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Suicide never a solution

Published

3 years ago

2022/09/19

Creating Hope Through Action’ is the triennial theme for the years 2021- 23 for the World Suicide Prevention Day observed every year, on 10 September. This is to draw societal attention to the important issue. A few days back, the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB), released data for 2021, and reported 1,64,033 suicides in India, with a rate of 12 per 1,00,000 population, an increase by about seven per cent, compared to 2020.

By Saraswathi Tenagi and Vijaykumar Harbishettar

‘Creating Hope Through Action’ is the triennial theme for the years 2021- 23 for the World Suicide Prevention Day observed every year, on 10 September. This is to draw societal attention to the important issue. A few days back, the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB), released data for 2021, and reported 1,64,033 suicides in India, with a rate of 12 per 1,00,000 population, an increase by about seven percent compared to 2020.

These figures miss out those unnatural deaths which are still under investigation, or inconclusive. The NCRB report finds that five states put together – namely Maharashtra, Tamil Nadu, Madhya Pradesh, West Bengal, and Karnataka – accounted cent of the suicides in India. On the other hand, the most populous Uttar Pradesh reported a lower percentage. Furthermore, analysis by the NCRB mentions causes such as family problems/ personal issues, illness, love affairs, abuse, violence, isolation, and alcohol/drug use.

The age group 18- 45 is the most vulnerable as around 66 per cent of suicides are reported in this age range. Let us try and understand the impact of suicides on those kith and kin who are left behind. Any kind of death affects families resulting in a process called grief. It takes at least a year before it starts to subside. But in case of death by suicide, the grief process becomes more complex, as it is traumatic and violent. Talking about suicide, especially the mode of death, can cause lot of distress in anyone, including the person reporting it. The immediate family members and close friends may develop guilt, start to question themselves with many ‘what ifs’ and whether they could have saved the person. Close ones may also have to face police investigation and media scrutiny. There is a need to support suicide survivors; especially some family members such as mother, father, sister and even spouse may get affected deeply and can show signs of mental breakdown. Trauma can haunt some mothers or spouses for many years.

The healthcare system and community need to support them as mass/family suicides are slowly on the rise. The theme ‘Creating hope through action’ is a reminder that there is an alternative to ending life by suicide and the objective is to inspire and instil confidence.

Through their actions, no matter how big or small, everyone can create hope for those who are struggling. Some people thinking of suicide have said they wish someone had at least asked them once. Warning bells should ring if you see a recent change in behaviour – a gloomy appearance, mood swings, frequent expression of death or dying, talking about going far away, expressing hopelessness, unusual fear, not making eye contact, not being open, appearing depressed, not engaging, unable to resolve a problem and experiencing chronic stress.

Along with trying to engage the person, leaving work aside, it is recommended that one should ask directly if she or he is having suicidal thoughts or plans, or if the person is thinking about dying. Many people have the notion that by enquiring directly about suicide, they could increase the risk by instilling the idea into the person’s mind. But it is the other way around. Asking directly about suicide gives a good chance to save them. The person may actually feel better after this so-called emotional ventilation.

If still in crisis, it is best to take them to the nearest Emergency room or if during the day to a psychiatrist. Suicidal thoughts are complex and vary across individuals. Sometimes it can be impulsive. However, many actions are planned, with elaborate preparations made before the final act including the date and mode of death. Some may even say their goodbyes indirectly.

These should be seen as hints. Many would have visited their doctors, friends or even been hospitalised before the act. For every suicide reported, there are at least 25 suicide attempts. Attempts increase risk of suicide. Many suicide attempts may go unrecorded, and some may not get assessed, though many hospitals insist on the person seeing a psychiatrist.

The individual may not have disclosed previous attempts, leaving many around unaware. Individuals are different, so the same approach may not work for all. Persons with suicidal thoughts may feel trapped, and that they have no other option.

There is a quote by Magic Johnson, ‘all the kids need is just a little help, a little hope and somebody (who) believes in them’. Many may not need advice, but just need some time where they can be heard without being judged. Such small talk can create a sense of connectedness and thus some hope. It can actually save lives. While many can cope with the adversities in life, a few are vulnerable.

