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What IS Happiness?

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In my last Sunday’s article in this column, I wrote about the ‘Happiest Man’ – Tibetan monk Matheiu Ricard. In the early 2000s, researchers at the University of Wisconsin found that Ricard’s brain produced gamma waves — which have been linked to learning, attention and memory — at such pronounced levels that the media named him ‘The world’s happiest man’. He paired happiness with compassion and gave his ideas of what happiness is.

My mind continued on the subject and the concept of happiness, and so I decided to ask people for their definitions, what was the happiest moment for them and other questions. It was not curiosity but a genuine interest in this all important behavioral state of being, however short lived or long. Everyone wants to be happy, even animals and perhaps plants too who will be unhappy in most of Sri Lanka at this time of drought.

Definition

Last Sunday I declined to define the term, concept or emotion – happiness. I shy away from giving a definition but say happiness is equivalent to contentment. If you are satisfied with the moment and you feel contentment, then that is happiness.

The happiest moment of my long life was when my first child was born. In those days we had no training for childbirth, no breathing exercises et al. I had a difficult time and while heaving in pain around 6.00 in the evening when a change of all nursing staff takes place, I was left with two scared young trainee nurses in the nursing home very close to the Dalada Maligawa in Kandy.

An event at the Maligawa meant all roads were temporarily closed. I wondered whether Dr Mendis would arrive at all. He did and a competent nursing sister was at hand. Pain and worry disappeared with the first cry of the baby. I was overwhelmed with joy, satisfaction and gratitude to the doctor and all others, my family included, who had seen me through the day, now no longer an ordeal. I hardly slept that night, so happy was I seeing and hearing the little mite in a cot close by, starved for twelve hours, but making soft baby sounds.

Mrs B, the first elected prime minister of the world was at the Maligawa to pay homage to the Sacred Relic and so roads were closed and all that. I wondered whether Dr Mendis would arrive at all. I was wheel chaired to the delivery room, the two scared nurses pleading with me not to push, and then appeared the doctor – a god to me. A competent nursing sister too was present and my child was safely delivered.

Pain and worry disappeared with his first cry as I saw Dr Mendis hold him upside down. Doctor patted me and said he’d noted the time of birth. When the baby was bathed and dressed in a shirt I had lovingly stitched, and placed close by my side, I was overwhelmed with joy, satisfaction and gratitude to the doctor and all others, my family included, who had seen me through the day, now no longer an ordeal. I hardly slept that night, so happy was I seeing and hearing the little mite in a cot close by, starved for twelve hours, but making soft baby sounds.

This baby, now a grown man having children of his own, dares to give me a dig and defines happiness as the satisfaction one gets when others are made to write one’s Sunday Island column!!

Other aspects of happiness

What makes for happiness in one’s life? With age and experience I have decided one can never rely on others to create happiness for oneself. They may be contributory in either making you happy or unhappy, but it is you yourself who finally is the arbiter and maker of your happiness or unhappiness. This fact is so clearly stated in the Buddha Dhamma: “Be a refuge unto yourself” – rely on yourself for your own deliverance from Samsara but also for your happiness and well being.

Have I succeeded in making myself happy? No, not most of the time because my nature is such that I fear happenings, still carry regrets that no longer corrode me but are present, and frankly am rather quirky.

When am I happy? I was very happy being by myself, but no longer. I want people around. I am very happy and buoyant when with family and friends. I know people who are happiest when meditating, since they easily settle down to being completely within themselves and one pointed in meditation. I have experienced such too.

Giving, sharing, being good to people makes for happiness. I suppose this is why Monk Ricard always pairs happiness with compassion. If one is completely with metta (loving kindness to all); karuna (compassion, empathy); muditha (joy in others’ wellbeing); and upekka (equanimity), one is assured of happiness. If you have the last quality in your behavior or persona and inbuilt in your nature, you are through – you will always be happy since satisfaction and being unshaken by circumstances and inner uncertainties s assured.

What makes for happiness? I take here the personal aspect. Not riches, a luxurious life, status et al. Not one bit. To me happiness is derived mostly from the fact my children and their family members are good people in every sense of the word. Their happiness in life gives me lasting happiness.

Others’ ideas

I feel compelled and obliged to give verbatim the answers of a beautiful woman of 60.

Q : What is your idea/definition of the concept – happiness?

A: Trying to define Happiness is like trying to describe the shape of a cloud. Happiness is believed to have something to do with the mental filters that we look at life through. Psychologists point out to the workings of our brain, where our disposition to being happy is governed by which side of the brain we are predisposed to favour. The Buddha says, “Our life is a creation of our mind”. Consequently, for some, happiness could be found in the pursuit of fame, money or beauty, while for others it’s found in more spiritual pursuits of sharing and caring.

