026, resulting in the seizure of a large stockpile of drugs.

On behalf of the Honourable President, he extended gratitude to all who contributed to these efforts, specifically acknowledging the Commander of the Navy, the Inspector General of Police, the Police Narcotic Bureau, and the crews of the Navy’s Offshore
Patrol Vessels.

Moreover, the Deputy Minister declared that drug smuggling has become a national crisis, fueled by youth involvement and social crime. With borders secured under the “Nation United” National Mission, he warned traffickers to cease operations and urged users to abandon the destructive habit.

The Deputy Minister urged the public to report suspected drug smugglers to law enforcement via the hotlines 1818 or 1997 and also commended the role of media institutions and journalists in raising public awareness about the dangers of narcotics through responsible reporting.

Meanwhile, the two (02) multi-day fishing trawlers, along with a haul of narcotics, eleven (11) suspects, and communication equipment, were handed over to the Police Narcotic Bureau for
further investigation and legal proceedings.

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Engineers draw red line as CEBEU warns of union action over appointed date

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Engineers at the Ceylon Electricity Board have drawn a clear red line over the government’s plan to gazette the appointed date for restructuring the utility, warning that trade union action will follow if the move is pushed through without addressing their core demands, the Sunday Island learns.

The powerful Ceylon Electricity Board Engineers’ Union (CEBEU) says preparations are already under way for industrial action, most likely after the appointed date gazette is published, should the Minister proceed without resolving outstanding issues raised repeatedly by engineers.

“If the appointed date is gazetted without addressing our demands, we will have no option but to take trade union action,” a senior electrical engineer told The Island, stressing that the warning should be taken seriously.

CEBEU sources say the engineers’ demands are aimed at preventing a structural and financial crisis in the electricity sector, rather than blocking reform. They insist that unbundling the CEB without first putting in place firm safeguards would expose the sector to instability and consumers to higher costs.

The engineers’ key demands include: legally binding financial safeguards to ensure the proposed Electricity Generation Company is viable from inception; protection against the transfer of legacy liabilities, extraordinary costs, or inefficiencies to new entities or electricity consumers; enforceable accountability for management and policy decisions that inflate system costs; genuine, structured consultation with technical professionals before irreversible decisions are taken; and a halt to gazetting the appointed date until these safeguards are formally incorporated.

Engineers warn that rushing the appointed date would lock existing weaknesses into the new structure, making them harder—and more expensive—to fix later. “Once the appointed date is gazetted, there is no rewind button,” a senior engineer said. “If the foundation is flawed, the entire structure will suffer.”

Meanwhile, according to energy analyst, Dr. Vidhura Ralapanwe, electricity sector reforms must be grounded in technical and financial reality, not driven by administrative timelines.

He has cautioned that implementing structural changes without correcting underlying governance and cost issues risks destabilising the sector and undermining public confidence.

CEBEU officials reject claims that the union is resisting reform. They say engineers are being sidelined in decision-making while being held responsible for system performance. “We are accountable for keeping the system running, but our professional warnings are being ignored,” one engineer said. “That is not reform; it is reckless governance.”

With the Minister yet to gazette the appointed date, tensions within the power sector are rising sharply.

Engineers say the government now faces a stark choice: engage with professionals and fix the problems first—or brace for confrontation in a sector where disruption will have coutrywide consequences.

By Ifham Nizam ✍️

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