There are many factors like family problems, personality style, environmental factors, traumatic childhood events, and mental health conditions that contribute to the vulnerability. At the same time, protective factors like support from family and friends, problem-solving skills, decision-making skills, rational and critical thinking and resilience would help the person to overcome suicidal thoughts. Suicide is a complex interaction between these triggering factors, vulnerabilities and protective factors. Focus should be on enhancing the protective factors and minimising the vulnerability factors. Stigma or a belief that they can get discriminated against, and being labelled as a weak-minded person may act as a barrier to seeking help.

Listening to those sharing their experience of having overcome the problems, and how they changed their approach is one way to educate the public. These narratives can help others understand what it means to feel suicidal and how they can help themselves as well as others. One of the most successful Olympic swimmers ever has spoken about having had suicidal thoughts. In a media interview, famous English cricketer Jonny Bairstow has spoken out about his late father, again a well-known cricketer, who died by suicide, and how he was affected by his mum’s cancer. He has talked about the challenges he faced, while trying to focus on playing in India and the Ashes series.

Impact of his dad’s death by suicide and building his career in the cricket community, where many knew his dad, and eventually managing to carry on his dad’s legacy, have lessons to offer to the many families going through the loss of loved ones through suicide. A few Indian cricketers also have expressed in the media that they had these thoughts intruding their minds. It was painful to learn of the death of a successful entrepreneur, whose business slogan itself was ‘a lot can happen over coffee’ and made one wonder if he had followed the slogan. The message here is that there are many options to be tried before concluding that no help is available.

Depression can make someone feel lonely, hopeless, and so make it hard to trust anyone. But this illness is treatable. Anyone feeling blue, doomed, hopeless or worthless, should take a step back and examine ambitions and goals, and look at changing career paths if required. Make changes to the lifestyle. Nurture old hobbies or cultivate new ones that give pleasure. Try learning new skills. Spend time with friends and family. If work is causing stress, discuss this with colleagues, and ask for a break. Get involved in social and community activities, including volunteering.

Try spending time with nature, visit places and spend time in a calm environment. Spirituality and meditation, including practising mindfulness techniques, are to be tried. Take out time to exercise and meet friends in the park or at the jogging track. One must try and attend family functions, marriages and events to meet friends, even when not feeling like it. Mass media, playwrights and authors must depict suicide with responsibility.

There was a novel called ‘Sorrows of Young Werther’ written in the 18th century that led to many copycat suicides, as it was shown that Werther did not have a way out other than suicide. On the other hand, in an opera called “The Magic Flute”, a suicidal character named Papageno is reminded by some boys of alternative ways to resolve the problem. Such is the influence of the media on people who are in crisis.

If a person searches for ‘ways to commit suicide’ on search engines, the first few hits will now show ‘crisis helpline’ or ‘help is available’. Responsible reporting by the media is important and the World Health Organisation have issued guidelines on dos and don’ts. Ultimately the decision to choose life or death rests with the individual.

The message to anyone who might be thinking of ending life is to hold on and give your friends and family a fair chance. The person must meet and discuss problems with a nearby psychiatrist. They may try to remove your pain or support you and so it is important to work with them. Suicide is not at a solution to any problem.

(The Statesman/ANN)

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More state support needed for marginalised communities

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1 day ago

2026/02/13

Thilina Walpola

A landslide in the Central Province

Message from Malaiyaha Tamil community to govt:

Insights from SSA Cyclone Ditwah Survey

When climate disasters strike, they don’t affect everyone equally. Marginalised communities typically face worse outcomes, and Cyclone Ditwah is no exception. Especially in a context where normalcy is far from “normal”, the idea of returning to normalcy or restoring a life of normalcy makes very little sense.

The island-wide survey (https://ssalanka.org/reports/) conducted by the Social Scientists’ Association (SSA), between early to mid-January on Cyclone Ditwah shows stark regional disparities in how satisfied or dissatisfied people were with the government’s response. While national satisfaction levels were relatively high in most provinces, the Central Province tells a different story.

