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Fidelia de Silva born April 10, 1921

Fidelia de Silva nee De Alwis was the eldest in our family of 11 born to Felix. David. Lionel De Alwis and Hilda De Alwis on April 10, 1921.

She was the formidable spirit in our family. She schooled at Methodist College Colombo and passed the senior matriculation with hopes of qualifying as an academic. However, in the social climate of that time our father had other plans for her and she went along wit them without question, knowing he wanted what was best for her.

I recall with nostalgia the period she was engaged to the late Captain Joseph Jayawardana. His visits were frequent with her playing the piano and singing along with him. The sound of music and laughter would fill every corner of our house at Walukarama Road, Kollupitiya. My memories of them both with smiles on their faces singing with gusto the popular songs of the time remain. Their emotional renditions of “Please don’t take my sunshine away” and “Brown eyes” was true love in flight to me.

When she married Joseph I was the page boy, Marie Wickramanayake and Doreen Edrisinghe were the flower girls whilst Manel jayasundara and Marie de Alwis were her bride’s maids. Their life together had just begun. However what should have been a full and happy life was not to be with her husband falling ill within with a lung infection within three months of their marriage. He unfortunately died of a medical misadventure while undergoing surgery.

She was then with child and a beautiful daughter was born on December 20, 1944 coinciding with my younger sisters Sriani’s first birthday. Her daughter, Hemakanthi, was highly intelligent. Fidelia went to live with our brother, Denzil, who was a planter at Pelmadulla but he too passed away after a brief illness having contacted typhoid.

She then moved back to our ancestral home in our village, Kalahe at Rockhill Estate with Hemakanthi who started schooling at Southlands College where Miss. Ridge, an Englishwoman was principal and excelled in her studies. She was briefly boarded as her mother felt she could concentrate on her studies better in that environment rather than traveling to school from our village in a buggy cart. Hemakanthi was always first in her class and was an avid reader who read whatever she could lay her hands on includng Shakespeare. But at 12-years she was flown to India diagnosed with cancer in the spinal cord affecting her eyesight and speech. She lingered for over an year at our home in Kalahe and passed away.

Fidelia, devastated by these blows and buried herself in voluntary work with the YWCA in Colombo to overcome her grief, surviving on her widow’s pension. It was then that she met her future mother-in law who approached her with a proposal to meet her son, Douglas, living a carefree life with no encumbrances. Given her past she was first reluctant but the stars were aligned, and they eventually married with Fidelia becoming Mrs Douglas de Silva. They were a happy couple, subsequently blessed with two sons , Dilhan and Harin.

 

DEDICATION AND COMMITMENT TO THE NATIONAL YWCA

With lessons of the past including the many blessings God had bestowed on her, she dedicated her life to serve the Lord and served the National YWCA at Rotunda Gardens with great enthusiasm and courage. That was the beginning of a lifelong journey of helping the poor and needy. Her efforts to develop the YWCA, working with donor nations like the Netherlands during her tenure, created opportunities for hostelers and guests and the opening of a restaurant open to the public. She also worked hard to build additional revenue streams for the YWCA enabling expansion of its buildings to accommodate and facilitate the needs of functions and seminars.

Her work at the National YWCA honed her leadership abilities and more avenues opened with her organizational, business and executive skills coming to the fore. She retained the virtues of a lady and was a guardian of the organization she worked for.

 

BUILDING A FUTURE FOR

DESTITUTE YOUTH

Soon after the Tsunami in 2004 she realized that there, were several orphans needing accommodation, schooling and caring. Along with Ms Roheen Jayawardane who had worked with her in the National YWCA, she created an organization to raise funds to serve destitute youth needing immediate relief. Initially they had rented some premises and decided to venture on an organized project with big plans not realizing the challenges with not much finances in hand. But she had great support from her family.

It was their plan that two orphanages, one for girls and the other for boys, be built on land available in Piliyandala. Accordingly two orphanages were bult. She had faith in God and prospective donors here and abroad. All she reached out to helped and the task was accomplished. She was woman of strong will and none among her family and friends here and abroad, including her husband, Douglas, wanted to disappoint her.