Q: What do you think goes to make happiness and to sustain it?

A:Happiness is a short lived state of being. A piece of music, a nature walk, time spent with a toddler, winning the lottery, finding something that went missing could all contribute to being happy. To sustain being happy would require a moving to a higher state such as joy and bliss. And this requires working on one’s mind.

Q: What was your happiest moment?

A : Selecting one moment is not easy to do. We all have a myriad “happiest” moments. Holding my newborn was a supremely happy moment. Looking back on my childhood, feels like it was one of the happiest times in my life. But, that is also because the mind edits out the not so savory bits of growing up, but aggregates the majority of it as being idyllic.

Q: What was the happiest period in your life?

A : I hope with wisdom of age and experiences of life, the happiest period is what lies ahead.

Q: What do you do or intend to do to be happy and live happily?

A: Live each day knowing I tried to be the best version of myself. Be kind and forgiving to myself, be understanding of others, be loving and compassionate to those who differ from me. In short, the Golden Rule or the Eightfold Path are ancient wisdoms that serve well to finding happiness.

A very steadfast man in his sixties defined happiness thus: “If equanimity is the desired baseline of living, I consider ‘happiness’ to be any emotion/feeling that rises above that baseline. Conversely ‘unhappiness’ is any feeling/emotion that is below the baseline of the desired equanimity. I consider ‘equanimity’ to be a neutral state of detachment, so in terms of life, I strive for contentment which is, in my view, more positive and joyful than pure equanimity, despite all the potential suffering that it may entail.”

About sustaining happiness, he very sensibly said that by its very nature it cannot be sustained because it is an elevation from the norm. “So, to try to sustain happiness is foolish. Contentment is more sustainable, but that too is ephemeral, but less fluctuation-prone.”

He replied the question on his happiest moment by saying “Unanswerable because happiness is so fleeting it really doesn’t register in perpetuity; because if it did, the rest of your life by definition should be less happy, and that is not something I want to focus on.” The happiest period of his life is his future – “the minutes, hours, days and years yet to come,” he optimistically said. His intention to be happy and live happily is to be content.

A younger man was cryptic in his answers supplying two sentences to my many questions. “I think you are better off asking the monks you converse with for their thoughts on happiness. Will be more informative than getting lay people’s opinions. (I disagree here. People like to know what other like persons think and feel). His second observation was: “Somewhat facetiously I can say my concept of happiness is being not answerable to anyone, being able to do exactly as I please without being tied down.” Happily unmarried he is!



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South’s ‘structural deficiencies’ and the onset of crippled growth

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In need of empowerment: The working people of the African continent.

The perceptive commentator seeking to make some sense of social and economic developments within most Southern countries today has no choice but to revisit, as it were, that classic on post-colonial societies, ‘The Wretched of the Earth’ by Frantz Fanon. Decades after the South’s initial decolonization experience this work by the Algerian political scientist of repute remains profoundly relevant.

The fact that the Algeria of today is seeking accountability from its former colonizer, France, for the injustices visited on it during the decades of colonial rule enhances the value and continuing topicality of Frantz’s thinking and findings. The fact that the majority of the people of most decolonized states are continuing to be disempowered and deprived of development should doubly underline the significance of ‘The Wretched of the Earth’ as a landmark in the discourse on Southern questions. The world would be erring badly if it dismisses this evergreen on decolonization and its pains as in any way outdated.

Developments in contemporary China help to throw into relief some of the internal ‘structural deficiencies’ that have come to characterize most Southern societies in current times. However, these and many more ‘structural faults’ came to the attention of the likes of Fanon decades back.

It is with considerable reservations on their truthfulness that a commentator would need to read reports from the US’ Office of the Director of National Intelligence (ODNI) on developments in China, but one cannot approach with the same skepticism revelations on China by well-known media institutions such as Bloomberg News.

While an ODNI report quoted in this newspaper on March 25th, 2025, elaborated on the vast wealth believed to have been amassed by China’s contemporary rulers and their families over the years, Bloomberg News in a more studied manner said in 2012, among other things, on the same subject that, ‘Xi’s extended family had amassed assets totaling approximately $376 million, encompassing investments in sectors like rare earth minerals and real estate. However, no direct links were established between these assets and Xi or his immediate family.’

Such processes that are said to have taken hold in China in post- Mao times in particular are more or less true of most former colonies of the South. A clear case in point is Sri Lanka. More than 75 years into ‘independence’ the latter is yet to bring to book those sections of its ruling class that have grown enormously rich on ill-gotten gains. It seems that, as matters stand, these sections would never be held accountable for their unbounded financial avarice.

