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Suicide never a solution
Creating Hope Through Action’ is the triennial theme for the years 2021- 23 for the World Suicide Prevention Day observed every year, on 10 September. This is to draw societal attention to the important issue. A few days back, the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB), released data for 2021, and reported 1,64,033 suicides in India, with a rate of 12 per 1,00,000 population, an increase by about seven per cent, compared to 2020.
By Saraswathi Tenagi and Vijaykumar Harbishettar
‘Creating Hope Through Action’ is the triennial theme for the years 2021- 23 for the World Suicide Prevention Day observed every year, on 10 September. This is to draw societal attention to the important issue. A few days back, the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB), released data for 2021, and reported 1,64,033 suicides in India, with a rate of 12 per 1,00,000 population, an increase by about seven percent compared to 2020.
These figures miss out those unnatural deaths which are still under investigation, or inconclusive. The NCRB report finds that five states put together – namely Maharashtra, Tamil Nadu, Madhya Pradesh, West Bengal, and Karnataka – accounted cent of the suicides in India. On the other hand, the most populous Uttar Pradesh reported a lower percentage. Furthermore, analysis by the NCRB mentions causes such as family problems/ personal issues, illness, love affairs, abuse, violence, isolation, and alcohol/drug use.
The age group 18- 45 is the most vulnerable as around 66 per cent of suicides are reported in this age range. Let us try and understand the impact of suicides on those kith and kin who are left behind. Any kind of death affects families resulting in a process called grief. It takes at least a year before it starts to subside. But in case of death by suicide, the grief process becomes more complex, as it is traumatic and violent. Talking about suicide, especially the mode of death, can cause lot of distress in anyone, including the person reporting it. The immediate family members and close friends may develop guilt, start to question themselves with many ‘what ifs’ and whether they could have saved the person. Close ones may also have to face police investigation and media scrutiny. There is a need to support suicide survivors; especially some family members such as mother, father, sister and even spouse may get affected deeply and can show signs of mental breakdown. Trauma can haunt some mothers or spouses for many years.
The healthcare system and community need to support them as mass/family suicides are slowly on the rise. The theme ‘Creating hope through action’ is a reminder that there is an alternative to ending life by suicide and the objective is to inspire and instil confidence.
Through their actions, no matter how big or small, everyone can create hope for those who are struggling. Some people thinking of suicide have said they wish someone had at least asked them once. Warning bells should ring if you see a recent change in behaviour – a gloomy appearance, mood swings, frequent expression of death or dying, talking about going far away, expressing hopelessness, unusual fear, not making eye contact, not being open, appearing depressed, not engaging, unable to resolve a problem and experiencing chronic stress.
Along with trying to engage the person, leaving work aside, it is recommended that one should ask directly if she or he is having suicidal thoughts or plans, or if the person is thinking about dying. Many people have the notion that by enquiring directly about suicide, they could increase the risk by instilling the idea into the person’s mind. But it is the other way around. Asking directly about suicide gives a good chance to save them. The person may actually feel better after this so-called emotional ventilation.
If still in crisis, it is best to take them to the nearest Emergency room or if during the day to a psychiatrist. Suicidal thoughts are complex and vary across individuals. Sometimes it can be impulsive. However, many actions are planned, with elaborate preparations made before the final act including the date and mode of death. Some may even say their goodbyes indirectly.
These should be seen as hints. Many would have visited their doctors, friends or even been hospitalised before the act. For every suicide reported, there are at least 25 suicide attempts. Attempts increase risk of suicide. Many suicide attempts may go unrecorded, and some may not get assessed, though many hospitals insist on the person seeing a psychiatrist.
The individual may not have disclosed previous attempts, leaving many around unaware. Individuals are different, so the same approach may not work for all. Persons with suicidal thoughts may feel trapped, and that they have no other option.
There is a quote by Magic Johnson, ‘all the kids need is just a little help, a little hope and somebody (who) believes in them’. Many may not need advice, but just need some time where they can be heard without being judged. Such small talk can create a sense of connectedness and thus some hope. It can actually save lives. While many can cope with the adversities in life, a few are vulnerable.
