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Hollymoor Hospital, Northfield

Excerpted from Memories that Linger: My journey in the world of disability
 by Padmani Mendis

A sharp recollection is of my first day at the Hollymoor Hospital, Northfield where I was to have contact with patients who had psychiatric conditions. A nurse led me from the entrance and paused to open a door to a sectioned off part of the hospital with a key. He then led me through a second locked door to a third. On entering what was obviously a lobby area of a ward, he led me directly to a patient who stood absolutely rigid and looked as if he were a statue. The nurse said to me, “This is your patient, Mr. Ex. I will be back for you in half an hour.” With that the nurse disappeared, locking the door behind him.

Now what was I to do? I was scared out of my wits. Gingerly I approached Mr. Ex and tried to have a conversation with him. But Mr. Ex would have none of it. We had learned that life was changing for patients with schizophrenia with the introduction of new medication. But it obviously had not reached Mr. Ex as yet. He would not respond to me. So I stood there for half an hour looking around me in great fear.

There were patients who were just walking to and fro, gesturing “madly”; others who would be moving their bodies in one direction or another, sometimes even turning round in circles; and plenty having conversations seemingly with themselves, conversing with emotion – laughing one moment, angry the next. And then there was one who would not take his eyes off me. I reminded myself, “don’t be silly. You have been told that none of the patients in this ward are violent. None get out of control. Just pull yourself together.” Those 30 minutes were the longest ever.

Happier times were to come during my stint at the Sorrento Maternity Hospital. Antenatal classes, preparing would-be mothers for natural childbirth were joyful; and postnatal physio with those who had just become mothers was rewarding. Catching time to observe the miracle of childbirth in the delivery room was sheer luck.

Similarly, two-weeks were spent at the Patshull Rehabilitation Centre. The Centre was located in Patshull Hall on the very large Patshull Estate. We were told that the house and estate dated back to the 18th century. Patshull Hall was now used to provide intensive rehabilitation to young men to make them ready to go back to the sports that they had come from.

Most of these muscular and burly hulks had had knee surgery. Torn cartilages while doing sports was common and had to be removed. As a student I was here to experience what intensive rehabilitation was; this was to be learned by joining the young men in such strenuous activities as playing football and walking and running many kilometres a day. I did not learn this through participation with them as I was expected to. Instead, I learned through observation.

Holiday Time was Fun Time

And in between all these periods of learning came holidays. Time for fun and a different kind of enjoyment. Let me share a few as they surface in my consciousness. A week in Aberdeen over the Scottish New Year or Hogmanay, was one of my earliest while studying in Birmingham. It was arranged as a group vacation by the British Council located in the city centre. The Scottish family that hosted me made me a part of their family from the time they met me. On New Year’s Eve, after a traditional dinner which had, of course, to include Haggis and Turnips, they took me ‘first footing”.

As we approached each house, I had to be at the front so that the hosting family would see me first. Why? Because seeing a dark face was a good omen! A toast of sherry was a must in each home visited. Very soon my head was turning around. I don’t recall how that night ended.

The next day we were at a gathering in the Town Hall, being hosted by the Mayor. Now, in our group were two Russians, a total novelty in the UK because Russians had just started stepping out. One of these two was particularly good looking with an attractive personality and was an instant hit. I was a novelty too in my colourful saree and brown skin. The two of us were soon paired off. We were standing on either side of the Mayor when called for, interviewed together and at the centre of photographs. This continued for the rest of our holiday. Now why do I remember that young man’s face so clearly as I write this? Where is he now at 85 years of age or thereabouts?

Then there was the week on the Norfolk Broads in the East of England. The summer vacation was coming to us at Belmont. Eight of us made plans for a holiday together on the water, on the Norfolk Broads – none of us had been to that part of England before. We booked a houseboat that would accommodate us all.

We made plans to get there and soon we were off. Joyce, Gerry, Gill and Jackie decided they would hitch-hike their way there. Barbara, Mahin and I took the train – we were not used to asking strangers for a ride. Lyda was driven there by her boyfriend Lew who came back later to collect her. The four on the road were lucky with their thumbs and had good rides so all eight of us arrived at the houseboat more or less together.

The next day we were lazing around on deck wondering how we could get around the Broads. Our houseboat was moored. We could not afford a motorised one. But not for long did we have to wonder. Soon enough, alongside came a boat on which were four happy and loud young men. They saw a group of young women on another boat and knew their holiday was made. It turned out later that they were cameramen for the BBC.