The mentioned processes of exploitation of a country’s wealth, explain in considerable measure, the continuing underdevelopment of the South. However, Fanon foresaw all these ills and more about the South long ago. In ‘The Wretched of the Earth’ he speaks insightfully about the ruling classes of the decolonized world, who, having got into the boots of the departing colonizers, left no stone unturned to appropriate the wealth of their countries by devious means and thereby grow into the stratum described as ‘the stinking rich.’

This is another dimension to the process referred to as ‘the development of underdevelopment.’ The process could also be described as ‘How the Other Half Dies’. The latter is the title of another evergreen piece of research of the seventies on the South’s development debacles by reputed researcher Susan George.

Now that the Non-aligned Movement is receiving some attention locally it would be apt to revisit as it were these development debacles that are continuing to bedevil the South. Among other things, NAM emerged as a voice of the world’s poor. In fact in the seventies it was referred to as ‘The trade union of the poor.’ Accordingly, it had a strong developmental focus.

Besides the traditional aims of NAM, such as the need for the South to keep an ‘equidistance’ between the superpowers in the conduct of its affairs, the ruling strata of developing countries were also expected to deliver to their peoples equitable development. This was a foremost dimension in the liberation of the South. That is, economic growth needed to be accompanied by re-distributive justice. In the absence of these key conditions no development could be said to have occurred.

Basing ourselves on these yardsticks of development, it could be said that Southern rulers have failed their peoples right through these decades of decolonization. Those countries which have claimed to be socialistic or centrally planned should come in for the harshest criticism. Accordingly, a central aim of NAM has gone largely unachieved.

It does not follow from the foregoing that NAM has failed completely. It is just that those who have been charged with achieving NAM’s central aims have allowed the Movement to go into decline. All evidence points to the fact that they have allowed themselves to be carried away by the elusive charms of the market economy, which three decades ago, came to be favoured over central planning as an essential of development by the South’s ruling strata.

However, now with the returning to power in the US of Donald Trump and the political Right, the affairs of the South could, in a sense, be described as having come full circle. The downgrading of USAID, for instance, and the consequent scaling down of numerous forms of assistance to the South could be expected to aggravate the development ills of the hemisphere. For instance, the latter would need to brace for stepped-up unemployment, poverty and social discontent.

The South could be said to have arrived at a juncture where it would need to seek ways of collectively advancing its best interests once again with little or no dependence on external assistance. Now is the time for Southern organizations such as NAM to come to the forefront of the affairs of the South. Sheer necessity should compel the hemisphere to think and act collectively.

Accordingly, the possibility of South-South cooperation should be explored anew and the relevant institutional and policy framework needs to be created to take on the relevant challenges.

It is not the case that these challenges ceased to exist over the past few decades. Rather it is a case of these obligations being ignored by the South’s ruling strata in the belief that externally imposed solutions to the South’s development questions would prove successful. Besides, these classes were governed by self- interest.

It is pressure by the people that would enable their rulers to see the error of their ways. An obligation is cast on social democratic forces or the Centre-Left to come to center stage and take on this challenge of raising the political awareness of the people.

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Pilot error?

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Wreckage of the trainer jet that crashed in Wariyapola recently

On the morning of 21 March, 2025, a Chinese-built K-8 jet trainer aircraft of the Sri Lanka Air Force (SLAF) crashed at Wariyapola. Fortunately, the two pilots ejected from the aircraft and parachuted down to safety.

A team of seven has been appointed to investigate the accident. Their task is to find the ‘cause behind the cause’, or the root cause. Ejecting from an aircraft usually has physical and psychological repercussions. The crew involved in the crash are the best witnesses, and they must be well rested and ready for the accident inquiry. It is vital that a non-punitive atmosphere must prevail. If the pilots believe that they are under threat of punishment, they will try to withhold vital information and not reveal the truth behind what happened, prompting their decision to abandon the stricken aircraft. In the interest of fairness, the crew must have a professional colleague to represent them at the Inquiry.

2000 years ago, the Roman philosopher Cicero said that “To err is human.” Alexander Pope said, “To err is human. To forgive, divine.” Yet in a Royal Air Force (RAF) hangar in the UK Force (RAF) hangs a sign declaring: “To err is human. To forgive is not RAF policy” These are the two extremes.

Over the years, behavioural scientists have observed that errors and intelligence are two sides of the same coin. In other words, an intelligent human being is liable to make errors. They went on to label these acts of omission and commission as ‘Slips, Lapses, Mistakes and Violations’.

