Opinion
The ‘other’ Dayantha

‘As for man his days are numbered.
As a flower of the field, so he flourisheth.
The wind passes over it, and it is gone,
And the place thereof shall know of him no more?’
That is fate for all of us when we cross the threshold and go beyond the known world. Who knows what lies ahead? No one has come back to tell us what it is all about. All we have is hope and faith and some prospective thoughts about a better life beyond.That is the time for which we have to tally now, how we walk this planet and what merits we acquire when we are doing so. The greater belief is that the sum total would decide where we go from here.
Dayantha was a pedestrian like the rest of us. Way back in 1995 he joined with five of us that included my wife Dil who was his sister, to launch a grass-root organization called AFLAC, ‘Association for Lighting a Candle’. It had a simple purpose to help people in need, irrespective of what race they belonged to and which God they worshiped. Some years later the name AFLAC was changed to CandleAid Lanka, and it functions today as a government approved charity in Sri Lanka. There are more than a thousand volunteers spread all over Sri Lanka and abroad working with CandleAid. The recipients of CandleAid’s assistance come from all districts of Sri Lanka and they are all people who suffer the multiple burdens of poverty.
Dayantha de Mel was a pillar of this organization and gave his best effort and highly committed services to navigate AFLAC/CandleAid from its inception to his dying day in October 2022. A total of 27 long years served without any remuneration whatsoever. Not a cent was ever claimed from the organization for any expense incurred while serving as a Director of CandleAid.
He was an unsung board member among us, who painstakingly handled all the financial matters. It was his responsibility to acknowledge every cent we received as a donation and account for the very same cent that was spent to help the poor. The finances were duly audited by a reputable audit firm and presented in the annual reports of AFLAC/CandleAid giving the maximum visibility of its integrity to whoever supported us.
The spine of CandleAid was its finances, and it was Dayantha who made sure that we were credible from all angles at all times.He was born in Moratuwa and raised in a simple home by humble parents who were honest as the day that dawned. Mr David and Mrs Ethel de Mel were extremely charitable people who knew what it was to love their fellow beings and had no hesitation in sharing what they had with anyone who came to their door. That is where Dayantha learned his lessons of pure charity, the kind that is cloaked in silence.
The ‘other’ Dayantha qualified to follow in his parents’ footsteps in giving to the needy. Those who knew him closely may have seen shades of it that surfaced from time to time, mostly in hushed voices. But I know for sure that a lot of what he did to help people blew away with the wind unannounced and unheralded. What little we know of this ‘other Dayantha’ must be remembered. That is for us, but for him it wouldn’t matter as he was simply following what his mother and father showed him simply by their example.
As for CandleAid, we miss him very much, especially at crucial times when important decisions need be made. We miss his soft approaches and well calculated opinions when dealing with questionable situations to assist marginalized people. He never hesitated to voice his convictions and in the same breath to fold up gracefully if out voted. That trait in him was invaluable to us and sadly such is only perceived in his absence.
The dust settles and memories slowly fade leaving only an imprint of those who have walked with us. My fervent hope is that my reminiscent words will reach some who will recall a memory of Dayantha and snippets of interaction shared with him. He will then be back with us and be among us again.
“Yes, the wind passes over it and it is gone
The place thereof shall remember him some more”.
After all “to live in the hearts you leave behind is but surely not to die.”
Capt Elmo Jayawardena
Founder President
CandleAid Lanka
Opinion
Resolution of grief, not retribution