They were soon enough on board our boat. And soon enough too they had more or less paired off with our native friends. We had our ride on the waterways for the rest of the week. The boys took us around and we provided their food. Scrabble and other board games while sailing during the day; in the evenings it would be a drink at the pub nearby and a sing song or charades at night. A good arrangement and one that made for an exceptional holiday, sailing the waterways.

Later, the eight of us would have a caravan holiday together at Beer in Devon on the south coast. Yet another way of life and another experience. One fun memory was the eight of us hitching a ride to the city of Exeter on the south-east tip of England. A farmer and his truck on their way to Exeter was kind to us, stopping to take us all the way. Mahin and I had the privilege of riding in the front seat on account of being elders. The other six had to perch themselves on the bales of straw being carried by the farmer to the fair in town. Rather precarious, but safe.

One year, Mahin, Jen and I went to Guernsey on the Channel Isles. We wanted a restful holiday. After getting off the boat, we walked around for a while and found a hotel to suit us. To save money we booked a room for three; Mahin and Jen shared a bed while I had one to myself. We would spend our days walking around the island and on its beaches, sitting down occasionally at a café for a coffee and to watch the passers-by. One day we went to the island of Sark. No motorised vehicles are allowed on Sark. We hired a horse cart for the day and were driven to all the hot spots of Sark. We did not see the Dame of Sark who at that time made many of the decisions that had to be made about her island.

Another day we took the boat to Herm and collected sea shells on the beautiful beach. We lay on that beach in the sun. When we got up to leave I held my forearm against Jen’s. She said “Oh Padi, you have got a tan. I didn’t think you could.” After that whenever my friends sat in the sun, I would always find a shady spot to lie in. It was a quiet week and we were back at Belmont refreshed.

Space for a last memorable holiday. This one was in the Scilly Isles off Exeter at the south-east corner of England to where as I said we had hitched a ride. This too was arranged by the British Council. I felt safe going on holidays arranged by them when I had decided to go alone. The isles only export was flowers and this attracted me.

What I am left with are memories of unending fields of flowers. Fields of yellow daffodils, of white and of yellow narcissi, and of tulips in their myriad of colours. Memories of staying with the only dentist serving the islands and his lovely wife; a young, warm and generous couple. They took me to see the flowers close at hand, to see them being plucked, packed and made ready for their journey to many parts of Europe. Their destiny.

To Their Homes with Friends

As I look back on those holiday memories, they come merged with the joyous visits to the homes of the many friends who took me to meet their families. Elizabeth took me to her home on a farm near Warwick for a weekend. The long drive was lined with apple trees all covered with white blossom. So was the area around the house covered with similar trees. Mrs. Surman and Elizabeth took me out the next day. We passed their horses grazing in the meadow. They lifted their heads in greeting when they heard the motor and tossed their tails to say hello.

Mrs. Surman stopped her car at our destination, way out on a country road. “Look, Padi,” she said. I turned my head only to see a sheet of blue. And just then that blue sheet swayed gently in the breeze that blew over it, as if to wave at me. “Oh, bluebells,” I said. She replied, “Yes, this is a Bluebell Wood.”

On another weekend, Jen took me home to West Kirby in Cheshire to meet her father, Vicar McTear, her mother and two younger sisters. Gill took me to meet her father Colonel Brysson, her mother and young sisters in Liverpool. Jan took me to meet her family to Shrewsbury in Shropshire. Beryl took me home to spend an evening with her family not far away in Walsall, Birmingham. Her parents were green grocers and they lived above their shop. I came away with a generous bag full of plums and apricots, and later as it turned out, chicken pox. A special gift from her young brother.

Rosemarie Mapp took me home to meet her farmer father and her mother. And her young brother who would one day inherit that huge farm. Like at Elizabeth’s farm, this too was plentiful with apple trees. This time they were laden with fruit. I told Mrs. Mapp that I loved apples. I had never seen an apple-laden tree before and had always wanted to pick one straight off for a bite. Could I please do that?

And so it went on and on. They all gave me beautiful memories to live with.