The children from the orphanages were present at her funeral, singing her praises in voice and song. She was a legend in a world in turmoil and helplessness and did all she could to alleviate suffering by bringing Christ’s love to others as she did for many destitute children.

 

FINAL DAYS BEFORE HER

DEPARTURE

During my frequent visits to her she expressed her sadness at the death of those in the family younger to her – Chandra, Viola, and Elmo. Her passion to help the poor and the needy continued despite her inability to walk on her own.

After the death of her husband, she continued to live at Bagatalle Road in a home provided by her late husband, Douggie, with the best of facilities, under the supervision of her sons Dilhan and Harindra. Fidelia had her sad moments too. While she lived comfortably at Bagatalle Road, she lost her wedding ring and another ring which she wore. When the loss was discovered by my cousin’s wife Gracie ( her carer ) one morning, she remembered she had struggled in bed the previous night when she was with the domestics and the nurse. She was sad but told me that she had nothing more to lose and to forget about it.

Such were her forgiving ways and believing discretion was the better part of valour, Dilhan and I decided not to pursue the matter with the police. This incident together with the deterioration of her medical condition resulted in her sons deciding that she would be best off in an apartment at Nawaloka Hospital equipped to accommodate elderly people like her. Though reluctant at first she appeared to like the place as there were several of her acquaintances with whom she could interact there. She was quite content inviting her friends and relations to this apartment ensuring she had company . She was constantly visited by her cousins, friends from the National YWCA and others who cared for her.

Our nephew Rathika De Silva and I made sure we visited her regularly to ensure she did not feel neglected. So did her son Dilhan. She was fortunate in having regular communion given to her by Methodist priests and prayers offered to her by Rev. Dilip Fernando and Rev Jabenazer coordinated by her carer Gracie.

Whenever my wife Damayanthi and I visited her, she offered a prayer of thanksgiving for the whole family. During my constant visits she discussed the family tree and recalled our days at “Rockhill,” Kalahe, our ancestral home. She always said whatever happens we must learn to give thanks for what we are today moving from the hard times sans, electricity, water service, telephone and radio. Hence let us cultivate a spirit of thanksgiving in our lives and thank God for every blessing he has given even when things go wrong.

I was fortunate to have her visit my home for a family lunch on Dec. 26, 2018. She enjoyed the lunch and offered a very fervent prayer. A few days later on Dec. 31 I visited her around 10.00 am, and offered a prayer but found her response poor. I left reluctantly having informed her carer, Gracie, that her condition appeared low. It was on Jan. 3 when I was away in Australia visiting my granddaughter that I learnt of her demise. She learned to live each day as if it was her last, expecting that day to come soon.

It was Sir Walter Scott who asked “Is death the last sleep?” and answered, “no it is the final awakening.” That is true for every believer of Christ. Even when grief overwhelms us or when confusion assails us, we can still trust God’s all knowing love! .

Nihal De Alwis

(140/5 GEMUNU MAWATHA, NAWALA ROAD, NUGEGODA



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The US, Israel, Palestine, and Mahmoud Khalil

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Protestors rally in support of Mahmoud Khalil outside of the Thurgood Marshall Courthouse, during a hearing regarding Khalil's arrest, in New York City, Mar. 12, 2025.

By Uditha Devapriya

If last year proved anything, it was that given a choice between international law and domestic pressures, the US political establishment will give way to the latter. Hence the Democrats, led by Kamala Harris, articulated the need for a two-state solution for Palestine and Israel – Harris spoke vaguely of the Palestinians’ right to their own future and land – yet belied it all by promoting Israel’s right to self-defence.

One can argue that Joe Biden, easily the most pro-Israel of recent Democratic US presidents, set the stage for this situation. But it was taken to its logical conclusion by Harris and her campaign. Barring a few exceptions like Ilhan Omar and Rashida Tlaib, who were badmouthed by Democrats and demonised by Republicans, there was very little condemnation of Israel’s violations of international law in Gaza and the West Bank – violations which continue today and have accelerated because of the sense of impunity that Jerusalem was bound to receive under a hardcore, right-wing Republican administration.