To illustrate the point in a motoring context, if one was restricted to driving at a speed limit of 100 kph along an expressway and the speed crept up to 120 kph, then it is a ‘Slip’ on one’s part. If you forgot to fasten the seatbelt, it is a ‘Lapse’. While driving along a two-lane road, if a driver thinks in his/her judgement that the way is clear and tries to overtake slower traffic on the road, using the opposite lane, then encounters unanticipated opposite traffic and is forced to get back to the correct lane, that is a ‘Mistake’. Finally, if a double line is crossed while overtaking, while aware that the law is being broken, that is labelled as a ‘Violation’. In theory, all of the above could be applied to flying as well.

In the mid-Seventies, Elwyn Edwards and Frank Hawkins proposed that good interaction between Software (paperwork), Hardware (the aircraft and other machines), Liveware (human element) and the (working) environment are the essentials in safe flight operations. Labelled the ‘SHELL’ concept, it was adopted by the International Civil Aviation Organisation. (ICAO). (See Diagram 01)

In diagram 01, two ‘L’s depict the ‘Liveware’, inside and outside an aircraft flightdeck. The ‘L’ at the centre is the pilot in command (PIC), who should know his/her strengths and weaknesses, know the same of his/her crew, aircraft, and their mission, and, above all, be continuously evaluating the risks.

Finally, Prof. James Reason proposed the Swiss Cheese Theory of Accident Causation. (See Diagram 02)

From this diagram we see that built in defences in a system are like slices of Swiss cheese. There are pre-existing holes at random which, unfortunately, may align and allow the crew at the ‘sharp end’ to carry out a procedure unchecked.

Although it is easy and self-satisfying to blame a crew, or an individual, at an official accident investigation, what should be asked, instead, is why or how the system failed them? Furthermore, a ‘just culture’ must prevail.

The PIC and crew are the last line of defence in air safety and accident prevention. (See Diagram 3)

A daily newspaper reported that it is now left to be seen whether the crash on 21 March was due to mechanical failure or pilot error. Why is it that when a judge makes a wrong judgement it is termed ‘Miscarriage of Justice’ or when a Surgeon loses a patient on the operating table it is ‘Surgical Misadventure’, but when a pilot makes an honest error, it is called ‘Pilot Error’? I believe it should be termed ‘Human Condition’.

Even before the accident investigation had started, on 23 March, 2025, Minister of Civil Aviation, Bimal Ratnayake, went on record saying that the Ministry of Defence had told him the accident was due to an ‘athweradda’ (error). This kind of premature declaration is a definite ‘no-no’ and breach of protocol. The Minister should not be pre-empting the accident enquiry’s findings and commenting on a subject not under his purview. Everyone concerned should wait for the accident report from the SLAF expert panel before commenting.

God bless the PIC and crew!

– Ad Astrian

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Thai scene … in Colombo!

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Yes, it’s happening tomorrow, Friday (28th), and Saturday (29th,) and what makes this scene extra special is that you don’t need to rush and pack your travelling bags and fork out a tidy sum for your airfare to Thailand.

The Thai Street Food Festival, taking place at Siam Nivasa, 43, Dr. CWW Kannangara Mawatha, Colombo 7, will not only give you a taste of Thai delicacies but also Thai culture, Thai music, and Thai dancing.

This event is being organised by the Thai Community, in Sri Lanka, in collaboration with the Royal Thai Embassy in Colombo.

The Thai Community has been very active and they make every effort to promote Amazing Thailand, to Sri Lankans, in every possible way they can.

Regarding the happening, taking place tomorrow, and on Saturday, they say they are thrilled to give Sri Lankans the vibrant Thai Street Food Festival.

Explaining how Thai souvenirs are turned out

I’m told that his event is part of a series of activities, put together by the Royal Thai Embassy, to commemorate 70 years of diplomatic relations between Thailand and Sri Lanka.

At the Thai Street Food Festival, starting at 5.00 pm., you could immerse yourself in lively Thai culture, savour delicious Thai dishes, prepared by Colombo’s top-notch restaurants, enjoy live music, captivate dance performances, and explore Thai Community members offering a feast of food and beverages … all connected with Amazing Thailand.

Some of the EXCO members of the Thai Community, in Sri Lanka,
with the Ambassador for Thailand

I’m sure most of my readers would have been to Thailand (I’ve been there 24 times) and experienced what Amazing Thailand has to offer visitors … cultural richness, culinary delights and unique experiences.

Well, if you haven’t been to Thailand, as yet, this is the opportunity for you to experience a little bit of Thailand … right here in Colombo; and for those who have experienced the real Thailand, the Thai Street Food Festival will bring back those happy times … all over again!

Remember, ENTRANCE IS FREE.

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