Overcoming Loneliness

On certain days when I was still at Woodlands, I would have a day off while my friends would all be working. Such days were often lonely. I had to get out somewhere to get rid of that feeling. Many a day I spent walking in the parks and around town. On many other days, I would take the short train ride to Stratford-on-Avon and reflect on the Bard. How could one man have produced all that brilliant writing? I would at times repeat to myself, “Friends, Romans, Countryman…” and “Is this a dagger I see before me? Come, let me clutch thee…” as my brothers had taught me when I was still quite young.

When it was the season, I would go straight to the theatre and buy a ticket for the afternoon matinee to be performed by the Royal Shakespeare Company. What was on stage did not matter, they could all be enjoyed. I would next buy myself a sandwich and a packet of crisps and sit by the River Avon watching the swans swim by. Until it was time to go to the theatre for the performance.

One particular lonely day I thought I had to do something different. So I dressed in my Sunday best – in a soft Dacca cotton in peacock blue, put my hair up, wore my heels and took the bus to the Birmingham Zoo way across on the side of town. I was not alone for long. As I was strolling around, I noticed that an elderly couple was looking my way. They appeared to be talking about me. The gentleman had a complicated looking camera hung around his neck.

Then they had decided. They came up to speak to me. It appeared that he was a professional photographer. He was on an assignment for Kodak, testing a new colour film. Could he take some photographs of me with which his film could be tested? Yes of course he could. We spent the rest of the day together. When it was time to go our separate ways, he took down my address and said he would send me some photos. Which he did. And I sent them to my mother.



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Welcome bid to revive interest in Southern development issues

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Southern development issues making a comeback; the RCSS forum in progress

From the global South’s viewpoint the time could not be more appropriate to re-explore the possibility of forging ahead with realizing its long neglected collective development aims. It would seem that over the past three decades or more the developing world itself has allowed its outstanding issues to be thrust onto the backburner, so to speak, of the global development agenda.

Maybe the South’s fascination with the economic growth models advanced by the West and its apex financial institutions enabled the above situation to come to pass. However, time has also made it clear that the people of the South have gained little or nothing from their rulers’ fixation with the ‘development’ paths mapped out for them by Western financial institutions which came to prioritize ‘market-led’ growth.

At this juncture it is crucial that the more informed and enlightened sections among Southern publics come together to figure out where their countries should ‘go from here’ in terms of development, correctly defined. It is gladdening to note that the Regional Centre for Strategic Studies, Colombo (RCSS) has got down to this task.

On November 3rd, the RCSS launched its inaugural ‘RCSS Strategic Dialogue’ under the guidance of its Executive Director, Ambassador (Retd.) Ravinatha Aryasinha, under the theme, ‘Research Priorities for the Global South in Challenging Times’, and the forum was led by none other than by Dr. Carlos Maria Correa, the Executive Director of the Geneva-based South Centre, an institution that has played a pivotal role in Southern development and discourse over the decades.

Among the audience were thought leaders, diplomats, senior public servants, development experts and journalists. In what proved to be a lively, wide-ranging discussion issues at the heart of Southern development were analyzed and a general understanding arrived at which ought to stand the South in general and Sri Lanka in particular in good stead, going forward.

A thought-provoking point made by Dr. Carlos Correa was that the ‘US is helping India and China to come closer, and if India and China work together, the global economy and politics could change dramatically.’ He was referring to the tariff-related trade strife that the US has unleashed on the world and the groundwork that it could lay for the foremost Asian economic powers, India and China, to work consensually towards changing global trade terms in particular in favour of the global South.

The Asian powers mentioned could easily achieve this considering that they could hold their own with the US in economic terms. In other words there exists a possibility of the world economy being shaped in accordance with some of the best interests of the South, provided the foremost economic powers of the South come together and look beyond narrow self- interests towards the collective good of the South. This is a challenge for the future that needs taking up.

China sought to identify itself with the developing world in the past and this could be its opportunity to testify in practical terms to this conviction. In view of the finding that well over 40 percent of global GDP is currently being contributed by the major economies of the South, coupled with the fact that the bulk of international trade occurs among Southern economies, the time seems to be more than right for the South to initiate changes to the international economy that could help in realizing some of its legitimate interests, provided it organizes itself.

The above observation could be considered an important ‘take-away’ from the RCSS forum, which needs to be acted upon by governments, policy makers and think tanks of the developing world. It is time to revisit the seemingly forgotten North-South and South-South Dialogues, revive them and look to exploiting their potential to restructure the world economic system to suit the best interests of all countries, big or small. There are ‘research priorities’ aplenty here for those sections the world over that are desirous of initiating needed qualitative changes to the international economy for the purpose of ushering equity and fair play.