The situation has worsened since then. But in trying to make sense of what has happened, I think we are trying to fit a square peg in a round hole.

The Trump administration operates on a logic of its own, and any attempt to make sense of it or rationalise it, to justify it or counter it, would be rather fruitless. For instance, it came to power on a platform of “absolute” free speech. Those who contend that this contradicts the government’s crackdown on pro-Palestinian students and intellectuals should realise that Trump and his supporters have reserved for themselves the power to define and set limits on such abstractions.

When Vice-President Vance, in his remarks in Munich last month, implied to his European audience that the region should be more tolerant of free speech, we need to understand that Vance’s, Trump’s, and the modern-day Republican Party’s framing of free speech differs from the ideals of the Enlightenment. This free speech is unquestionably right-wing and politically incorrect. Thus Trump, speaking to reporters during a meeting with the Irish Prime Minister, stated that Chuck Schumer, one of the most pro-Israel Senators and the highest-ranking elected US Jewish official, had “become a Palestinian.”

On the face of it, this was a slur, and Democrats and Jewish advocacy groups – including the Anti-Defamation League – were quick to point it out. Yet to try holding Trump to account over such remarks would be to hold him up to standards neither he nor his administration feel are applicable to them. When the White House, namely the President’s press secretary, speaks of USD 50 million of US foreign aid being diverted to “fund condoms in Gaza”, one is either outraged or intrigued enough to know more, particularly when someone like Elon Musk amplifies it on his platform. Yet when, weeks later, at a White House briefing attended by Elon Musk and his son, Musk backs away and admits that “some of the things that I say will be incorrect”, they are both investing themselves with a sense of invincibility and passing the onus of proving them wrong to the journalists and media that they themselves accuse of being biased against them.

In other words, the Trump administration is having the cake and eating it too – rather apt, considering how it prides itself on its disruptiveness, its sense of chaos. As far as Israel and Palestine is concerned, of course, there is no ambiguity: this is without a doubt the most pro-Israel administration in recent US history, and there is hardly any US official who would beg to differ with Israel’s actions.

While right-wing commentators like Tucker Carlson and Candace Owens have spoken sympathetically about Palestinians – with Carlson decrying Israel’s activities and Owens questioning why US policy is kowtowing to Israel and Zionism – they are the golden exception to the dismal rule. Even Ann Coulter, the grande dame of US conservative politics, who infamously told Vivek Ramasamy to his face that she would not vote for him because he was Indian, questioned whether arresting student activists without proof of crime would infringe on First Amendment rights.

That sentiment has been echoed elsewhere. The arrest in question, of Mahmoud Khalil, has provoked much disgust and revulsion. Set against the backdrop of its gutting of foreign aid, scholarship, and exchange programmes, the Trump administration is now framing citizenship in the US as a privilege, not right. One can counter this by stating that immigration to the US, and gaining citizenship there, was never easy. But beyond any other administration in recent memory, Trump and his fellow-travellers have succeeded in both accusing previous governments of relaxing immigration rules and letting criminal elements in and weaponizing immigration law to achieve its domestic and foreign policy agenda.

To their credit, the Democrats while in power never went beyond arresting protestors – though that in itself raised eyebrows and had implications for civil liberties and freedoms. Perhaps because they saw themselves as the “party of rights”, they were careful, even within the restricted space they were operating in, not to invoke every other law and interpretation of it in the way the Trump administration is doing now.

It is becoming clear that Donald Trump is aligning his foreign policy with his domestic agenda – and that Israel, which has since at least the 1970s become a crucial part of that agenda, has taken centre-stage in a way Ukraine and Russia have not. For better or worse, this will define the course of US domestic politics and foreign relations for the next five years, and it will meet with the resistance of US courts and judges, every time the administration invokes laws and legal provisions to achieve its America First agenda.

Uditha Devapriya is a regular commentator on history, art and culture, politics, and foreign policy who can be reached at udakdev1@gmail.com. Together with Uthpala Wijesuriya, he heads U & U, an informal art and culture research collective.