Only 35.2% of Central Province residents reported that they were satisfied with early warning and evacuation measures, compared to 52.2% nationally. The gap continues across every measure: just 52.9% were satisfied with immediate rescue and emergency response, compared with the national figure of 74.6%. Satisfaction with relief distribution in the Central Province is 51.9% while the national figure stands at 73.1%. The figures for restoration of water, electricity, and roads are at a low 45.9% in the central province compared to the 70.9% in national figures. Similarly, the satisfaction level for recovery and rebuilding support is 48.7% in the Central Province, while the national figure is 67.0%.

A deeper analysis of the SSA data on public perceptions reveals something important: these lower satisfaction rates came primarily from the Malaiyaha Tamil population. Their experience differed not just from other provinces, but also from other ethnic groups living in the Central Province itself.

The Malaiyaha Tamil community’s vulnerability didn’t start with the cyclone. Their vulnerability is a historically and structurally pre-determined process of exclusion and marginalisation. Brought to Sri Lanka during British rule to work for the empire’s plantation economies, they have faced long-term economic exploitation and have repeatedly been denied access to state support and social welfare systems. Most estate residents still live in ‘line rooms’ and have no rights to the land they cultivate and live on. The community continues to be governed by an outdated estate management system that acts as a barrier to accessing public and municipal services such as road repair, water, electricity and other basic infrastructures available to other citizens.

As far as access to improved water sources is concerned, the Sri Lanka Demographic Health Survey (2016) shows that 57% of estate sector households don’t have access to improved water sources, while more than 90% of households in urban and rural areas do. With regard to the level of poverty, as the Department of Census and Statistics (2019) data reveals, the estate sector where most Malaiyaha Tamils live had a poverty headcount index of 33.8%; more than double the national rate of 14.3%. These statistics highlight key indicators of the systemic discrimination faced by the Malaiyaha Tamil community.

Some crucial observations from the SSA data collectors who enumerated responses from estate residents in the survey reveal the specific challenges faced by the Malaiyaha Tamils, particularly in their efforts to seek state support for compensation and reconstruction.

First, the Central Province experienced not just flooding but also the highest number of landslides in the island. As a result, some residents in the region lost entire homes, access roadways, and other basic infrastructures. The loss of lives, livelihoods and land was at a higher intensity compared to the provinces not located in the hills. Most importantly, the Malaiyaha Tamil community’s pre-existing grievances made them even more vulnerable and the government’s job of reparation and restitution more complex.

Early warnings hadn’t reached many areas. Some data collectors said they themselves never heard any warnings in estate areas, while others mentioned that early warnings were issued but didn’t reach some segments of the community. According to the resident data collectors, the police announcements reached only as far as the sections where they were able to drive their vehicles to, and there were many estate roads that were not motorable. When warnings did filter through to remote locations, they often came by word of mouth and information was distorted along the way. Once the disaster hit, things got worse: roads were blocked, electricity went out, mobile networks failed and people were cut off completely.

Emergency response was slow. Blocked roads meant people could not get to hospitals when they needed urgent care, including pregnant mothers. The difficult terrain and poor road conditions meant rescue teams took much longer to reach affected areas than in other regions.

Relief supplies didn’t reach everyone. The Grama Niladhari divisions in these areas are huge and hard to navigate, making it difficult for Grama Niladharis to reach all places as urgently as needed. Relief workers distributed supplies where vehicles could go, which meant accessible areas got help while remote communities were left out.

Some people didn’t even try to go to safety centres or evacuation shelters set up in local schools because the facilities there were already so poor. The perceptions of people who did go to safety centres, as shown in the provincial data, reveal that satisfaction was low compared to other affected regions of the country. Less than half were satisfied with space and facilities (42.1%) or security and protection (45.0%). Satisfaction was even lower for assistance with lost or damaged documentation (17.9%) and information and support for compensation applications (28.2%). Only 22.5% were satisfied with medical care and health services below most other affected regions.