An important research question that arises from the RCSS forum relates to development and what it entails. This columnist considers this question a long- forgotten issue from the North-South Dialogue. It is no longer realized, it seems, that the terms growth and development cannot be used interchangeably. Essentially, while ‘growth’ refers to the total value of goods and services produced by a country yearly, ‘development’ denotes equity in the distribution of such produce among a country’s population. That is, in the absence of an equal distribution of goods and services among the people no ‘development’ could be said to have occurred in a country.

From the above viewpoint very few countries could be said to have ‘developed’ in particularly the South over the decades since ‘political independence’; certainly not Sri Lanka. In terms of this definition of development, it needs to be accepted that a degree of central planning is integral to a country’s economic advancement.

Accordingly, if steady poverty alleviation is used as a yardstick, the global South could be said to be stuck in economic backwardness and in this sense a hemisphere termed the ‘South’ continues to exist. Thanks to the RCSS forum these and related issues were raised and could henceforth be freshly researched and brought to the fore of public discussion.

We have it on the authority of Dr. Carlos Correa that a 7000 strong network of policymakers is at the service of the South Centre, to disseminate their scholarship worldwide if needed. The South would be working in its interests to tie-up with the South Centre and look to ways of advancing its collective interest now that it is in a position to do so, considering the economic clout it carries. It is time the South took cognizance fully of the fact that the global economic power balance has shifted decisively to the East and that it makes full use of this favourable position to advance its best interests.

The New International Economic Order (NIEO) of the sixties and seventies, which won mention at the RCSS forum, needs to be revisited and researched for its merits, but the NIEO was meant to go hand-in-hand with the New International Information Order (NIIO) which was birthed by Southern think tanks and the like around the same time. Basically, the NIIO stood for a global information order that made provision for a balanced and fair coverage of the affairs of the South. Going forward, the merits of the NIIO too would need to be discussed with a view to examining how it could serve the South’s best interests.

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BBC in trouble again!

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BBC is in trouble again; this time with the most powerful person in the world. Donald Trump has given an ultimatum to the BBC over a blunder it should have corrected and apologized for, a long time ago, which it did not do for reasons best known, perhaps, only to the hierarchy of the BBC. Many wonder whether it is due to sheer arrogance or, pure and simple stupidity! Trump is threatening to sue the BBC, for a billion dollars in damages, for the defamation of character caused by one of the flagship news programmes of the BBC “Panorama” broadcast a week before the last presidential election.

BBC is the oldest public service broadcaster in the world, having commenced operations in 1922 and was once held in high esteem as the most reliable broadcaster in the world due to its editorial neutrality but most Sri Lankans realized it is not so now, due to the biased reporting during Sri Lanka’s troubled times. By the way, it should not be forgotten that the Sri Lanka Broadcasting Corporation is the second oldest public broadcaster in the world, behind the BBC by only three years, having commenced operations as ‘Colombo Radio’ on 16 December 1925; it subsequently became ‘Radio Ceylon’. It soon became the dominant broadcaster of South Asia, with a Hindi service as well, and I wonder whether there are any plans to celebrate the centenary of that great heritage but that is a different story.

The Panorama documentary titled “Trump: A Second Chance?” was broadcast on 28 October, days before the US presidential election held on 5th November 2024. No one, except the management of the BBC, was aware that this programme had a doctored speech by Trump till the British newspaper The Telegraph published a report, in early November, stating that it had seen a leaked BBC memo from Michael Prescott, a former independent external adviser to its editorial standards committee, sent in May. This memo pointed out that the one-hour Panorama programme had edited parts of a Trump’s speech which may convey the impression that he explicitly encouraged the Capitol Hill riot of January 2021. In fact, this is what most believe in and whether the editors and presenters of Panorama purposely doctored the speech to confirm this narrative remains to be seen.

In his speech, in Washington DC on 6 January 2021, what Trump said was: “We’re going to walk down to the Capitol, and we’re going to cheer on our brave senators and congressmen and women.” However, in Panorama he was shown saying: “We’re going to walk down to the Capitol… and I’ll be there with you. And we fight. We fight like hell.” The two sections of the speech that were edited together were more than 50 minutes apart and the “fight like hell” comment was taken from a section where Trump discussed how “corrupt” US elections were.