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Yes, you have guessed right. One of the two countries is the United States of America where cutbacks or reduction in spending and increase in tariffs is the order of the day promulgated by President Donald Trump who appears to consider himself king; his porohithaya Elon Musk dictating terms to him. His aim is to make America great again (MAGA) but his maga or path is actually making the rich in the US richer and making life more difficult for the ordinary US citizen with housing and food increasing in prices.

I feel I must explain what cut backs and cutbacks mean. The two word phrase is used as a verb while the one word is a noun.

Among several cutbacks “President Trump has signaled that next set of agencies on the chopping block, as his administration looks to cut down the size of the federal government agencies that serve wide ranging roles in the government, from addressing homelessness to funding libraries. One of these is the Institute of Museums and Library Services (IMLS) that funds grants to libraries and museums across the country. The group EveryLibrary – a nonprofit that has advocated for public library funding and fought against book bans – decried the looming cuts to the agency, arguing that IMLS is statutorily required to send federal funds to state libraries based on an Act passed by Congress.”

The present president is so very different to previous presidents like Jimmy Carter who initiated the first White House Conference on Library and Information Services (WHCLIS)

which took place in Washington DC in November1979. It was such a boost to libraries and spread of information and improvement of education all round as noted by a delegate to the 1979 and 1991 conferences in the White House: “a strengthened and increasingly dynamic role for citizen-trustees in guiding library development; the emergence of citizen leadership across the nation, spearheading a new synergy within the library profession: the concept of partnership –building as a means to advance the library agenda; and the use of information as the power to promote increased productivity, economic growth and enhanced quality of life for all citizens.”

The National Commission on Libraries and Information Science (NCLS) was an agency in the US government between 1970 and 2008. The activities of the NCLS were consolidated into the Institute of Museum and Library Services (IMLS) as an independent agency of the US federal government established in 1996. It is the main source of federal support for libraries and museums within the US to advance, support and empower them. Now they are to be stymied by law. “It marks the next step of the administration eliminating government entities Trump deems ‘unnecessary’ and it follows weeks of the Department of Government Efficiency, helmed by Elon Musk, slashing entire agencies, cutting off funds and instituting mass layoffs of federal workers.”

A Sri Lankan woman with a doctorate in Library and Info Science, living in Singapore, co-heads a unit in the American Library Association (ALA). She comments the IMLS was doing great work in disbursing grants to libraries and librarians to explore uncharted territories such as the use of AI. Trump clipping its wings to decrease federal expenses is a disaster, she opines.

Another agency on the chopping list of Trump and Musk is the US Agency for Global Media, which supervises US government funded media outlets globally including the Voice of America (VOA). Trump being a big critic of this agency is well known.

On Wednesday 19th, I heard a video clip with Fareed Zakaria speaking on cuts on research in universities which he termed Trump’s “fury on academia” which is making drastic cuts on research funding and other funding to State universities in a bid to stop federal spending. Zakaria said that the US had 72% of the world’s best 25 universities. Also quoted was J D Vance who said: “We have to attack universities. University professors are our worst enemies.” (When the VEEP says such, an echo to Donald Musk, I wonder how his wife, an Indian intellectual reacts.)

Proved without doubt is what Sashi Tharoor said while on a visit to the US. He had met and spoken with the Presidents Bush; Clinton and Obama who showed personal mannerisms that distinguished American Presidents. They had statesmanlike gravitas “which I find totally lacking in this gentleman.” Referring to Trump with apologies for an Indian MP commenting thus. Personal not politics, he added.

All this is the bad news of this article. Considering Sri Lanka, we are so fortunate to have sensible persons as head of government and most ministers. You can bet your last thousand rupee note on our government not stinting on essentials like educational institutions and education; bankrupt though we be.

Vetoing excessive use of IT Now for the good news, at least to traditionalists and those averse to, or afraid of too rapid advancement of Information and Communication Technology (ICT). We of the Baby Boomer Generation 1946 – 64, even Silent Gen 1928-45, Generation X 1965 -80 are somewhat aghast at how readily, almost frantically, all ICT is grasped and incorporated in business, commerce, even education.