Restoring services proved nearly impossible in some areas. Road access was the biggest problem. The condition of the roads was already poor even before the cyclone, and some still haven’t been cleared. Recovery is especially difficult because there’s no decent baseline infrastructure to restore, hence you can’t bring roads and other public facilities back to a “good” condition when they were never good, even before the disaster.

Water systems faced their own complications. Many households get water from natural sources or small community projects, and not the centralised state system. These sources are often in the middle of the disaster zone and therefore got contaminated during the floods and landslides.

Long-term recovery remains stalled. Without basic infrastructure, areas that are still hard to reach keep struggling to get the support they need for rebuilding.

Taken together, what do these testaments mean? Disaster response can’t be the same for everyone. The Malaiyaha Tamil community has been double marginalised because they were already living with structural inequalities such as poor infrastructure, geographic isolation, and inadequate services which have been exacerbated by Cyclone Ditwah. An effective and fair disaster response needs to account for these underlying vulnerabilities. It requires interventions tailored to the historical, economic, and infrastructural realities that marginalized communities face every day. On top of that, it highlights the importance of dealing with climate disasters, given the fact that vulnerable communities could face more devastating impacts compared to others.

(Shashik Silva is a researcher with the Social Scientists’ Association of Sri Lanka)

by Shashik Silva ✍️

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Crucial test for religious and ethnic harmony in Bangladesh

Published

2 days ago

2026/02/12

Sahan Weerasooriya

A political protest that led to governmental change in Bangladesh mid last year. (photograph: imago)

Will the Bangladesh parliamentary election bring into being a government that will ensure ethnic and religious harmony in the country? This is the poser on the lips of peace-loving sections in Bangladesh and a principal concern of those outside who mean the country well.

The apprehensions are mainly on the part of religious and ethnic minorities. The parliamentary poll of February 12th is expected to bring into existence a government headed by the Bangladesh Nationalist Party (BNP) and the Islamist oriented Jamaat-e-Islami party and this is where the rub is. If these parties win, will it be a case of Bangladesh sliding in the direction of a theocracy or a state where majoritarian chauvinism thrives?

Chief of the Jamaat, Shafiqur Rahman, who was interviewed by sections of the international media recently said that there is no need for minority groups in Bangladesh to have the above fears. He assured, essentially, that the state that will come into being will be equable and inclusive. May it be so, is likely to be the wish of those who cherish a tension-free Bangladesh.

The party that could have posed a challenge to the above parties, the Awami League Party of former Prime Minister Hasina Wased, is out of the running on account of a suspension that was imposed on it by the authorities and the mentioned majoritarian-oriented parties are expected to have it easy at the polls.

A positive that has emerged against the backdrop of the poll is that most ordinary people in Bangladesh, be they Muslim or Hindu, are for communal and religious harmony and it is hoped that this sentiment will strongly prevail, going ahead. Interestingly, most of them were of the view, when interviewed, that it was the politicians who sowed the seeds of discord in the country and this viewpoint is widely shared by publics all over the region in respect of the politicians of their countries.

Some sections of the Jamaat party were of the view that matters with regard to the orientation of governance are best left to the incoming parliament to decide on but such opinions will be cold comfort for minority groups. If the parliamentary majority comes to consist of hard line Islamists, for instance, there is nothing to prevent the country from going in for theocratic governance. Consequently, minority group fears over their safety and protection cannot be prevented from spreading.

Therefore, we come back to the question of just and fair governance and whether Bangladesh’s future rulers could ensure these essential conditions of democratic rule. The latter, it is hoped, will be sufficiently perceptive to ascertain that a Bangladesh rife with religious and ethnic tensions, and therefore unstable, would not be in the interests of Bangladesh and those of the region’s countries.

Unfortunately, politicians region-wide fall for the lure of ethnic, religious and linguistic chauvinism. This happens even in the case of politicians who claim to be democratic in orientation. This fate even befell Bangladesh’s Awami League Party, which claims to be democratic and socialist in general outlook.