Ahamed Kathrada, friend and advisor to Nelson Mandela said of Robben Island, where Mandela was imprisoned for close to 30 years, that “While we will not forget the brutality of apartheid, we will not want Robben Island to be a monument to our hardship and suffering.”
Similarly, we do not want our beloved country to be a monument to our suffering. As Kathrada said, we want our country to be a symbol of the triumph of the human spirit against the forces of evil, a triumph of courage and determination over human frailty and weakness. Managing the painful history of this country should be focused on achieving this objective.
Emotions, such as sadness, worry, anger and in some cases, hatred, festering in our society over the past forty years appear now to be reaching boiling point.
Considering my professional background and knowledge of the mind, I am not surprised by that.
Violence is wrong no matter which side it comes from and regardless of its source. However, the bitter truth that emerges when examining the history of the past forty years, even when looking at it from the best possible angle, is that the foundation of the immoral, illegal and violent politics established took root in Sri Lanka, after 1977.
Actions and counteractions of the negative political culture including violence then established, brought nothing but destruction to Sri Lanka.
The bitter truth is that our collective conscience, sensitivities and actions as a nation, are shaped and coloured by this ongoing aggression and violence that equally affected both the South and the North.
The specific period of terror of 1987 – 1989 was focused mainly in the South. Accepting the fact that the majority of those who suffered during this period were Sinhala Buddhists is merely stating the reality; it is not approaching the problem from a narrow, racist or religious perspective.
It should also be added that I myself was a victim of that terror.
The Sinhala Buddhist culture has a distinctive tradition process for alleviating the grief due to a death by holding awake: sharing the pain of loss with those closest to you, and engaging in religious activities specifically in remembrance of the dead person, a sequence of events including offering alms, that provides time to heal.
It is this cultural heritage of managing loss and grief that was taken away from those who lost their lives and their loved ones in 1987- 89. It is only those who have faced such unfortunate experiences who know the compulsion and pain left by that void, where there was no time to process loss and grief. It is time for introspection – for genuine reflection.
With this background as our legacy over multiple generations, we need to pay greater attention to guarding ourselves against the potential response of “identification with the aggressor.” Identification with the aggressor is an involuntary or sub-conscious psychological defence mechanism and a reaction to trauma where the victim who underwent the trauma identifies with and mimics the behaviour of the person who carries out the violence, as a psychological coping mechanism.
Such responses can be seen in, for example, children undergoing abuse, or young people undergoing ragging. The usual reaction one would expect is for the victim to refrain from abuse or ragging. However, contrary to that expectation, research has revealed that the victim displays behaviour similar to that of the person who abused or ragged him/her.
A clear understanding of how is this concept likely to impact the current political climate is critical at this juncture.
Wielding immense political power, politically less experienced and matured social strata may unknowingly become prone to treating their opponents in the same way that the oppressors of the past victimised them. Therefore, the leadership should be sensitive to the potential of former victims almost unknowingly impose past sufferings on current opponents. It is the responsibility of politically enlightened social strata to identify and prevent that situation in advance. It is a moral obligation of all political parties not just the ruling party.
I would like to share a personal experience in this context. Assistant superintended Senaka de Silva was the man who brutally tortured me at the torture camp at Chitra Road, Gampaha, run alongside the Batalanda torture camp.
After my release, I was working as the Head of the Emergency Treatment Unit at the Sri Jayewardenepura Hospital, when the former ASP de Silva brought his niece there for treatment, unaware that I worked there. He was disconcerted to see me and immediately turned back and walked away. I sent the security officer to bring that child back, admitted her to the hospital and did my best to treat her. The thought process and action that I followed that day is what I adhere to date as well. At the time I was only a specialist in family medicine, today, as a professor of psychiatry, I see these events from a much broader point of view.
The force of emotions arising due to pain or injustice can be destructive to society, but it is also possible to divert it into a force for good. For example, the lack of any post-election violence at the Presidential elections of 2024 indicated a commendable positive direction in social movements. Similarly, the dialogue arising around the Batalanda torture camp, too, should be constructive and forward thinking, so that we shall never again see such an immoral political culture in Sri Lanka.
Ahamed Kathrada, friend and advisor to Nelson Mandela said of Robben Island, where Mandela was imprisoned for close to 30 years, that “While we will not forget the brutality of apartheid, we will not want Robben Island to be a monument to our hardship and suffering.”
Similarly, we do not want our beloved country to be a monument to our suffering. As Kathrada said, we want our country to be a symbol of the triumph of the human spirit against the forces of evil, a triumph of courage and determination over human frailty and weakness. Managing the painful history of this country should be focused on achieving this objective.
This does not mean that we have to essentially follow the South African model of truth commission for reconciliation but we do it in a culturally sensitive way that suits us.
As a Nation we all need to understand that situations arise neither to laugh nor to weep, but to learn from past experience.
(The author of this article became a JVP activist as a student in 1977. He was the Secretary of the Human Rights organisation of Sri Lanka in late 1970s and early 1980s. He was known as the personal physician to the late leader of the JVP Rohana Wijeweera.
He was arrested and imprisoned in 1983, but later released without any charge. He was abducted in broard daylight on the 19 July 1988, held in captivity and tortured. He was released in 1990.
An internationally renowned academic, he is an Emeritus Professor of Global Mental Health at Kings College London and Emeritus Professor Keele University. He is also the Director, Institute for Research and Development in Health and Social care and the Chairman of the National Institute of Fundamental Studies.)
by Professor Athula Sumathipala
Opinion
Haphazard demolition in Nugegoda and deathtraps

The proposed expansion of the Kelani Valley railway line has prompted the squatters to demolish the buildings and the above photograph depicts the ad-hoc manner in which a building in the heart of Nugegoda town (No 39 Poorwarama Road) has been haphazardly demolished posing a risk to the general public. Residents say that the live electric wire has not been disconnected and the half-demolished structure is on the verge of collapse, causing inevitable fatal damages.
Over to the Railway Department, Kotte Municipality Ceylon Electricity Board and the Nugegoda Police.
Athula Ranasinghe,
Nugegoda.
Opinion
Aviation and doctors on Strike

On July 19, 1989, United Airlines Flight 232 departed Denver, Colorado for Chicago, Illinois. The forecast weather was fine. Unfortunately, engine no. 2 – the middle engine in the tail of the three-engined McDonnell Douglas DC 10 – suffered an explosive failure of the fan disk, resulting in all three hydraulic system lines to the aircraft’s control surfaces being severed. This rendered the DC-10 uncontrollable except by the highly unorthodox use of differential thrust on the remaining two serviceable engines mounted on the wings.
Consequently, the aircraft was forced to divert to Sioux City, Iowa to attempt an emergency crash landing. But the crew lost control at the last moment and the airplane crashed. Out of a total of 296 passengers and crew, 185 survived.
The National Transportation Safety Board (NTSB) declared after an investigation that besides the skill of the operating crew, one significant factor in the survival rate was that hospitals in proximity to the airport were experiencing a change of shifts and therefore able to co-opt the outgoing and incoming shift workers to take over the additional workload of attending to crash victims.
One wonders what would have happened if an overflying aircraft diverted to MRIA-Mattala, BIA-Colombo, Colombo International Airport Ratmalana (CIAR) or Palaly Airport, KKS during the doctors’ strike in the 24 hours starting March 12, 2025? Would the authorities have been able to cope? International airlines (over a hundred a day) are paying in dollars to overfly and file Sri Lankan airports as en route alternates (diversion airports).
Doctors in hospitals in the vicinity of the above-named international airports cannot be allowed to go on strike, and their services deemed essential. Even scheduled flights to those airports could be involved in an accident, with injured passengers at risk of not receiving prompt medical attention.
The civil aviation regulator in this country seems to be sitting fat, dumb, and happy, as we say in aviation.
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