In Sweden they are cutting back drastically on use of electronic devises in schools: “Teachers all across the country are placing new emphasis on printed books, quiet reading time, handwriting practice and devoting less time to tablets, independent online research and keyboarding skills. The return to more traditional ways of learning is a response to politicians and experts questioning whether Sweden’s hyper-digitalized approach to education, including the introduction of tablets in nursery schools, had led to a decline in basic skills. Sweden’s minister for schools, Lotta Edholm, who took office 11 months ago as part of a centre-right coalition government, was one of the biggest critics of the all-out embrace of technology. “Sweden’s students need more textbooks. Physical books are important for student learning.”

So very true, I echo. Not just theoretically but from experience.

We of the school generation of more than half century ago learned in the pirivena style of teaching and learning, where teaching was all important and learning left much to the child’s inclination. Competition was less then and parents left their kids to study at their own pace. By ‘pirivena style’ I mean the teacher teaches (or lectures) and students absorb the imparted knowledge or often fritter their school time away. But from that generation emerged experts in various fields, some of whom made their name overseas too: doctors, astronomers, economists et al.

Education is of course much better and will certainly bring better results if there is insistence on student learning undertaken by each student. Guidance is necessary hence the need for good teachers. The project method of teaching and learning (names of teaching systems would have changed with time) was an excellent way of getting knowledge across to the child. The teacher outlines a subject area, say countries of the world, and gives detailed outlines of what is needed to be found. Students, singly or in groups, work in the library with reference books and write out reports on the country he/she/they were assigned. Submitted reports are edited by the teacher, rewritten, read out by the leader of each group or individual student, and kept available in class. Thus students engage in self-learning and share their knowledge so the entire class knows about the assigned countries. Of course now it would be internet etc that is consulted by the students, but following Sweden’s example, insistence on consulting printed books too needs to be done; and writing.

I heard a British educationist who said she was of the opinion that going back to traditional methods of education in schools is a must since research has proved that IT learning fell short of what education should be. So two of the three traditional Rs should be brought back to importance and incorporated in school education. This is particularly advisable in poor countries like Sri Lanka. We know how some students – less financially able, living in remote areas – were drastically affected during Covid times when teaching was on-line.

I left teaching long ago. Sure the Education Department of Sri Lanka has incorporated new methods of teaching. Good to hear more on this subject.

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The General Elections were drawing near. There was concurrently a disturbing trend manifesting itself. A vociferous group were demanding that the elections be postponed for a further period, because the government was unable to complete its “progressive” social and economic programme, due to reasons beyond its control such as the insurgency of 1971. the oil price hike, the food crisis and so on. These arguments were patently absurd. The government had already extended its term of office by two years consequent to the introduction of the new constitution.

Now, a group of people were orchestrating a campaign for a further extension. At various public meetings where the Prime Minister attended, members of this group raised their voices and demanded a further extension of time. It appeared to take the form of a popular agitation exerting pressure on the government. No doubt, various persons holding similar views would have been speaking to the Prime Minister personally about the same issue. The whole thing seemed well orchestrated.

It was in this context that one day, she asked my opinion about the matter. I replied that I had always spoken absolutely frankly to her on any and all matters, and in the same spirit all I could say was that any attempt to extend the life of the government would be a total disaster, both for herself and the country. I went on to speak about her considerable achievements, as the world’s first woman Prime Minister; probably also as the first woman to be leader of the opposition in a parliamentary democracy, Head of the Non-Aligned Movement; honouredby the ILO, by their invitation to her, to deliver the keynote address at one of their inaugural sessions; honoured by the FAO by the award of the CERES medal in recognition of her personal and successful leadership of the food production drive consequent to the difficulties of 1974/75; honoured by the United Nations by their invitation to her to deliver the keynote address, at the first UN Conference on Women and Development and other achievements. \

Then I told her that if elections were not held at the proper time, the position in the country could get unmanageable, and she would face the charge of destroying democracy in Sri Lanka. I had to be hard, because it was evident that many people had created for her, some kind of fantasy world, and she was getting confused. As was customary, she listened to what I had to say with grace and thanked me for being candid. Then she said, “l have asked WT also, and he said the same thing.”