We have it on the authority of Taslima Nasrin in her ground-breaking novel, ‘Lajja’, that the Awami Party was not of any substantial help to Bangladesh’s Hindus, for example, when violence was unleashed on them by sections of the majority community. In fact some elements in the Awami Party were found to be siding with the Hindus’ murderous persecutors. Such are the temptations of hard line majoritarianism.

In Sri Lanka’s past numerous have been the occasions when even self-professed Leftists and their parties have conveniently fallen in line with Southern nationalist groups with self-interest in mind. The present NPP government in Sri Lanka has been waxing lyrical about fostering national reconciliation and harmony but it is yet to prove its worthiness on this score in practice. The NPP government remains untested material.

As a first step towards national reconciliation it is hoped that Sri Lanka’s present rulers would learn the Tamil language and address the people of the North and East of the country in Tamil and not Sinhala, which most Tamil-speaking people do not understand. We earnestly await official language reforms which afford to Tamil the dignity it deserves.

An acid test awaits Bangladesh as well on the nation-building front. Not only must all forms of chauvinism be shunned by the incoming rulers but a secular, truly democratic Bangladesh awaits being licked into shape. All identity barriers among people need to be abolished and it is this process that is referred to as nation-building.

On the foreign policy frontier, a task of foremost importance for Bangladesh is the need to build bridges of amity with India. If pragmatism is to rule the roost in foreign policy formulation, Bangladesh would place priority to the overcoming of this challenge. The repatriation to Bangladesh of ex-Prime Minister Hasina could emerge as a steep hurdle to bilateral accord but sagacious diplomacy must be used by Bangladesh to get over the problem.

A reply to N.A. de S. Amaratunga

A response has been penned by N.A. de S. Amaratunga (please see p5 of ‘The Island’ of February 6th) to a previous column by me on ‘ India shaping-up as a Swing State’, published in this newspaper on January 29th , but I remain firmly convinced that India remains a foremost democracy and a Swing State in the making.

If the countries of South Asia are to effectively manage ‘murderous terrorism’, particularly of the separatist kind, then they would do well to adopt to the best of their ability a system of government that provides for power decentralization from the centre to the provinces or periphery, as the case may be. This system has stood India in good stead and ought to prove effective in all other states that have fears of disintegration.

Moreover, power decentralization ensures that all communities within a country enjoy some self-governing rights within an overall unitary governance framework. Such power-sharing is a hallmark of democratic governance.

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Celebrating Valentine’s Day …

Published

2 days ago

2026/02/12

Sahan Weerasooriya

Valentine’s Day is all about celebrating love, romance, and affection, and this is how some of our well-known personalities plan to celebrate Valentine’s Day – 14th February:

Merlina Fernando (Singer)

Yes, it’s a special day for lovers all over the world and it’s even more special to me because 14th February is the birthday of my husband Suresh, who’s the lead guitarist of my band Mission.

We have planned to celebrate Valentine’s Day and his Birthday together and it will be a wonderful night as always.

We will be having our fans and close friends, on that night, with their loved ones at Highso – City Max hotel Dubai, from 9.00 pm onwards.

Lorensz Francke (Elvis Tribute Artiste)

On Valentine’s Day I will be performing a live concert at a Wealthy Senior Home for Men and Women, and their families will be attending, as well.

I will be performing live with romantic, iconic love songs and my song list would include ‘Can’t Help falling in Love’, ‘Love Me Tender’, ‘Burning Love’, ‘Are You Lonesome Tonight’, ‘The Wonder of You’ and ‘’It’s Now or Never’ to name a few.

To make Valentine’s Day extra special I will give the Home folks red satin scarfs.

Emma Shanaya (Singer)

I plan on spending the day of love with my girls, especially my best friend. I don’t have a romantic Valentine this year but I am thrilled to spend it with the girl that loves me through and through. I’ll be in Colombo and look forward to go to a cute cafe and spend some quality time with my childhood best friend Zulha.

JAYASRI

Emma-and-Maneeka

This Valentine’s Day the band JAYASRI we will be really busy; in the morning we will be landing in Sri Lanka, after our Oman Tour; then in the afternoon we are invited as Chief Guests at our Maris Stella College Sports Meet, Negombo, and late night we will be with LineOne band live in Karandeniya Open Air Down South. Everywhere we will be sharing LOVE with the mass crowds.