There are many factors like family problems, personality style, environmental factors, traumatic childhood events, and mental health conditions that contribute to the vulnerability. At the same time, protective factors like support from family and friends, problem-solving skills, decision-making skills, rational and critical thinking and resilience would help the person to overcome suicidal thoughts. Suicide is a complex interaction between these triggering factors, vulnerabilities and protective factors. Focus should be on enhancing the protective factors and minimising the vulnerability factors. Stigma or a belief that they can get discriminated against, and being labelled as a weak-minded person may act as a barrier to seeking help.
Listening to those sharing their experience of having overcome the problems, and how they changed their approach is one way to educate the public. These narratives can help others understand what it means to feel suicidal and how they can help themselves as well as others. One of the most successful Olympic swimmers ever has spoken about having had suicidal thoughts. In a media interview, famous English cricketer Jonny Bairstow has spoken out about his late father, again a well-known cricketer, who died by suicide, and how he was affected by his mum’s cancer. He has talked about the challenges he faced, while trying to focus on playing in India and the Ashes series.
Impact of his dad’s death by suicide and building his career in the cricket community, where many knew his dad, and eventually managing to carry on his dad’s legacy, have lessons to offer to the many families going through the loss of loved ones through suicide. A few Indian cricketers also have expressed in the media that they had these thoughts intruding their minds. It was painful to learn of the death of a successful entrepreneur, whose business slogan itself was ‘a lot can happen over coffee’ and made one wonder if he had followed the slogan. The message here is that there are many options to be tried before concluding that no help is available.
Depression can make someone feel lonely, hopeless, and so make it hard to trust anyone. But this illness is treatable. Anyone feeling blue, doomed, hopeless or worthless, should take a step back and examine ambitions and goals, and look at changing career paths if required. Make changes to the lifestyle. Nurture old hobbies or cultivate new ones that give pleasure. Try learning new skills. Spend time with friends and family. If work is causing stress, discuss this with colleagues, and ask for a break. Get involved in social and community activities, including volunteering.
Try spending time with nature, visit places and spend time in a calm environment. Spirituality and meditation, including practising mindfulness techniques, are to be tried. Take out time to exercise and meet friends in the park or at the jogging track. One must try and attend family functions, marriages and events to meet friends, even when not feeling like it. Mass media, playwrights and authors must depict suicide with responsibility.
There was a novel called ‘Sorrows of Young Werther’ written in the 18th century that led to many copycat suicides, as it was shown that Werther did not have a way out other than suicide. On the other hand, in an opera called “The Magic Flute”, a suicidal character named Papageno is reminded by some boys of alternative ways to resolve the problem. Such is the influence of the media on people who are in crisis.
If a person searches for ‘ways to commit suicide’ on search engines, the first few hits will now show ‘crisis helpline’ or ‘help is available’. Responsible reporting by the media is important and the World Health Organisation have issued guidelines on dos and don’ts. Ultimately the decision to choose life or death rests with the individual.
The message to anyone who might be thinking of ending life is to hold on and give your friends and family a fair chance. The person must meet and discuss problems with a nearby psychiatrist. They may try to remove your pain or support you and so it is important to work with them. Suicide is not at a solution to any problem.
(The Statesman/ANN)
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Acid test emerges for US-EU ties
European Commission President Ursula von der Leyen addressing the World Economic Forum in Davos, Switzerland on Tuesday put forward the EU’s viewpoint on current questions in international politics with a clarity, coherence and eloquence that was noteworthy. Essentially, she aimed to leave no one in doubt that a ‘new form of European independence’ had emerged and that European solidarity was at a peak.
These comments emerge against the backdrop of speculation in some international quarters that the Post-World War Two global political and economic order is unraveling. For example, if there was a general tacit presumption that US- Western European ties in particular were more or less rock-solid, that proposition apparently could no longer be taken for granted.