That was the Prime Minister. She was always prepared to listen to different views, after which, she made up her mind. The dose of reality administered by WT Jayasinghe and myself, two public servants who had nothing to do with politics, would no doubt have helped her to take the final decision of holding elections.

Dealing with political personalities

Before I get to the election itself, I wish to refer to one or two other matters. One of the more important of these relates to some of the political personalities I had to work with, other than the Prime Minister. These included the Minister of Trade, Mr. TB Illangaratne; Mr. Hector Kobbekaduwa, Minister of Agriculture and Dr. Colvin R. de Silva, Minister of Plantation Industries, among others. My dealings with Mr. Maithripala Senanayake, I will refer to separately.

The fact was, that at some time or other one had to deal with practically all members of the Cabinet, since all of them had some business to transact with the Prime Minister’s Office at various times. Some of the ministers I have mentioned had more to do with us, both because of their seniority and the sensitive and important nature of their portfolios. My policy was equal attention and equal treatment for everyone. The internal politics between them did not concern me; neither did the state of relations between the parties in the coalition.

These were political issues that had to be resolved at other fora. I saw my job as attending fairly and diligently to any request or advice sought. There was a creative element in this, because, knowing the prime minister’s mind on many matters I was at times able to steer ministers and others away from courses of action which could have negative consequences. Therefore, many ministers dropped in to discuss some sensitive matter or sometimes to seek advice how best to handle a given situation with the prime minister.

They knew that they could repose trust in the confidentiality of such conversations. At the same time, when I thought that the prime minister had to be briefed on some developing situation, I always said openly that I would have to do so. In some circumstances, the relevant minister and I. only discussed a suitable approach. I did not view my duty to the prime minister as one entailing the carrying of tales or the retailing of gossip and rumours.

However, whenever relevant, gossip and rumours were checked out, because beneath them could lie some real problems. Occasionally, when something was beyond our competence to check, and if it looked important enough the prime minister was briefed. This approach begot a great deal of trust and confidence, so much so that on one occasion, Dr. Colvin R. de Silva told me that he as well as others in the LSSP were extremely sorry that I would not be available for appointment, when a vacancy occurred in the post of Secretary, in the Ministry of Communications, a ministry then held by Mr. Leslie Goonewardena, a senior LSSP minister. In his booming voice, he paid me the compliment of saying that they were not only looking for a secretary but also “a man.”

Besides dealing with ministers and government personalities, the secretary to the prime minister had also to deal with many opposition personalities. They received the same treatment as anybody else. If a request was valid, one worked to grant it. If in a particular instance, politics were proving to be an irrelevant and extraneous factor, one proceeded to remove it. Sometimes, this necessitated talking to the prime minister, and if she too were inclined to see only the politics, one analyzed the issue and pointed out that politics had no relevance to the issue, and that in her position she had to do the right thing. All this meant extra work and effort, but I considered it as part of a duty that had to be performed.

In this context, I was able at times to resolve genuine problems faced by opposition MP’s and personalities such as Mr. R. Premadasa, Mr. Gamini Dissanayake, Mr. Lalith Athulathmudali and others. My belief was that the prime minister’s office of a country should act fairly and justly on all matters referred to it subject to overall government policy. When the occasion so demanded, my endeavour was to point out that irrelevant or extraneous considerations could not be the foundation of good policy. They could be petty revengeful acts, harassment or abuse of power, but never policy, and it was my firm belief that those at the helm of affairs of a country should always distinguish between these.

All these meant an addition to an already nearly crippling workload. There were even times when one continued to work when one had fever, in order to meet impending deadlines. Indeed, there were a few occasions during the seven years I held this post, that when I eventually reached home in the night my temperature had risen to over 104°F.

(Excerpted from In Pursuit of Governance,
autobiography of Dharmasiri Peiris,
Secretary to the Prime Minister)

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