Kay Jay (Singer)

I will stay at home and cook a lovely meal for lunch, watch some movies, together with Sanjaya, and, maybe we go out for dinner and have a lovely time. Come to think of it, every day is Valentine’s Day for me with Sanjaya Alles.

Maneka Liyanage (Beauty Tips)

On this special day, I celebrate love by spending meaningful time with the people I cherish. I prepare food with love and share meals together, because food made with love brings hearts closer. I enjoy my leisure time with them — talking, laughing, sharing stories, understanding each other, and creating beautiful memories. My wish for this Valentine’s Day is a world without fighting — a world where we love one another like our own beloved, where we do not hurt others, even through a single word or action. Let us choose kindness, patience, and understanding in everything we do.

Janaka Palapathwala (Singer)

Janaka

Valentine’s Day should not be the only day we speak about love.

From the moment we are born into this world, we seek love, first through the very drop of our mother’s milk, then through the boundless care of our Mother and Father, and the embrace of family.

Love is everywhere. All living beings, even plants, respond in affection when they are loved.

As we grow, we learn to love, and to be loved. One day, that love inspires us to build a new family of our own.

Love has no beginning and no end. It flows through every stage of life, timeless, endless, and eternal.

Natasha Rathnayake (Singer)

We don’t have any special plans for Valentine’s Day. When you’ve been in love with the same person for over 25 years, you realise that love isn’t a performance reserved for one calendar date. My husband and I have never been big on public displays, or grand gestures, on 14th February. Our love is expressed quietly and consistently, in ordinary, uncelebrated moments.

With time, you learn that love isn’t about proving anything to the world or buying into a commercialised idea of romance—flowers that wilt, sweets that spike blood sugar, and gifts that impress briefly but add little real value. In today’s society, marketing often pushes the idea that love is proven by how much money you spend, and that buying things is treated as a sign of commitment.

Real love doesn’t need reminders or price tags. It lives in showing up every day, choosing each other on unromantic days, and nurturing the relationship intentionally and without an audience.

This isn’t a judgment on those who enjoy celebrating Valentine’s Day. It’s simply a personal choice.

Melloney Dassanayake (Miss Universe Sri Lanka 2024)

I truly believe it’s beautiful to have a day specially dedicated to love. But, for me, Valentine’s Day goes far beyond romantic love alone. It celebrates every form of love we hold close to our hearts: the love for family, friends, and that one special person who makes life brighter. While 14th February gives us a moment to pause and celebrate, I always remind myself that love should never be limited to just one day. Every single day should feel like Valentine’s Day – constant reminder to the people we love that they are never alone, that they are valued, and that they matter.

I’m incredibly blessed because, for me, every day feels like Valentine’s Day. My special person makes sure of that through the smallest gestures, the quiet moments, and the simple reminders that love lives in the details. He shows me that it’s the little things that count, and that love doesn’t need grand stages to feel extraordinary. This Valentine’s Day, perfection would be something intimate and meaningful: a cozy picnic in our home garden, surrounded by nature, laughter, and warmth, followed by an abstract drawing session where we let our creativity flow freely. To me, that’s what love is – simple, soulful, expressive, and deeply personal. When love is real, every ordinary moment becomes magical.

Noshin De Silva (Actress)

Valentine’s Day is one of my favourite holidays! I love the décor, the hearts everywhere, the pinks and reds, heart-shaped chocolates, and roses all around. But honestly, I believe every day can be Valentine’s Day.

It doesn’t have to be just about romantic love. It’s a chance to celebrate love in all its forms with friends, family, or even by taking a little time for yourself.

Whether you’re spending the day with someone special or enjoying your own company, it’s a reminder to appreciate meaningful connections, show kindness, and lead with love every day.

And yes, I’m fully on theme this year with heart nail art and heart mehendi design!

Wishing everyone a very happy Valentine’s Day, but, remember, love yourself first, and don’t forget to treat yourself.

Sending my love to all of you.