For instance, while US President Donald Trump is on record that he would bring Greenland under US administrative control even by using force against any opposition, if necessary, the EU Commission President was forthright that the EU stood for Greenland’s continued sovereignty and independence.
In fact at the time of writing, small military contingents from France, Germany, Sweden, Norway and the Netherlands are reportedly already in Greenland’s capital of Nook for what are described as limited reconnaissance operations. Such moves acquire added importance in view of a further comment by von der Leyen to the effect that the EU would be acting ‘in full solidarity with Greenland and Denmark’; the latter being the current governing entity of Greenland.
It is also of note that the EU Commission President went on to say that the ‘EU has an unwavering commitment to UK’s independence.’ The immediate backdrop to this observation was a UK decision to hand over administrative control over the strategically important Indian Ocean island of Diego Garcia to Mauritius in the face of opposition by the Trump administration. That is, European unity in the face of present controversial moves by the US with regard to Greenland and other matters of contention is an unshakable ‘given’.
It is probably the fact that some prominent EU members, who also hold membership of NATO, are firmly behind the EU in its current stand-offs with the US that is prompting the view that the Post-World War Two order is beginning to unravel. This is, however, a matter for the future. It will be in the interests of the contending quarters concerned and probably the world to ensure that the present tensions do not degenerate into an armed confrontation which would have implications for world peace.
However, it is quite some time since the Post-World War Two order began to face challenges. Observers need to take their minds back to the Balkan crisis and the subsequent US invasions of Afghanistan and Iraq in the immediate Post-Cold War years, for example, to trace the basic historic contours of how the challenges emerged. In the above developments the seeds of global ‘disorder’ were sown.
Such ‘disorder’ was further aggravated by the Russian invasion of Ukraine four years ago. Now it may seem that the world is reaping the proverbial whirlwind. It is relevant to also note that the EU Commission President was on record as pledging to extend material and financial support to Ukraine in its travails.
Currently, the international law and order situation is such that sections of the world cannot be faulted for seeing the Post World War Two international order as relentlessly unraveling, as it were. It will be in the interests of all concerned for negotiated solutions to be found to these global tangles. In fact von der Leyen has committed the EU to finding diplomatic solutions to the issues at hand, including the US-inspired tariff-related squabbles.
Given the apparent helplessness of the UN system, a pre-World War Two situation seems to be unfolding, with those states wielding the most armed might trying to mould international power relations in their favour. In the lead-up to the Second World War, the Hitlerian regime in Germany invaded unopposed one Eastern European country after another as the League of Nations stood idly by. World War Two was the result of the Allied Powers finally jerking themselves out of their complacency and taking on Germany and its allies in a full-blown world war.
However, unlike in the late thirties of the last century, the seeming number one aggressor, which is the US this time around, is not going unchallenged. The EU which has within its fold the foremost of Western democracies has done well to indicate to the US that its power games in Europe are not going unmonitored and unchecked. If the US’ designs to take control of Greenland and Denmark, for instance, are not defeated the world could very well be having on its hands, sooner rather than later, a pre-World War Two type situation.
Ironically, it is the ‘World’s Mightiest Democracy’ which is today allowing itself to be seen as the prime aggressor in the present round of global tensions. In the current confrontations, democratic opinion the world over is obliged to back the EU, since it has emerged as the principal opponent of the US, which is allowing itself to be seen as a fascist power.
Hopefully sane counsel would prevail among the chief antagonists in the present standoff growing, once again, out of uncontainable territorial ambitions. The EU is obliged to lead from the front in resolving the current crisis by diplomatic means since a region-wide armed conflict, for instance, could lead to unbearable ill-consequences for the world.
It does not follow that the UN has no role to play currently. Given the existing power realities within the UN Security Council, the UN cannot be faulted for coming to be seen as helpless in the face of the present tensions. However, it will need to continue with and build on its worldwide development activities since the global South in particular needs them very badly.