There is no doubt that Trump is very lax with words but that does not mean that the media can edit his speeches to convey a totally different meaning to what he states. The moment the memo was received, from its own advisor, the senior management of the BBC should have taken action. The least that could have been done is to issue a correction and tender an apology to Trump in addition to punishing the errant, after an inquiry. One can justifiably wonder whether the BBC did not take any action because of an inherent prejudice against Trump. Even if not so, how the events unfolded makes the BBC appear to be an organization incapable of monitoring and correcting itself.

In fact, a news item on 9 November in the BBC website titled, “Why is Donald Trump threatening to sue the BBC?”, referring to the memo states the following:

“The document said Panorama’s “distortion of the day’s events” would leave viewers asking: “Why should the BBC be trusted, and where will this all end?”. When the issue was raised with managers, the memo continued, they “refused to accept there had been a breach of standards”.

From these statements, it becomes very clear that all that the senior management wanted to do was a cover-up, which is totally inexcusable. After the expose by The Telegraph the BBC had been inundated by public complaints and faced criticism all round resulting in the resignations of the Director General and the Head of News. To make matters worse, the Chairman of the Board of Directors stated that he was planning to tender an apology to President Trump. If he had any common sense or decency, he would have done so immediately.

Worse still was the comment of the head of international news who tried to justify by saying that this sort of editing happens regularly. He fails to realise that his comment will make more and more people losing trust in the BBC.

Some are attempting to paint this as an attempt by those against the licence-fee funding model of the BBC to discredit the BBC but to anyone with any sense at all, it is pretty obvious that this a self-inflicted injury. Some legal experts are advising the BBC to face the legal challenge of Trump, failing to realise that even if Trump loses, the BBC would have to spend millions to defend. This would be the money paid as licence fees by the taxpayer and the increasing resistance to licence fee is bound to increase.

Overall, this episode raises many issues the most important being the role of the free press. British press is hardly fair, as newspapers have political allegiances, but is free to expose irregularities like this. Further, it illustrates that we must be as careful with mainstream media as much as we are with newly emerging media. When a respected organization like the BBC commits such blunders and, worse still. attempts to cover-up, whom can we trust?

by Dr Upul Wijayawardhana

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Miss Universe 2025 More ‘surprises’ before Crowning day!

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Unexpected events seem to have cropped up at this year’s Miss Universe pageant and there could be more ‘surprises’ before the crowning day – Friday, 21st November, 2025, at the at the Impact Challenger Hall, in Pak Kret, Nonthaburi, Thailand..

First, the controversy involving the pageant’s Thai Director and Miss Mexico, and then the withdrawal of some of the contestants from the 74th Miss Universe pageant.

In fact, this year’s pageant has has kept everyone on edge.

However, I’m told that Sri Lanka’s representative, Lihasha Lindsay White, is generating some attention, and that is ecouraging, indeed.

While success in the pageant is highly competitive and depends on performance during the live events, let’s hope Lihasha is heading in the right direction.

Involved in an unpleasant scene

The 27-year-old Miss Universe Sri Lanka is a businesswoman and mental health advocate, and, according to reports coming my way, has impressed with her poise, intellect, and stage presence.

Her strong advocacy for mental health brings a message of substance and style, which aligns with the Miss Universe Organisation’s current emphasis on impact and purpose beyond just aesthetics.

Lihasha has undergone rigorous training, including catwalk coaching, under internationally acclaimed mentors – Indonesia’s Putra Pasarela for runway coaching; and the Philippines’ Michelle Padayhag for Q&A mastery – which, I’m told, has strengthened her confidence and stage presence.

Pageant predictions are speculative and vary widely among experts. While some say there is a possibility of Lihasha tbreaking into the semi-finals, there is no guarantee of a win.

Ultimately, the outcome will be determined during the competition events, including the preliminary show, national costume segment, and the final night, where Lihasha will compete against representatives from over 100 countries.

Maureen Hingert: 2nd Runner-up in 1955 / Miss Mexico: Stood up for women’s rights

While Sri Lanka has not won the Miss Universe crown before, Maureen Hingert was placed as the 2nd Runner-up in 1955.

Lihasha Lindsay White is a dedicated candidate with a strong personal platform, and her performance in the remaining preliminary events, and at the final show, will determine Sri Lanka’s chances this year.

The competition, no doubt, will be fierce, with contestants bringing diverse backgrounds, preparation methodologies, and cultural perspectives.

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