The UN needs to strive in the latter directions more than ever before since multi-billionaires are now in the seats of power in the principle state of the global North, the US. As the charity Oxfam has pointed out, such financially all-powerful persons and allied institutions are multiplying virtually incalculably. It follows from these realities that the poor of the world would suffer continuous neglect. The UN would need to redouble its efforts to help these needy sections before widespread poverty leads to hemispheric discontent.
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Brighten up your skin …
Hi! This week I’ve come up with tips to brighten up your skin.
* Turmeric and Yoghurt Face Pack:
You will need 01 teaspoon of turmeric powder and 02 tablespoons of fresh yoghurt.
Mix the turmeric and yoghurt into a smooth paste and apply evenly on clean skin. Leave it for 15–20 minutes and then rinse with lukewarm water
Benefits:
Reduces pigmentation, brightens dull skin and fights acne-causing bacteria.
* Lemon and Honey Glow Pack:
Mix 01teaspoon lemon juice and 01 tablespoon honey and apply it gently to the face. Leave for 10–15 minutes and then wash off with cool water.
Benefits:
Lightens dark spots, improves skin tone and deeply moisturises. By the way, use only 01–02 times a week and avoid sun exposure after use.
* Aloe Vera Gel Treatment:
All you need is fresh aloe vera gel which you can extract from an aloe leaf. Apply a thin layer, before bedtime, leave it overnight, and then wash face in the morning.
Benefits:
Repairs damaged skin, lightens pigmentation and adds natural glow.
* Rice Flour and Milk Scrub:
You will need 01 tablespoon rice flour and 02 tablespoons fresh milk.
Mix the rice flour and milk into a thick paste and then massage gently in circular motions. Leave for 10 minutes and then rinse with water.
Benefits:
Removes dead skin cells, improves complexion, and smoothens skin.
* Tomato Pulp Mask:
Apply the tomato pulp directly, leave for 15 minutes, and then rinse with cool water
Benefits:
Controls excess oil, reduces tan, and brightens skin naturally.
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Shooting for the stars …
That’s precisely what 25-year-old Hansana Balasuriya has in mind – shooting for the stars – when she was selected to represent Sri Lanka on the international stage at Miss Intercontinental 2025, in Sahl Hasheesh, Egypt.
The grand finale is next Thursday, 29th January, and Hansana is all geared up to make her presence felt in a big way.
Her journey is a testament to her fearless spirit and multifaceted talents … yes, her life is a whirlwind of passion, purpose, and pageantry.
Raised in a family of water babies (Director of The Deep End and Glory Swim Shop), Hansana’s love affair with swimming began in childhood and then she branched out to master the “art of 8 limbs” as a Muay Thai fighter, nailed Karate and Kickboxing (3-time black belt holder), and even threw herself into athletics (literally!), especially throwing events, and netball, as well.
A proud Bishop’s College alumna, Hansana’s leadership skills also shone bright as Senior Choir Leader.
She earned a BA (Hons) in Business Administration from Esoft Metropolitan University, and then the world became her playground.
Before long, modelling and pageantry also came into her scene.
She says she took to part-time modelling, as a hobby, and that led to pageants, grabbing 2nd Runner-up titles at Miss Nature Queen and Miss World Sri Lanka 2025.
When she’s not ruling the stage, or pool, Hansana’s belting tunes with Soul Sounds, Sri Lanka’s largest female ensemble.
What’s more, her artistry extends to drawing, and she loves hitting the open road for long drives, she says.
This water warrior is also on a mission – as Founder of Wave of Safety,
Hansana happens to be the youngest Executive Committee Member of the Sri Lanka Aquatic Sports Union (SLASU) and, as founder of Wave of Safety, she’s spreading water safety awareness and saving lives.
Today is Hansana’s ninth day in Egypt and the itinerary for today, says National Director for Sri Lanka, Brian Kerkoven, is ‘Jeep Safari and Sunset at the Desert.’
And … the all-important day at Miss Intercontinental 2025 is next Thursday, 29th January.
Well, good luck to Hansana.
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